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  1. Skye is gorgeous, I'm sure you will love it. Hope you get good weather. It does rain a lot on Skye but you can have a good holiday even in the rain and at least the rain keep the midges away. :)
  2. My two girls, 9 and 5, are similarly inseparable. I don't think it's a problem - I'm glad for them. They have someone there all the time to talk with and play with. I hope it's a relationship that lasts for their whole lives. Your girls sound lovely.
  3. Yes, Scottish through and through:) I think your daughter will love her graduation present.
  4. Twenty minutes from where I grew up. In fact, now I come to think of it, twenty minutes from where my Mum was born and grew up too.
  5. That was a brave post of yours over in the 'Rude Adults' thread. Well said!

  6. :grouphug::)Thank you Carmen, for your kindness.:):grouphug:

  7. Hi, I voted on your blog and picked a few reasons, including 'other'. I started out homeschooling for various reasons but the longer I've been doing it, the more reasons I've found to continue. One of the biggest for me is that I just think it's healthier for families to spend the bulk of their time together, learning, working and living as a family unit.
  8. Having given it some thought, I think perhaps that it comes down to the difference between bad manners and intolerable behaviour. What is bad manners (and in my opinion should be ignored) in one person's eyes may be intolerable behaviour in another person's eyes and would warrant intervention. The line between the two may be different for different people.
  9. No. I fully acknowledge that the child should not behave this way. The child's behaviour was wrong, ill-mannered. Children (and other people) are often wrong. The child should have been instructed as to what are or are not acceptable manners, by his parents. My point is, again, that it is the child's parents' duty to carry out this instruction. A child displaying bad manners in one's home should be treated (I think) in the same way that an adult displaying bad manners should be treated. Sticking to issues of manners only and not potentially dangerous or destructive behaviour (fo
  10. I don't think I do have terribly strong opinions on this particular matter, but I do have opinions. I meant to say that I would not be up in arms if another adult corrected the manners of one of my children. I would not confront the parent or anything. I wouldn't lose sleep over it. I didn't think this thread was about parenting. It is about manners. I think most of what I have said would apply in a situation where it was an adult guest displaying an ignorance of good manners. I do believe children should be taught good manners. By their parents.
  11. I think, (in fact I know because we've discussed it) that my children understand that different families have different standards and that just because other children don't always show the same good manners that my children do that doesn't make bad manners OK. There is no mixed message. They are also learning how to be polite hosts. The pool example is something different from manners though. The safety of a visiting child IS your responsibility (though their manners are not, in my opinion).
  12. Just so you know, although I'm fine with it in my own house, my children, even the youngest, are well aware that it is NOT good manners to jump on other people's furniture. And as far as I know they never, ever have. If they did, I wouldn't be deeply offended or anything if their host reminded them of their manners. It's not an issue that I have terribly strong feelings about. But I would never want to make a guest feel embarrassed in my home.
  13. Well, as I said, I had a picture of small children jumping on the sofa - I don't think it would be an issue with an older child. I personally don't mind if small children jump on the sofa - especially if they are visitors and will be leaving soon :lol: so I'm trying to imagine some other thing they could be doing that I WOULD mind. The point I keep getting hung up on is that manners are manners regardless of age and that it is bad manners to point out some other person's bad manners. I'm not necessarily saying a good host would 'just let them do it', but that a good host would fin
  14. I do not believe that the host has any greater responsibility to be polite than does the guest. In my opinion, both guest and host should display good manners. When either guest or host are impolite the other should continue to be as polite as possible and this would include not drawing attention to the bad manners of the other. The only possible difference I would allow for the age of either guest or host would be to say that it would be all the more important for the adult to show good manners, taking into account the lack of experience of the child, and the possible advantage
  15. They should already know. Their parents should have made sure they knew this was bad manners before they ever let them be a guest in someone else's home. If the host corrects a guest's manners it is a clear indication that the host believes the guest's manners are lacking. To express this belief is bad manners on the part of the host, I believe. I'm not sure if the same approach definitely applies, since hitting a dog is somewhat more than simple bad manners, I think. However, for the sake of the discussion, if we consider hitting dogs to be bad manners comparable to bad table ma
  16. I love living right where I am. (Scotland) I feel safe, secure and happy and everything is just the way I want it. I wouldn't even like to live in a different county. :) To experience different cultures, we watch the TV.;)
  17. I understand your point of view - I've often heard things put this way. To be honest, if a visiting child was jumping on the sofa I wouldn't say anything. If they were hitting the dog I'd view that as a safety issue and would remove the dog. In fact the expression "In our house we __________" implies a criticism of what goes on in the guest's house, I think, and as such it is a phrase I would avoid. It comes back to my own manners. It is not good manners to humiliate someone, or imply that they are ignorant or ill-bred.
  18. I think that I expect that a child's parents will have explained what kind of behaviour is expected in someone else's home. I would imagine that it would be similar to the behaviour expected in the child's own home. If a visiting child were to do something in my home that I simply couldn't tolerate, perhaps something dangerous for example, I would say something. Not sure exactly what, it would depend upon the exact circumstance. I would try to leave the child feeling that I had been helpful and informative, not that I had been drawing attention to a failure in their upbringing. I woul
  19. Looks like we all agree that it is good if people will eat as wide a variety of foods as possible, and include as many portions of vegetables as possible. It is also good when people exhibit polite behaviour, consideration for their host, and acceptable table manners. I think most of us agree that it is up to a person's parents to bring about these behaviours in their children. I think it is inappropriate to try to train other people's children, most especially when they are guests in our home. Our own manners we have control over. Having guests is a good opportunity to pra
  20. :iagree: Sorry, Colleen, but I have to agree with Anne here. There is no doubt the boy showed bad manners and if I was his mother I would feel embarrassed and ashamed. One often overlooked aspect of good manners is that it is VERY bad manners to draw attention to another's bad manners.
  21. Hope you enjoy your breaks. We just had one and I thoroughly cleaned the whole house and got loads of seeds planted in my tiny greenhouse - it was so refreshing and I feel invigorated and raring to go! Do you plan to visit Skye? Dh and I went there on our honeymoon and camped wild in a one-and-a-half-man tent. Cosy!:lol:
  22. Hi there, and welcome! I found this on RaisingKids.co.uk - hope it helps. There are other sources of information on a Google search for home education legal Scotland
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