Shelydon Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 My DD is going to college this fall as a 19 yo junior. I would like for her to read a book or two on personal safety on a college campus. Any suggestions? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheReader Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 I don't know of any books, but the college will very likely cover a great deal of this in their mandatory orientations, either in person or as videos/online training. Both our boys had to go over stuff like that. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 Has she read The Gift of Fear? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 She could read “Missoula” as a cautionary tale. Seriously, it has a lot of details about true events that would help avoid them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 I don't know about books but I would encourage her not to be drinking where she does not know everyone Well and it is a safe environment. Alcohol clouds judgement and puts girls at higher risk of assault. Not saying it is right, just that it is. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 The Gift of Fear 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 Chiming in with my hearty recommendation for The Gift of Fear. Absolutely the very best book out there on the topic of personal safety 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East Coast Sue Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 As others have said- The gift of Fear snd I think another is Protecting the Gift (which as I recall is good for parents too) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted July 30, 2021 Share Posted July 30, 2021 See if her university police department offers a self defense class. My local one offers it for free to the community, for women only. It was very helpful! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelydon Posted July 30, 2021 Author Share Posted July 30, 2021 10 hours ago, ktgrok said: Has she read The Gift of Fear? No, but that is a good idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelydon Posted July 30, 2021 Author Share Posted July 30, 2021 3 hours ago, Rachel said: See if her university police department offers a self defense class. My local one offers it for free to the community, for women only. It was very helpful! She has taken self defense fortunately. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelydon Posted July 30, 2021 Author Share Posted July 30, 2021 8 hours ago, Ottakee said: I don't know about books but I would encourage her not to be drinking where she does not know everyone Well and it is a safe environment. Alcohol clouds judgement and puts girls at higher risk of assault. Not saying it is right, just that it is. Super fortunately, she doesn't drink. I personally can't stand the taste of alcohol. My kids seem to have inherited this. DH is a wine fanatic and we have introduced wine to the kids and they all hate it much to DHs disappointment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klmama Posted July 30, 2021 Share Posted July 30, 2021 1 hour ago, Shelydon said: Super fortunately, she doesn't drink. I personally can't stand the taste of alcohol. My kids seem to have inherited this. DH is a wine fanatic and we have introduced wine to the kids and they all hate it much to DHs disappointment. She doesn't drink now, but she may discover she likes mixed drinks at college. It would be better she go in knowing not to drink alcohol with people she doesn't know well and not to leave her beverage unattended anywhere, whether it has alcohol or not. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted July 30, 2021 Share Posted July 30, 2021 7 hours ago, klmama said: She doesn't drink now, but she may discover she likes mixed drinks at college. It would be better she go in knowing not to drink alcohol with people she doesn't know well and not to leave her beverage unattended anywhere, whether it has alcohol or not. It's hard to be only with people you know well. I'm starting to think students might need to take their own drink in a cup with a lid to parties. Many years ago we had a woman in our college bible study that had a drug dropped in her beer in a small dorm room gathering. 😞 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelydon Posted July 30, 2021 Author Share Posted July 30, 2021 3 hours ago, Starr said: It's hard to be only with people you know well. I'm starting to think students might need to take their own drink in a cup with a lid to parties. Many years ago we had a woman in our college bible study that had a drug dropped in her beer in a small dorm room gathering. 😞 This is not a bad idea. You'd have to find a cup with a lid that is hard to get off though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooCow Posted July 30, 2021 Share Posted July 30, 2021 The Gift of fear. I give it to all the young women I know. I also wanted to do a reading group to talk about it if they "don't have time to read it". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted July 30, 2021 Share Posted July 30, 2021 13 hours ago, klmama said: She doesn't drink now, but she may discover she likes mixed drinks at college. It would be better she go in knowing not to drink alcohol with people she doesn't know well and not to leave her beverage unattended anywhere, whether it has alcohol or not. And while it may seem obvious (“don’t take candy from strangers”), accepting a breath mint from someone at a party or bar can be risky as well. Tic Tacs, etc. Better to go over all of it in advance. There should be something addressing this on campus, though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted July 30, 2021 Share Posted July 30, 2021 2 hours ago, Shelydon said: This is not a bad idea. You'd have to find a cup with a lid that is hard to get off though. That's actually brilliant!!! There are those trendy insulated cups/bottles. And those lids take a minute to get off, it isn't a one handed quick thing. 10 minutes ago, Spryte said: And while it may seem obvious (“don’t take candy from strangers”), accepting a breath mint from someone at a party or bar can be risky as well. Tic Tacs, etc. Better to go over all of it in advance. There should be something addressing this on campus, though. Ok, I never thought of that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted July 30, 2021 Share Posted July 30, 2021 (edited) My big disasters happened when I was drinking, and thought I was safe because I had a friend or a few friends with me. But...they were drinking too. So didn't notice me dissappear. The other time they thought I was going willingly, that I really liked the guy. Having a pact ahead of time that no one leaves with anyone else is important. Edited July 30, 2021 by ktgrok Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted July 30, 2021 Share Posted July 30, 2021 1 minute ago, ktgrok said: That's actually brilliant!!! There are those trendy insulated cups/bottles. And those lids take a minute to get off, it isn't a one handed quick thing. Ok, I never thought of that. Unfortunately, it happens. Yikes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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