This is my first time turning to any sort of community on a forum for anything, so please forgive any indiscretion of the rules.... I'm learning.
My 5 year old has just started Kindergarten this year and I had this fantastic dream about how it would be.... he was going to be great and smart and show the teacher how awesome he is and he was going to love school. My dream was glorious. Well, guess what, it did not happen like that.
He was born in May so he's a young Kindergartener and maybe that has something to do with it.... or maybe not. I'm at the end of my rope on what I need to do to help him.
He is in trouble almost every day for "not listening/following directions" and he's in trouble in music class for "not paying attention". We are so very frustrated. He was referred by his teacher to a Speech Pathologist because she thought maybe he had an Auditory Processing Disorder or simply could not hear her..... it came back perfectly fine, and his vocabulary score was in the 80th percentile nationally....so he understands what is said. We took him to see an Audiologist and discovered some water behind his ear drums so we are doing a repeat test in about a week to see if it's cleared up....I think this is an incidental finding and not relevant but maybe next week I'll be told otherwise.
He takes iStation national exams each month and he is consistently in the 70-90th percentile nationally in every subject. He's in the 89th % in math and I have had to ban him from all mathematics apps at home because he will singularly do ONLY that for hours if I don't stop him. He will sit on a book app that he has (Farfaria) for HOURS quietly to himself if allowed..... right now we only let him do that in the evenings and it has to be moderated because he'll stay awake half the night if I'm not careful about making sure it's turned off. The app reads books to him, we love it.... it highlights the words as he goes along and reads the books to him. If it's a book he can read himself he reads it without the audio. He obviously has a high enough listening comprehension to listen to these books. The ones he listens to are usually Lexile ~ 400 which is 2nd grade reading. I recognize that he's listening to content and not reading so I'm not jumping up and down saying "My special snowflake reads at a 2nd grade level." because he just LISTENS to books in this category and isn't reading them for himself.... although he can read at an 'above average' level for Kindergarten, overall reading is about 70th percentile and reads at about a 1st grade level.
His teacher says he talks non-stop..... but he's giving full and complete summaries of the books he reads or the things that he feels like are important or applicable to a given situation and sometimes it's hard to realize he's actually telling an applicable story because he has to tell the ENTIRE story before he feels like you (as the listener) will understand. I can understand the teacher - she doesn't have time for that.
We took him to his primary care doctor to have focus issues evaluated and he said he would not test a 5 year old boy for ADD/ADHD.... he is young for Kindergarten and to wait until after 1st grade to worry about it. He told us to be happy with his test scores and move on with life, basically. That's great except I think the teacher is as frustrated as I am. She doesn't think he's bored....she thinks he has ADHD, I am certain. He has zero hyperactivity though (both me and the teacher agree here)....I know there is an inattentive type though as well.
He recently started answering for other kids in class.... his answers aren't wrong, but we had to explain to him that when it isn't his turn he is stealing the opportunity to learn from other students. He seemed horrified and I doubt that will happen again.... he's just so dang proud that he knows the answers.
To summarize, I don't think that he's overly exceptional.... he's above average academically, but his behavior in class....leaves something to be desired.
I will also list a few of his milestone highlights, maybe that will give someone some insight because I just have none right now.
He was able to hold his head up when he was born and began rolling over shortly after. He began walking when he was 7 months old (Yes, I have pictures, I'm not overly arrogant or crazy)....his gross motor skills were/are off the charts. He competes in Taekwondo with kids that are 7-9 and he holds his own perfectly fine.
He did not talk in anything but sign language until he was 3 years old..... we scheduled a speech pathologist appointment at that time, and talked to his preschool teachers about it. I felt like if he was using sign language he was still communicating, but I knew he should be talking. Right before his appointment he suddenly began to talk in full and complete sentences with a decent understanding of grammar (past tense, future, possession). It was like the twilight zone. Suddenly we had a little man instead of a mute child. We did not take him to the speech path since it clearly had resolved itself (Though we have taken him now, and he's fine).
His fine motor skills are hideous. He avoids any activity that might use them.... his handwriting is atrocious and he much prefers any sort of learning game on a tablet/computer to anything he has to write....he HATES writing. We've been working on the fine motor skills, but it's a challenge to get him to do much of anything if he has to write/use tweezers or whatever.
Also of note: He's the oldest child of two.... his younger brother is 2 years old and I can tell already that the younger child develops differently. The younger child seems to simply get slowly better at all skills each day rather than have super strong points and super weak ones.