BakersDozen Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 Please tell me there are others who do not celebrate your wedding anniversary! We've been married 15 years (today...I think) and have not once celebrated. I hate anniversaries, personally. I don't like the pressure of setting aside a day/night to remember something that isn't a good memory for me (not that I'm not glad to be married to my dh but I was almost 6mo pg, it was a "shotgun" wedding, I didn't like my dh AT ALL when I married him...not a good date in my mind). Even if my wedding was a good memory I still am not the kind of person to focus on an event once/year. If that event involves the expectation of teA then I rebel big time (told dh when we got married to not even think about celebrating Valentine's Day!). Every year I tell myself before Xmas that I will do something special (that doesn't involve teA) and every year the date comes and goes. Dh is the same although he will at least say "Happy Anniversary" at about 10:30pm before bed. Am I a horrible person for just not caring about things like this?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mejane Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 We've never made a big deal out of it. We both completely forgot once, and only remembered when we got a card from someone. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OregonNative Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 No, your not a horrible person! I know other couples like this. I could care less if if we celebrate V'day. My DH usually get me roses and the kids boxes of chocolate:) My DH is a hopeless romantic-I'm not:001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 We sometimes celebrate, but it's not a huge deal for us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amira Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 Please tell me there are others who do not celebrate your wedding anniversary! We've been married 15 years (today...I think) and have not once celebrated. I hate anniversaries, personally. I don't like the pressure of setting aside a day/night to remember something that isn't a good memory for me (not that I'm not glad to be married to my dh but I was almost 6mo pg, it was a "shotgun" wedding, I didn't like my dh AT ALL when I married him...not a good date in my mind). Even if my wedding was a good memory I still am not the kind of person to focus on an event once/year. If that event involves the expectation of teA then I rebel big time (told dh when we got married to not even think about celebrating Valentine's Day!). Every year I tell myself before Xmas that I will do something special (that doesn't involve teA) and every year the date comes and goes. Dh is the same although he will at least say "Happy Anniversary" at about 10:30pm before bed. Am I a horrible person for just not caring about things like this?? My circumstances are rather different from yours, but I don't think we've ever done anything for our anniversary. I've never felt horrible for not caring. I don't think my husband does either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nelko26 Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 Not at all :001_smile:. DH and I have been happily married for 12 years and never once celebrated our anniversary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 Until one child was born on our anniversary, we would always forget our anniversary! Sometimes till the day after, sometimes till that evening...LOL! We laugh about it. Now we just celebrate that child's birthday. We aren't worried about our anniversary. To be honest, I never got why people always got sooooo uptight if someone didn't plan a surprise for the anniversary and why is it always expected of the men, and not the women, to perform that duty. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 mine comes and goes every year and the only way I remember is that I have one cousin who is a faithful card sender-she calls my anniversary card my yearly 'reminder'. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SquirrellyMama Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 Please tell me there are others who do not celebrate your wedding anniversary! We've been married 15 years (today...I think) and have not once celebrated. I hate anniversaries, personally. I don't like the pressure of setting aside a day/night to remember something that isn't a good memory for me (not that I'm not glad to be married to my dh but I was almost 6mo pg, it was a "shotgun" wedding, I didn't like my dh AT ALL when I married him...not a good date in my mind). Even if my wedding was a good memory I still am not the kind of person to focus on an event once/year. If that event involves the expectation of teA then I rebel big time (told dh when we got married to not even think about celebrating Valentine's Day!). Every year I tell myself before Xmas that I will do something special (that doesn't involve teA) and every year the date comes and goes. Dh is the same although he will at least say "Happy Anniversary" at about 10:30pm before bed. Am I a horrible person for just not caring about things like this?? I don't think you are horrible but would your dh like to celebrate your anniversary. I understand that it isn't a good memory but maybe you can celebrate the fact that what started out as an awful day has become something better 15 years later. Your anniversary doesn't have to involve teA even if you choose to celebrate it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OLG Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 Right there with you! It's a bit more difficult when surrounded by folks that make a big deal of these things but so be it. No need to feel guilty or different in my book. Mary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 We use it as an excuse to go out to eat at a really nice restaurant. We do not exchange gifts or cards. Valentines Day is a moot issue. It's DH's birthday, and we celebrate birthdays by... guess... going out to eat at a nice restaurant! Again, no gift exchanges or mushy cards. We like to eat out. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 Two years ago dh and I both forgot what day our anniversary was. We called my brother and SIL to wish them a happy anniversary on what we thought was theirs. It wasn't - theirs was 2 days later. Uh oh...we thought that day was OUR anniversary. So, when was ours?!?!? I had to go dig up the marriage license to check - it was the day before and we had already missed it!:lol: Sometimes we celebrate, sometimes we don't - it doesn't matter much. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 Coming up on 25 years and we don't 'do' holidays/anniversaries/birthdays. We're just not celebration people. I'd rather just do something when the mood strikes. I kind of don't understand the people who get all put out if they aren't the center of attention on their birthday, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elise1mds Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 We might use it as an excuse to get a babysitter and go on a date, but we don't really make a big deal out of it. Besides anything else, I consider anything between June 4 and July 1 our anniversary since we technically had two wedding dates. Long story. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AngieC Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 Nope, we do nothing to celebrate and never have. Two years ago we both forgot until a week later and then got a good laugh out of it when I finally remembered. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 We just celebrated our 24th. Dh makes a point of remembering. Our celebration is just lunch or dinner out together. That's it--no gifts or anything. This year, though, after lunch we did include a trip to Target for school supplies. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Punchie Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 Nope. We don't really celebrate it. He's been deployed for a good chunk of them, so we haven't gotten in the habit. Our last anniversary was spent in a lactation consultant's office. Does that count? ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kwickimom Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 I only remembered my anniversary last year because FACEBOOK told me :lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dangermom Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 Hey, today is my 15th anniversary too! :D We usually try to go out for dinner. Two years ago I'm pretty sure it was at Burger Hut. Tonight it's going to be Chipotle burritos and a movie at home--we are broke. We've never done anything more exciting than that, and that's pretty much OK (though once we thought it would be neat to go on an Alaskan cruise so we could see the Northern Lights, but then we found out how much a cruise costs :svengo:). By the time we get through with October and November birthdays, Thanksgiving, and Christmas, we're too tired to do anything! We don't do Valentine's day at all, except for the kids. However, your relationship is YOURS. If you don't wanna do anything for your anniversary, don't. Why feel guilty if everyone is happy? Don't let others make you feel guilty for what you're happy with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annandatje Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 On our last anniversary, my husband asked me what day it was, and I responded with the day of the week. When he replied that he meant what was the date, I told him the date without realizing it was our anniversary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 I don't think anybody has to celebrate much of anything if they don't want to, & I'm not sure what teA has to do with holidays/celebrations. That said, I think it's nice to celebrate anniversaries & birthdays. Both are remembering the birth of something new & beautiful. Both are important to others than just those immediately involved. Sometimes the early angst surrounding weddings/family/whatever went wrong softens with time. Sometimes not. I like remembering who we were when we got married & seeing how we've changed, how we haven't, & how amazing it is that we chose each other then and now. If I didn't like him now, I could see not wanting to celebrate. If I had come from a place of not liking him to liking him, though...well, that seems like a miracle to me. Worth celebrating. But I'm also of the philosophy that life is short, & we should spend more time celebrating & noticing the good that's in our lives than...well, I don't know, than just doing the mundane. I think it's too easy these days to not make time to pause & reflect & rejoice. But I don't think that doing so has to look the same for everybody. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tabrett Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 Nope. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~cindy~ Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 We don't celebrate it either :) I love my husband dearly and he me, but we have no need to set aside a special day to celebrate. I will clearly state that it is one of the many things I don't understand;):001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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