I would teach her at least to write a basic paragraph and have some spelling and basic grammar down (mostly punctuation and basic parts of speech) and reading well.

I quit because I was too overwhelmed. I used to hold a much different view of sending kids to school and have come to realize many things about moms needs. Your needs are just as important as the kids. Anyone can be their teacher but only you are their mom. I have a lot of posts on my blog about this type of stuff if you want to check it out and share your experiences.

Yes, they have to take them but depending on your state, they may not automatically accept the credits you give. Where I live, they have to take a credit exam and pass to receive credit. I put my dd in a private school mid year in 9th; they accepted all of her credits without testing.

My dh is a high school teacher in a public school. They aren't allowed to have phones on during class, but he does have problems occasionally. He is frustrated with a lack of discipline on the part of the administration. Sending a kid to the office now does not induce the fear it once did so the kids walk all over the teachers. It is sad and so frustrating.

I would get him evaluated through the school before you pull him out because doing it on your own can be expensive if your insurance won't cover it. A lot of them won't. I had my dd tested through the school district when she was homeschooled. They were very helpful.

Her age is important, and I didn't see it mentioned. I ask because my oldest son, has always been painfully shy, and had a hard time making friends. By high school, he had few and was very lonely. Both he and my oldest daughter said they didn't have enough social opportunities. If you don't go with this group, I would find a way for her to make friends. It is so important especially for middle school and up. And yes, even homeschoolers this age have cliques. It is human nature. Look at some moms. :crying:

I was the same as you about 8 years ago. I wanted them to love learning, I broke my back (and bank) trying to find the perfect curriculum. I thought I was a failure because my homeschool ideal did not match my reality. I held on longer than I should have, and I still get teary eyed over it all. But sometimes school is better for some children. You won't know that until you give it a try, but it is not a permanent decision. You are not a failure as a mom; you are finding the best educational choice for your children. Homeschooling does not make a person a better (or worse) mom. :grouphug:

I would urge her to go to therapy or talk to someone at her church if she attends. Dealing with a depressed person is very hard, but so is being a depressed person. Depression lies to people and you really do think you are worthless and that things are hopeless. Maybe she could find some type of support group either IRL or online. It is good her husband says he is committed to her.

About 67-68 during the day and 65 at night.

I know what you mean, although I liked my dd first boyfriend. He was with our family a lot so it was sad to have him go.

Lots of exercise, good food, physical labor, and fun help but don't eliminate completly. It is such a hard age to deal with. Almost every child (5) in my home is a tween or teen. Only the 9 1/2 year old is still pleasant. Makes me :willy_nilly: .

I am so sorry. Please take care of yourself; lighten the load where you can. Prayers sent your way.

Mine get them in 9th grade. We pay for the cheapo ones until they have a job, usually by 16 at least.

It would be a consideration for me. I wished I would have thought when we moved to our first house.

We usually got our boys one around age 10. My 11 year old is getting one for Christmas.

we put the gifts for grandparents, teachers, etc. under the tree early, and then on Christmas eve, the kids' gifts are put under.

Yes, I did read the threads. I should have prefaced that not everyone has good teachers. I should have mentioned that I have a lot of up close knowledge because dh is a teacher. It is amazing how many parents are doing their kids homework, and it is not always because the teacher is bad. Also, in 10th grade my ds had a bad chemistry teacher. She knew the material but couldn't teach worth a darn (according to him) He still managed to learn the material because he had learned how to learn.

I try to stay out of my dc homework as much as possible. I want them to take ownership of it. I never had my mom or dad edit a paper (or anything else), and I did well in school. I am trying to stay out of it as much as possible. I think on a whole parents now are too involved in their kids homework and kids are using parents as a crutch. Probably stems from helicopter type parenting. Regarding the child who had 5 hours of math homework, that is insane. Teachers need to give reasonable amounts of homework.

My oldest, a girl, is 24. She has an 18 month old and has said there is no way she will homeschool. One of my other dd, 13, says she won't either and my other 2 girls don't know. I have a 21 ds who says he won't be having children (that would be good for the planet) I know having kids and time can change everything but my 3 oldest say they think school is better. My oldest 2 never went to school so I don't know how they can compare but oh well. I did my best.

My children had never been vaccinated, and then we decided to put them in school. We decided to fully vaccinate and had them all done at once. (they were older so they didn't get some that they give littles) They had sore arms but were no worse for it.

I have used Memoria presses online Latin classes.

I used TOPS for 3 years. I agree, you need to add some reading with it. We were not a big fan of it though because I was led to believe they are fairly independent for middle school aged kids. Not so in my house. They rarely worked when they tried them alone.

In the 19 years I homeschooled, I saw a pattern on November being difficult for many. The newness has worn off, the holidays are looming. I used to try to make it through November with regular schooling, adding in some fun Thanksgiving type crafts/stories/activities and then in December cut back on school work with lessons around Advent and Christmas.

Although I used Bravewriter many years, I don't follow her exact ideas on grammar. I started grammar with my kids in 3rd grade and did it through 9th grade. Some years were lighter than others, but I think it is an important subject, but most schools start it way too young since it is rather abstract.

I just wrote a post on my blog about ways moms with older kids can lighten their load. Maybe something will be helpful. See my signature. Please take care of yourself, whatever form it takes. B/M school does not mean you have failed and like others have said, its not permanent.