5kidsforME Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 Dh and I are supposed to go to his work Christmas party tonight. My 5 yo and 4yo both had fevers today one had 100.9 and the other 101.2 We are supposed to have a new babysitter tonight. She had been sick earlier in the week and has been on antibiotcis all week. She is 14 years old. Both dc have asthma and she may or may not need to give them a breathing treatment. She would have to determine if one was necessary. I have tried calling the babysitter and her mother to no avail yet. Would you still go? or stay home with the kiddos and cancel the babysitter? TIA! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 You know, if it was an adult (like Grandma or a family member who might be familiar with the breathing treatments) then I would leave them home and go to the party. But the fact that she's only 14 would be a big worry for me. I would stay home with the kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snickelfritz Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I would cancel this particular sitter. Do you have a family member that could babysit? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bumbledeb Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 We'd stay at home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted December 5, 2008 Author Share Posted December 5, 2008 I would cancel this particular sitter. Do you have a family member that could babysit? No. We don't. I am fine with staying home but dh is not happy about it. Sometimes I think (some) men just don't get it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plain jane Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I would stay home as well. 14 is young to have to deal with breathing treatments and that would put a lot of stress on the young girl. Can you find another adult to babysit? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mazakaal Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I would stay home. Unless this 14yo has proven to have a very good sense of judgement, far beyond her years, I wouldn't put her in a position to have to decide on whether or not to administer a breathing treatment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 Dh and I are supposed to go to his work Christmas party tonight. My 5 yo and 4yo both had fevers today one had 100.9 and the other 101.2 We are supposed to have a new babysitter tonight. She had been sick earlier in the week and has been on antibiotcis all week. She is 14 years old. Both dc have asthma and she may or may not need to give them a breathing treatment. She would have to determine if one was necessary. I have tried calling the babysitter and her mother to no avail yet. Would you still go? or stay home with the kiddos and cancel the babysitter? TIA! I'd stay home. I'm sorry. I hope you weren't really looking forward to it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Country Mouse Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 Chiming in to say I'd stay home for sure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
akmommy Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I'm with everyone else. If it were just the fever I'd probably go, but with the complication of asthma and possible need for breathing treatments absolutely not. I don't think it would be fair to the 14 yo to put that on her, and she probably doesn't have the knowledge or experience to know when a breathing treatment would be needed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hillary in KS Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I would stay home and have dh go alone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kris Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I'm with everyone else. If it were just the fever I'd probably go, but with the complication of asthma and possible need for breathing treatments absolutely not. I don't think it would be fair to the 14 yo to put that on her, and she probably doesn't have the knowledge or experience to know when a breathing treatment would be needed. :iagree: Yeah -- lots of ifs: "if asthma wasn't and issue" and "if the sitter was a little older" or "if she had more experience" -- I tend to kind of roll with the punches, but in this situation? Even I would stay home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mad Jenny Flint Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 Have him go and make an appearance, with apologies and an explanation. Things happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
battlemaiden Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I would stay home and have dh go alone. I agree. Shouldn't your husband go ahead? We have to do this a lot. It reminds me of the scene in Persuasion where the husband wants to go to the dinner when his son had fallen out of the tree.... I'm sometimes tempted to fuss at having to stay with the children, but it's "not his providence" :D. Jo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyof4ks Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I'd stay home. Asthma can be quite dangerous very quickly, but then my asthmatic can go from a slight cold to pneumonia within hours. If the babysitter were not 14, then perhaps I would trust someone else to administer a treatment and watch for escalating infection, but I would not saddle a 14 year old with that responsibility nor would I want my child to make that kind of call if she were the 14 year old baby sitting. Hopefully the kiddos feel better soon, and just have dh go to the party alone. We have done this several times when the kids get sick at the last minute. Sometimes it can't be helped. UGH, it stinks when they get sick around the holidays. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I would stay home and have dh go alone. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lorna Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I would stay at home. I have been that 14 year old baby sitter and the children are bound to wake up through the night and be a lot more sensitive to not having mommy there. It is traumatic for both little children and young person. Have your husband go with your blessing to have fun, then have a special Christmas evening out when the little ones are better. I am sad for you though - we don't get that many chances for nights out as mothers...:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sleepy Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I would stay home and have dh go alone. :iagree: I hope your littles are feeling better soon. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jojomojo Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 You had me at the fevers. I'd stay home for that, but then again, I don't want to go (dh's is tomorrow lol). But with everything else, even if I wanted to go, I think I'd feel more comfortable staying home too. Hope your kiddos are feeling better soon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kate CA Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I am sorry your littles are ill. I would send along my dh though and I would stay home. Hugs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tracey in TX Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I would encourage DH to attend his party while I tended to my sick children. A babysitter unfamiliar with the children and breathing treatments isn't a good option when the DCs aren't feeling well. Hope they feel better soon.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caryn Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I'm sorry to hear that. If it were for me, I would also choose to stay home. Caryn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovedtodeath Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 My DH said that he would want me to stay home. If it was just fevers he might let me leave them with my mom, but that would still be unlikely. He would not leave them with anyone other than my mom for the fevers, and only me with the breathing treatments. 4 and 5 are very young and they want their mommy when they are sick. I am so glad that my DH is sensitive to our children's feelings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jamnkats Posted December 6, 2008 Share Posted December 6, 2008 Not even a question in my mind. The fever (assuming the kids were also feeling unwell - sometimes kids can run fevers and be just fine) would be cause enough for me to stay home. (sitting in bed now with a 9yo and 7yo who were sick all night, crying from headache pain) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinmom Posted December 6, 2008 Share Posted December 6, 2008 I wouldn't leave even the most responsible 14 yr old sitter home to do breathing txs on my asthmatic twins. It's a lot to ask of a child, IMO. Tell DH to go on without you and stay home. You'll have peace of mind that way, and no pressure will be put on an already sick/recovering teen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted December 6, 2008 Author Share Posted December 6, 2008 I stayed home with my guys. Dh went to the party late, because he got home from work late. DH totally understood and had just been having a really crappy day and was bummed that I wouldn't be going with him. Thanks all for your thoughts! As you can see it is late, or early here, just gave my ds 5 a breathing treatment. Fortunately I didn't have to all night though until now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted December 6, 2008 Share Posted December 6, 2008 Cancel the sitter, stay home yourself, and let hubby explain that you had to stay home with two sick little kids. People will understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovedtodeath Posted December 6, 2008 Share Posted December 6, 2008 DH totally understood and had just been having a really crappy day and was bummed that I wouldn't be going with him. Understandable. We do that to each other too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lorna Posted December 8, 2008 Share Posted December 8, 2008 I stayed home with my guys. Dh went to the party late, because he got home from work late. DH totally understood and had just been having a really crappy day and was bummed that I wouldn't be going with him. Thanks all for your thoughts! As you can see it is late, or early here, just gave my ds 5 a breathing treatment. Fortunately I didn't have to all night though until now. Thanks for the update, it is nice to know all went fine. Get well soon all of you and have a lovely Christmas. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted December 8, 2008 Share Posted December 8, 2008 Glad all is well Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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