:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:
I think I might send a snail-mail card to your dad and mom; I'd even have the kiddos sign it.
I get you are trying to keep the door open esp. w/ your dad. (I think my mil has NPD and now that fil is gone, dealing with her is getting more and more difficult.) You know the drill...she ignors we exist, and gets her knickers in a knot if we exist without her. She's like a dark-rain-cloud on a good day.
I'm so sorry you mom isn't a nice mom, I can't imagine having my mil as my real mom. We just have to love em anyway, but it's heartbreaking some days.:grouphug: