JeneralMom Posted November 13, 2012 Share Posted November 13, 2012 DS9 asked me if we were going to have beer and pizza after this baby is born like we did after DD3 was born (at home). I explained to him that I was going to have to go to the hospital this time. He asked if I had to have a c-section and when I said "yes" he wanted to know why. I explained that I had a really big cyst that might make labouring at home more dangerous (it is so big, if it burst it will require an emergency c-section because uterus will flood with blood) and that I needed to have it taken out. I also said that I was going to have tubes tied. Well, he absolutely freaked out. I thought it was because he was scared about me going in for surgery, but turns out it is over the tubal. Somehow in his cosmology he has come up with the idea that there are just babies out there waiting to be born and somehow if I have my tubes tied the babies who have been waiting to be born into our family for "soooooo looooooong" will just dissipate and cease to exist. He does actually know and understand how babies are made and we are not a religious family, this idea is just something he has come up with and will not be convinced otherwise. He cries so hard at the idea. Would you go into all the reasons that your decision is final or just break his heart and say "this is our decision and it is final?" It is hard for me because I would have more but DH is done. DH's reasons make perfect sense (age, finances, time, energy, etc). Everyone I've spoken to in real life (who know DS9) says we should just go ahead and have one more, but I don't think that will satisfy him. He's always said he wants 10 brothers and sisters. I feel so bad for my poor baby but I cannot let my reproductive decisions be dictated by a 9 and a 7 year old (oh yeah, DS9 has recruited DS7 to his side, so I am getting it from both of them, and the girls are chiming in too - they claim DH and I have been out voted). I actually yelled "my uterus is not a democracy" at them yesterday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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