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My immediate family suffered a tragedy about 1 1/2 years ago. The pain was so unbearable for me that I stayed in privacy of my bedroom for several days. I did not want to interact with my husband or anyone else. Processing the situation took all my mental energy; thus, I was "unable" to speak or converse. My husband called my employer to explain my absence. I know that some family, friends, coworkers and acquaintances did not understand why I was not receptive to their efforts at comforting, and I am grateful to husband for fielding those calls. Thus, I guess I qualify as one of those people who would rather their husband be somewhere else during grief processing too. Interestingly he also needs solitude to reflect on tragedy.
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Was my email snarky?
annandatje replied to anotherbrother's topic in General Education Discussion Board
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A Picture from the Curling Club
annandatje replied to astrid's topic in General Education Discussion Board
I am so sorry for what you, your husband, and friends are going through. It is hard to deal with pointless destruction. -
do you believe mutliple personality is real
annandatje replied to Jeannie in NJ's topic in General Education Discussion Board
A beautifully written play that examines cultural interpretations of mental illness is Blue/Orange. If I recall correctly, it does not touch on DID/MPD. The psychiatric patient in play believes he is Idi Amin's son. -
Whoever successor is, hopefully the transition will be peaceful.
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do you believe mutliple personality is real
annandatje replied to Jeannie in NJ's topic in General Education Discussion Board
:iagree: Similar sequences of events have transpired to create repressed memories and past lives. It is the same erosion from reason to hysteria that brings us travesties like the McMartin Preschool case or our own local preschool tragedy where a woman's family was destroyed by ridiculous allegations, an overzealous prosecutor, and gullible jurors. The shame in this case was that every link in the criminal justice system failed the accused woman at every juncture. Three and four years old made outlandish claims that they were taken away from preschool in airplanes for satanic abuse. It truly was a modern day witch hunt even though the convictions ultimately were overturned. Of course horrible evil child abuse occurs regularly but a false conviction fails everyone, most of all the victims. People develop coping mechanisms to deal with abusive situations but I have my doubts that MPD is an authentic stand alone disorder. I thought that MPD (multiple personality disorder) was removed from DSM-IV but maybe I am mistaken. -
Watch out, your neti pot can kill you.
annandatje replied to Mergath's topic in General Education Discussion Board
Thanks for the posting that. I've always just used tap water even though instructions recommend distilled water or boiled tap water. -
Help me with my grocery bill, pretty please!
annandatje replied to BMW's topic in General Education Discussion Board
Right now Aldi's has 10 lb. potatoes for 1.99. You could make a double batch of mashed potato casserole. Fry the leftovers in butter for potato pancakes. They also have pineapples for 99 cents again. Black bean soup is a good option for lunch and dinner. Pair it with crusty French bread and either a garden salad or a raw vegetable plate. -
I think you have formulated a logical and reasonable exit strategy. Not all problems can or should be solved immediately. Striving toward financial independence is important, especially when marital foundation is shaky. You a strong person who will be able to withstand the situation until you can leave it. Meanwhile, I would remain steadfastly mum about my intent to leave, nix major purchases, insist upon frugality, stash money aside, and, if time permits, find hobbies or activities that you can enjoy without the spouse or children. You will need that type of thing when you leave your marriage, so laying the foundation will help you ease into single motherhood later on. Knowing that you have a plan hopefully will help you to find peace and comfort.
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Christopher Hitchens Dead
annandatje replied to Spy Car's topic in General Education Discussion Board
:iagree: It is a sad day at our house for his passing. He rated "celebrity" status in our home. -
Mini Rant Grandma's will totally excludes DH
annandatje replied to cin's topic in General Education Discussion Board
:iagree: Although it is more common to divide assets equally among living children and the issue of deceased children, some decedents do indeed choose to leave only to the first generation below them. If the estate was large, could it have had something to do with avoiding generation skipping transfer tax? Although it is rare, sometimes if the other heirs are aware of the hurt feelings of the heirs who were not named in will, they may be willing to agree to redivide assets in a manner that the decedent may have intended. -
Reducing carbohydrates upped my energy level too.
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Does he have an apartment or a residence hotel where you and your son could commute to Tulsa with him at least once in awhile?
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I have Lupus and Graves Disease/Hyperthyroid
annandatje replied to hmschooling's topic in General Education Discussion Board
Could your husband homeschool the 10 and 7 year olds in the evening so that their education does not suffer? -
Would you take a pet mouse to the vet?
annandatje replied to PhotoGal's topic in General Education Discussion Board
Generally we have had poor results with taking small mammals to vet. It is hard to tell they're sick until they're almost gone anyway. However, we did indeed take a pet rat to vet for a lump behind its ear. It turned out to be an abcess and easily treatable. The rat pleasantly lived out its life span. -
Of course I have not started. It is only the 15th so I have T E N more days. In fact, I have to purchase an outfit for a shindig that begins in about 22 hours. Plenty of time to find the perfectly gorgeous attire. When my children were younger and wanted specific gifts, I was much more organized and tried to be finished by end of first week in December. None of them are really into Christmas anymore beyond putting up a tree, riding around to view light displays, visiting with friends, and doing some sort of charitable project.
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Your post made me smile ... not for your trials but for the braggy letter. A step-relative of mine developed a habit of sending what we call the annual "We're better than you " letter :001_smile:. It actually became part of our Christmas tradition a few years for the familly to gather around while I read the letter. My husband was the comedic interpreter who would delve into the dark underbelly of the whitewashed depiction of a swimmingly perfect-as-TV suburban family. We referred to them as Lord and Lady ______. Unwittingly they gave us a big gift of laughter.