Guest 4boys Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 So here is my next question: Has anyone decided they were done and then not done anything permanent about it? And are not planning to in the future? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LunaLee Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Umm yep that would be here. Except until something is permanently done about it, I can't guarantee there will be no oops-a-baby, but we aren't planning on anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest janainaz Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 We are not doing anything permanent. No plans to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Yes. I have a Mirena IUD - I'm on my second - which is very effective, but of course nothing is guaranteed. I'm 45, so I'll need at least one more IUD, if not two. Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AuntieM Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 we know we are done due to advanced maternal age and complicated pregnancies. Babies 2 & 3 were twins, so I have a vertical incision in my uterus, and dear baby #4 decided to lay transverse for a good bit of my pregnancy - not a good setup. Don't wanna do that again. If we had started younger, I think I could have handled about 5 kids max, based on my personal temperament and energy level. As far as permanent prevention, well.... since I've had two c-sections, a vaginal birth (with a, whaddayacallit, class 4 episiotomy?) as well as a miscarriage, I've let hubby know that I feel strongly it is *his* turn to take one for the team. So I don't personally plan to do anything about it. That said, I don't feel I can nag him into it. But it's been pretty boring around here lately, if you know what I mean... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestof3 Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 We fit that description. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree House Academy Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Yep...that is us! We have not done anything permanent, nor do we really ever plan to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathmom Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 We would not ever do something permanent, as it is against our religion. Also, since our reason for not having more could change (finances) we might at some future point decide that we would like to have more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaKinVA Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I can't say 100% that we're done... but we're not planning on anything permanent.... We are going to be a LOT more cautious though. DH has said that if I felt really strongly about it, he'd "take one for the team." But, I feel funny, being "this close" to a natural end to the cycle to go there now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keptwoman Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 Yep. We currently are sticking with the Mirena. Although it's getting kind of tempting to get DH to have a Vas. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mazakaal Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I'm not 100% sure that I don't want any more kids, so we haven't done anything permenant, but I discussed it with dr. last year after my 4th miscarriage. I was really annoyed that he suggested that I should have a procedure instead of dh because a vas. could cause long term pain. I've had monthly pain for nearly 30 years. I had 4 full-term pregnancies, natural childbirth, with no meds for the last 3 deliveries, and 4 miscarriages, 2 of them requiring a d&c, 1 of those involving hemorraging, and 'I' should be the one to have major surgery instead of dh having outpatient because a vas. 'may' cause long-term pain. Hello! I still have menopause to look forward to! Boy, was I pissed off at that dr. when I left his office. At least it wasn't dh making that suggestion. I probably would have clobbered him. Sorry. That was kind of off topic. I just had to vent. Anyway, nothing permentant done so far, but still considering it in the back of my mind. I would, of course, go to a different dr. though! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 We've done nothing permanent. Our inability to have any more children is from natural causes. We were lucky to get the one we have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ancora_Imparo Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 We haven't done anything permanent. Dh refuses to mess with anything and he doesn't want me to do it either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veritaserum Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 I have a Mirena IUD. While we're feeling done right now (5 kids 8 and under), we don't know what the future holds. What if we change our minds? Also, dh is completely freaked out about vasectomy and I have no desire to undergo a tubal ligation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ali in OR Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 We believe that we are done, but I have a strong aversion to doing anything to permanently prevent the possibility. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 We would not ever do something permanent, as it is against our religion. Same here. Our reasons for not desiring more children include fatigue, lack of energy, feeling overwhelmend, and, most importantly, health issues. We are, however, open to possibility of our situation changing (even though, at age 45, that window is getting smaller.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted January 7, 2009 Share Posted January 7, 2009 That's us! With three younguns', we're tapped out :) Neither of us, however, are willing to undergo any procedures. It is even more complicated, because my mom had breast cancer with hormone receptors. IOW, she got breast cancer from taking estrogen. So! I don't take any pills or anything with hormones. Oh, and he's allergic to latex! Woohoo! So, we don't plan on anymore, but the BC options in the house are severely limited and we aren't willing to get cut. Let's see how long this lasts! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ereks mom Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Dh & I are both 48yo, and we still use b/c, but no permanent fixes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela H in Texas Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Well, I am done not by my own wishes (secondary infertility). However, even if it were by my own wishes, I would not do anything to prevent it as it's against my beliefs... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 We would not ever do something permanent, as it is against our religion. Also, since our reason for not having more could change (finances) we might at some future point decide that we would like to have more. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phathui5 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 After four children, I feel like our family is complete, but I'm not comfortable having anything permanant done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sharon H in IL Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Nothing. I'm 46 and my mother entered menopause at 40, so I don't think I'll be fertile much longer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiegirl Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 I am 46 years old so I guess we are done. We haven't done anything permanent and I don't think we will considering that I am going through menopause right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Well I'm 29 today and will be having our last in less than three weeks. We both KNOW we don't want to do this pregnancy thing again, but somehow the idea of disconnecting the system doesn't feel right. Dh sees it as unnecessary surgery. For me it's more of a feeling than a thought. I guess it's because I'm only 29 and really would like more kids. I just don't want to assemble them myself. Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyable Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 We would not ever do something permanent, as it is against our religion. Also, since our reason for not having more could change (finances) we might at some future point decide that we would like to have more. Same here, although finances isn't our reason. But like Cathmom, it's possible we could change our minds in the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie12345 Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 As we speak, I am recovering from emergency surgery to remove a ruptured ectopic conceived on the Mirena IUD. We are 90% sure we don't want any more pregnancies. If we decide to adopt, we know we won't want any more pregnancies. Still, we're not sure about sterilization. After 4 births and having one tube taken, *I* will not be messing around with my insides anymore. Dh is willing to do the vas, but I think we'll be waiting a few more years, just to make sure we don't change our minds. Because we HAVE changed our minds twice before! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Inna* Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 Yes. We're saving money for the vasectomy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tutor Posted January 8, 2009 Share Posted January 8, 2009 We aren't planning on birthing any more (of course, we didn't "plan" three of our four, either, so... :001_smile: ). We would love to adopt someday... when we can afford it. Trying to get out of debt first (by late spring, maybe?). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bookmomma Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 We both agree we don't want any more, but you never know what the future will bring. We have two boys and our little girl. Pregnancies have been very easy for me and I believe in natural childbirth. I have short labors too (I know you will all hate me for this--my sister does). But lack of financial resources, lack of energy, and the desire to be more mobile some day keep us repeating the mantra, "no more for us." I will not do any surgeries to my body. My husband said that he would take on the responsibility when the time came, since I carried and delivered the babies, but we have yet to see that day. I think we'll wait another ten years to be really sure. For now, the IUD is a good choice. I don't do well on birth control, so mine doesn't have the hormones. Quick easy procedure. No extra schedules to worry about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kat19 Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 I didn't write anything in the other thread, but I thought I was done having kids.. My husband and I hadn't be doing anything to prevent pregnancy for years and years so I just assumed we were done since it wasn't happening. Low and behold we now have a 9 month old that is such a blessing to our family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzanne in ABQ Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 (edited) We were done after our second. We had a boy and a girl. I was 35yo. We were done. But, we didn't "do" anything about it. We sold all the baby stuff except the crib because I "knew" that if I got rid of the crib, I'd get pregnant. Finally, six years later, when I was 41, I gave the crib to our niece. We were done, after all! I was pregnant within a month! We were blessed with our little bundle of joy when I was 42. Last year, I did something about it (got an IUD). Now, we're done. :) Moral: If your done, do something about it. ;) Edited January 9, 2009 by Suzanne in ABQ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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