Was this just a one time incident? If so, I would try it again for a week or so. You never know with kids, she may have slept bad, not felt up to par, whatever. I would do this before purchasing anything new.

I would still see if you qualify for any services for them through the school while homeschooling. Looks like you will have a lot on your plate so it might be helpful if you can utilize any services.

So sorry. I will pray. My oldest ds had it when he was 3. I was scared, and we didn't have the issue you are having so I can imagine yours is extreme. Hang in there!

I think I would try him in 4th before pulling him out. I have found it takes kids a while to adjust to school if they have been homeschooled and not used to tests.

we used one for our last move. I really liked that we could load/unload at our own pace. If you rent/drive your own truck, you have only a certain amount of days.

Laura, That sounds like a good plan, and you know you can always change it, even tomorrow. :001_smile: I'm sorry you are in such pain, and I do know how it feels to be mad that it might prevent you from homeschooling. I felt that way about my depression and anxiety, but I am slowly coming to terms with it.

Please feel free to visit my blog. I have some articles about the feelings one experiences after sending your formerly homeschooled children to school and also about depression. (see my signature for the link) Your family can still thrive in this situation and your feelings are normal. Take care of yourself. Feel free to PM me.

:grouphug: Homeschooling is a full-time job and so is homemaking. I am sorry you are not happy with the state of things. Be kind to yourself.

Of my 7 children, 3 are extremely difficult. The oldest ds homeschooled all of the way through. I did not manage well. My 2nd and third difficult children were put into school last year because of constant battles, and it has been a life saver for our relationship. I held on too long to homeschooling the difficult ones. Really was a pride issue for me. My other 4 are/were fairly easy. I would really assess your relationship with him, how you feel at the end of a day after being with him (on the weekend or holiday), how much time do you need to yourself, etc. Like someone else said above, you might try leaving the difficult one in while you start the others and see how it goes.

All types of schooling have their pros and cons. We just have to find what works best for each of us. If you expect any situation to be carefree or solve all of your problems, you will be sorely disappointed. There are always trade-offs.

I think a lot of moms (especially homeschool moms) are really bad at asking for help. Some of us feel like we have to be supermom, doing it all, and that asking for help is a sign of weakness. It is not. If you are overwhelmed or unsure, ask for help.

I too thought it would get easier the older they got. At least when they were toddlers, I could grab them, and quickly calm them down with a bath, nursing, or something. Teens, no way. And they like to go all of the time. Just make sure to take care of yourself. Find a way. You don't want to completely burn out. It's no fun.

I would also consider your relationship with dc and how well she responds to you being teacher. I know my head strong kids did not respond well to my teaching.

For the OP and those who are saying the same thing, is this their first time in school? I ask because I put my dc in school in fall 2011 and took 4 of the 5 out after 11 weeks for this reason. Now they are all back in. I did not give it enough time for them to adjust the first time. They had to learn how to manage a classroom setting, homework, organization, etc. I think age matters too; my then 1st and 3rd graders needed more hand holding at first. I am more of a hands-off type parent in that I expect them to take most of the responsibility for homework. I taught them how to study for tests, how to organize writing a paper, etc. but now they pretty much do everything on their own with just occasional help from me. I found that if I stepped back, they took on the responsibility and I am not butting heads with the difficult one over school! I do supplement after school/weekends with quality read a louds, but that is it.

I wanted to restate what someone else said that nothing is permanent. Also, your family can still be closd even if some or all of the children go to school. The amount of time together does not determine how close you are; the people do. I know many families that are close and they don't homeschool. Homeschooling does not guarantee that or anything else.

I had a son like this. Finally, when he was ten we had him evaluated. He was put on tegretol and became a different person. He didn't have many side effects (mostly it decreased his appetite) It was so worth it. When he hit puberty around 15, we had to change things up. Found out he is bipolar. I am glad we tried something early on instead of waiting. Actually, I wished i would have had him evaluated at a younger age. So many people told me he was just slow to develop, immature, etc. No, there really was a problem.

My 9 year old dd is dyslexic and in private school for the first time this year. They are great at making accommodations for her. She is allowed to use a skip counting chart for multiplication and division. She doesn't have many of her facts memorized either. They also only make her do 15 minutes worth of math homework if there is any. Read about math accommodations for dyslexics and do the same for your child at home. I tried for years to get my dd to memorize facts; it just brought us both to tears. Where I live, once in 5th grade, they can use a calculator for any of the facts.

Try this. It is a form of Math U See place value. It really helped my dc.

Believing learning has to be fun or that they will love school. Reading about philosophies too much.

So sorry. Grief is a hard place to be. Be gentle with yourself. Make sure you are taking care of yourself even if it means needing to do less school. But replace that time for the kids with educational videos, books on tape, or send them to a friends. Use paper goods----a lot. :grouphug:

I have used both and think I would use the reading comprehension especially in middle school because it teaches literary analysis quite well.

We have a Gabrielle Alexis, Clara Marie, Emma Christine, and Cecilia Marguerite

I am so sorry. Losing a parent is so hard.

I am 48 and haven't worked (for pay) much over the last 24 years of being a mom. My degree is in family/child development and I have no desire to work with children. I don't know what I can do. I feel like no one will want to hire someone who has been out of the job market for so long. I don't have the money to get trained in something else. So, I feel trapped. I know I won't be getting a job until at least next summer. I am taking a year off from "working".

I think it does take former homeschooled children time to get used to the long day, but they do! Children adapt well. It's the parents that tend to have a harder time, IMO.