Barb_ Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 I'm bleeding and cramping across my back and my temps have dropped a full degree today. But I'm having my usual pregnancy symptoms like nausea, intense hunger pangs and a 2 hour nap. I've miscarried before at around 11 weeks, but all my symptoms disappeared weeks earlier that time. I'm 12 weeks and 3 days today. You know, if this is a miscarriage, I think I'll be okay. I've been richly blessed with children and these things happen. But I dread telling dh and the kids. They are all so involved this time. I guess that's why I'm on here. Thanks for letting me blab on. Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Praying for you. I certainly hope that it is a false alarm. You sound like you will handle things fine if it is a miscarriage but I'm sure it would be tough on you and your family nonetheless. Let us know how you are doing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janna Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Oh, Barb. (((Hugs))) I am so sorry. I don't know exactly what that means, but I am wondering if you've called your Dr.? Maybe there's something they can do to stop it? I don't know, but I would be calling or paging my Dr. asap, or at least heading to the ER. Please keep us updated. I'm so sorry you're going through this! (((HUGS))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in Orlando Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 ((((Barb)))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted March 11, 2008 Author Share Posted March 11, 2008 Oh, Barb. (((Hugs))) I am so sorry. I don't know exactly what that means, but I am wondering if you've called your Dr.? Maybe there's something they can do to stop it? I don't know, but I would be calling or paging my Dr. asap, or at least heading to the ER. Please keep us updated. I'm so sorry you're going through this! (((HUGS))) No, I'm just going to do the watch and wait thing for a few days. If it is a miscarriage, there's nothing to be done and if it's not, it's just a lot of wasted time and energy in the ER. Not to mention germs :::shudder::: I'm really hoping it's just a false alarm, and if that's the case I'd rather not put everyone through the wringer over it. Thanks for the hugs, everyone. It's nice to know you guys are out there. Nite. Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 You are in my prayers tonight. Please keep us updated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom2legomaniacs Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 prayers for you dear (((barb))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Praying for you--wishing I had something to offer.... ((Barb)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Oh Barb. I'll wait and pray with you. I sure hope this has a good outcome. I admire your "wait and see" approach. When this happened to me, I was at the midwife's office asking for a sonogram ASAP. ((((hugs)))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basketmaker Amy Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 (((Barb))) Prayers for you and your family. Please see a doctor and keep us posted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DIY-DY Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 No, I'm just going to do the watch and wait thing for a few days. If it is a miscarriage, there's nothing to be done and if it's not, it's just a lot of wasted time and energy in the ER. Not to mention germs :::shudder::: I'm really hoping it's just a false alarm, and if that's the case I'd rather not put everyone through the wringer over it. Thanks for the hugs, everyone. It's nice to know you guys are out there. Nite. Barb I hope you got some rest last night. You're in my thoughts and prayers this morning, Barb. {{hugs}} Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
claire at home Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 I just wanted to say I was shocked when I read your title, as I am in the exact same boat. I started bleeding Friday night and cramping lightly on Saturday. Then it seemed to stop and then it came back with a vengeance yesterday afternoon. It may have already happened. I am afraid to go to the bathroom. I am going into the eleventh week. This is my third pg. I am like you. I feel I can handle it, but the waiting it out is so hard. It is also going to be so hard to tell the kids as they are so excited. It is the vascillation between hope and no hope that is killing me. If this is going to happen, let's get it over with already and let me deal with it. To top it all off, my oldest's birthday is today. I feel like this is just too much to hold: celebrating the birth on one while losing another. Anyway, just wanted to share your ARRGH! claire Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sophia Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Praying for Barb and Claire. Waiting is the worst part. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doran Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 ...Yuck. That's just crummy, and I'm really sorry you're in this situation. That anxious feeling of not knowing is the worst. I'm honored to hold you in my heart today. Whatever happens, know that you can find support here in whatever way you'd like to have it. {{{Barb}}} Doran Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PariSarah Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Take care of yourself. I'm hoping for the best for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doran Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 ...It is the vascillation between hope and no hope that is killing me. If this is going to happen, let's get it over with already and let me deal with it. To top it all off, my oldest's birthday is today. I feel like this is just too much to hold: celebrating the birth on one while losing another. Anyway, just wanted to share your ARRGH! claire Hugs to you, dear. Wrap your heart around that oldest child as you celebrate all the good there. That may help you get through the waiting you're forced into now. I'll be thinking of you. Doran Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DIY-DY Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 ...I feel I can handle it, but the waiting it out is so hard. It is also going to be so hard to tell the kids as they are so excited. It is the vascillation between hope and no hope that is killing me. If this is going to happen, let's get it over with already and let me deal with it. To top it all off, my oldest's birthday is today. I feel like this is just too much to hold: celebrating the birth on one while losing another. Anyway, just wanted to share your ARRGH! claire I'll echo Doran's thoughts. Hug that sweet birthday child once for me, too. I'm wishing you some peace and tons of love today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Barb and Claire - hugs and prayers for both of you. God holds you and your precious little ones in His hands. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted March 11, 2008 Author Share Posted March 11, 2008 Oh Claire, I'm so sorry...the timing for you is really rotten. It *is* weird, going on with the day like nothing is happening, but wondering. My bleeding stopped last night after I posted, but I still have the dull ache across my back, so I seem to be a few days behind you. Please do let us know when you have closure one way or another. To everyone, thank you for messages. I'm not brave to wait it out, I'm a coward. I'd rather put off knowing as long as possible and I'd just rather keep things private until it's no longer possible, kwim? I will post when I know something for sure. Barb I just wanted to say I was shocked when I read your title, as I am in the exact same boat. I started bleeding Friday night and cramping lightly on Saturday. Then it seemed to stop and then it came back with a vengeance yesterday afternoon. It may have already happened. I am afraid to go to the bathroom. I am going into the eleventh week. This is my third pg. I am like you. I feel I can handle it, but the waiting it out is so hard. It is also going to be so hard to tell the kids as they are so excited. It is the vascillation between hope and no hope that is killing me. If this is going to happen, let's get it over with already and let me deal with it. To top it all off, my oldest's birthday is today. I feel like this is just too much to hold: celebrating the birth on one while losing another. Anyway, just wanted to share your ARRGH! claire Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted March 11, 2008 Author Share Posted March 11, 2008 Oh, sweetie! Do you do herbal remedies at all? Eliana, I will PM you...thank you Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mamagistra Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Thinking of you and praying for you both, (((Barb and Claire))). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkle Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 (((Barb))) and (((Claire))), praying for both of you, and hoping for a good outcome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
magistramom Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 ((((hugs and prayers)))) Could be a tear in the placenta. Get it checked out ASAP. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HomeOnTheRanch Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 {{{Barb}}} and {{{Claire}}} I'm praying for both of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colleen Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 You've been on my mind all day, (((Barb)))... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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BizyPenguin Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 If either of you is reading this post and still are not sure if you've miscarried, let me offer a glimmer of hope. When I was 13 weeks pregnant with my now 2 year old dd, I experienced cramping that intensified over a few days and then some heavy bleeding and clotting one evening around dinner time. I thought for sure I had miscarried, but to my astonishment, the ER doctor found a wiggly little baby in utero. The day before the heavy bleeding I found out that I had a degenerating fibroid tumor right outside of my uterus, which was causing all of the pain. (I could not even stand up the pain was so bad.) My pregnancy was labeled a "threatened miscarriage" and I was put on modified bed rest for about a week. I was told that the bleeding was probably a result of the degenerating fibroid and since it was not progressive (I was no longer bleeding in the ER) and the baby was still alive and well, they were somewhat hopeful. I prayed and rested and the pain subsided. I had to have some follow up ultra sounds, but all was eventually well. I know this was *my* experience, but I just wanted to offer a glimmer of hope. I also experienced two early miscarriages prior to my dd's birth, so I know how you're feeling. Hugs and prayers to you both. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArwenA Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 (((((Claire))))) (((((Barb))))) hugs and prayers to both of you. Please keep us updated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy loves Bud Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 Barb and Claire, I was just checking in to see how you both are. I'm praying for the two of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
percytruffle Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 (((Barb and Claire))). Prayers for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marie in Oh Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 Hoping the best for both of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
claire at home Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 Thanks for all of your hugs and prayers. I'm off to the OB at 11:00. This is so hard for me. I had both of my other dc at home with a midwife who is still encouraging me to wait it out. But there has been no change and its been five days. No real increase in bleeding, but no decrease either. There are definitely cramps and clots, but not what I would think would be the full passing of the baby. (oh, I hate writing that). So maybe I am giving in, but I just feel that all is not well and I'm going in for an ultrasound. Will keep you posted. Barb, how are you today? claire Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin in Tx Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 Oh, Barb... I am so sorry to hear this! I hope and pray everything is okay. (((Barb))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 (((Barb & Claire))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melinda in VT Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 Thanks for all of your hugs and prayers.I'm off to the OB at 11:00. This is so hard for me. I had both of my other dc at home with a midwife who is still encouraging me to wait it out. But there has been no change and its been five days. No real increase in bleeding, but no decrease either. There are definitely cramps and clots, but not what I would think would be the full passing of the baby. (oh, I hate writing that). So maybe I am giving in, but I just feel that all is not well and I'm going in for an ultrasound. Will keep you posted. Barb, how are you today? claire In my case, I went in to the OB early in the process, and they were able to confirm that it was a blighted ovum. (An egg had fertilized and implanted, but never developed into a fetus.) It took about 10 days, if I remember right, for all of the bleeding to stop. {{Claire}} Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole not in CA Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 (((Barb))) and (((Claire))), I am praying for both of you. I'm sorry that you are experiencing this right now. The uncertainty and waiting must be so difficult. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doran Posted March 13, 2008 Share Posted March 13, 2008 ... I just feel that all is not well and I'm going in for an ultrasound. Will keep you posted. Barb, how are you today? I'm hoping you were given some real information today, and if the news was not good, I'm so sorry. These situations are so hard. Thinking of you, Claire -- and of Barb. Doran Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TCoppock Posted March 13, 2008 Share Posted March 13, 2008 Barb- I am glad to hear that the bleeding has stopped for you. I will pray that the rest of your pregnancy is uneventful. Claire- I am praying that the OB is able to provide you with some kind of closure. I know the horrible feeling of not knowing one way or another. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted March 13, 2008 Share Posted March 13, 2008 Just checking on you. Hoping your appt today was good news. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted March 13, 2008 Author Share Posted March 13, 2008 Thanks for all of your hugs and prayers.I'm off to the OB at 11:00. This is so hard for me. I had both of my other dc at home with a midwife who is still encouraging me to wait it out. But there has been no change and its been five days. No real increase in bleeding, but no decrease either. There are definitely cramps and clots, but not what I would think would be the full passing of the baby. (oh, I hate writing that). So maybe I am giving in, but I just feel that all is not well and I'm going in for an ultrasound. Will keep you posted. Barb, how are you today? claire Claire, I was just checking in to see whether you had any news. I hate to hear it isn't good. Please post or PM me when you feel up to it. I'm feeling cautiously hopeful. I had a lot of cramping today but no more bleeding. I had an experience like this one about 10 years ago in the 12th week...bleeding, then nothing for 5-6 days, then full out bleeding for 2-3 days. It was obvious when I lost the baby. Then again, my temps haven't really dropped I hope means my progesterone is still high. My husband left a message with the head of radiology at his hospital (he's the CFO, not a doc) to see if he'll order an ultrasound for me and bypass the OB's and ED. I'll share all this with my midwife once I have one, but I'm still in the process of interviewing and choosing. I'll post if there are any developments. Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted March 13, 2008 Author Share Posted March 13, 2008 I was told that the bleeding was probably a result of the degenerating fibroid and since it was not progressive (I was no longer bleeding in the ER) and the baby was still alive and well, they were somewhat hopeful. Stacy, this does make me feel hopeful as I've been told in the past that I have fibroids. My grandma, mom and maternal aunt all had hysterectomies in their early 40's due to fibroids. I will be certain to mention this once I go for my first full appointment. Thank you for mentioning it. Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyAberlin Posted March 13, 2008 Share Posted March 13, 2008 When I've had bleeding in my pregnancies like that they have put me on progesterone and it stopped the bleeding. My first pregnancy was a miscarriage. I bled with the next 2 pregnancies, but like I said the progesterone stopped the bleeding. I would go in and see if they would prescribe some for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
claire at home Posted March 13, 2008 Share Posted March 13, 2008 Thanks for all of your inquiries. Unfortunately the news is sad. No heartbeat. Miscarriage inevitable. The CNM was kind and compassionate and I was very surprised that she did not advise a DNC. She said it is better to pass naturally. I admit I have been brainwashed by the homebirth community that the majority of obs/cnms are surgery pushing control freaks. It was good for me to see that this is not always the case. I'm glad I went and I'm glad I know. So I am still waiting for the passing. I never dreamed it would take this long. You know, if life would just get in line with my schedule we would all be fine :rolleyes: It was hardest to tell the kids. We all had a good cry in the elevator on the way to the car. My mom is flying up and school is canceled for the rest of the week. The kids are thrilled about that. And you know what? The sun is out today. And that is a very good thing. He gives and He takes away. I'm going back to bed with my heating pad. claire Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted March 13, 2008 Share Posted March 13, 2008 Saying prayers over you and your baby. I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darcy in FL Posted March 13, 2008 Share Posted March 13, 2008 My heart goes out to you today and your family. I'm praying for you all! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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WTMindy Posted March 13, 2008 Share Posted March 13, 2008 Thanks for all of your inquiries. Unfortunately the news is sad. No heartbeat. Miscarriage inevitable. The CNM was kind and compassionate and I was very surprised that she did not advise a DNC. She said it is better to pass naturally. I admit I have been brainwashed by the homebirth community that the majority of obs/cnms are surgery pushing control freaks. It was good for me to see that this is not always the case. I'm glad I went and I'm glad I know. So I am still waiting for the passing. I never dreamed it would take this long. You know, if life would just get in line with my schedule we would all be fine :rolleyes: It was hardest to tell the kids. We all had a good cry in the elevator on the way to the car. My mom is flying up and school is canceled for the rest of the week. The kids are thrilled about that. And you know what? The sun is out today. And that is a very good thing. He gives and He takes away. I'm going back to bed with my heating pad. claire I'm praying for you today!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole not in CA Posted March 13, 2008 Share Posted March 13, 2008 (((Claire))) I am so sorry for your loss. I am praying for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karenciavo Posted March 13, 2008 Share Posted March 13, 2008 (((Claire))) shedding tears with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
percytruffle Posted March 13, 2008 Share Posted March 13, 2008 (((Claire)))I'm so sorry for your loss. Praying for comfort and peace for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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