I.Dup. Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 TMI.............. just wondering if it's normal for things to get less hard in the male department. No problem with erection, but it's not as hard as it used to be. We're still in our early 30s. Is this the beginnings of impotence? asking for a friend of course..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammi K Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 I asked a friend and she said it is a familiar change and not abnormal. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gil Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 Having no formal training in the department aside from 25 years experience as a male. This is not abnormal, nor does it mean the beginning of impotence. So long as your friends husband can get it up (and keep it up), his erection being, uh...more maleable, isn't an immediate problem. I have some older male friends who say that this will wax and wane, some erections will be harder than others. Your friends husband can always talk to his doctor if he has any concerns. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 If it is a consistent issue and it is enough of an issue to cause a problem, then I might suggest seeing a doctor. I haven't noticed any kind of issue like you describe, and the appendage I am familiar with is about ten years older or so. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caroline Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 It can be a sign of heart disease. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
magnificent_baby Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 There are many physical and psychological conditions, even medications, that can interfere with that. I would suggest starting with a check up. Hopefully it's nothing! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 It seems to me that the better shape my husband is in the more youthful he is in other areas. Sounds like it's time to put that man to work! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Butter Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 Yes, it is totally and completely normal, usually. According to my husband's doctor, 70% of men over the age of 35 have erectile changes (anything from less hard to complete impotence). Because it can be related to underlying health conditions, however, a complete physical and blood work is a good idea. Just in case. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poppy Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 I would have said no. I think it could probably go either way. It's worth having a slightly embarrassing conversation with a doctor about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MFG Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 Just a non-medically educated thought: it could relate to a normal decrease in testosterone levels due to aging. If functionality is not impared, it may not need to be addressed or even checked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 Early 30s is quite young for this, imo. I would check with the doctor to be sure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted April 25, 2014 Author Share Posted April 25, 2014 how would you suggest...my friend...bring this up to her husband to address with his doctor? She mentioned it once in an inquiring way and said husband was horrified and offended. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted April 25, 2014 Author Share Posted April 25, 2014 could she just ask him to get his cholesterol checked? Is that a good indicator of heart disease status? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 A full physical would be in order. Likely is just normal but it is good to have a full physical anyway. The regular blood work can check a lot of things that might be at play here. Some common issues are high blood pressure (might be high and you don't know it at all), heart disease, high blood sugars, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 could she just ask him to get his cholesterol checked? Is that a good indicator of heart disease status? I don't think that would be the only factor. Dh has high-ish cholesterol--220's--as well as thyroid issues and does not have heart problems nor the other issue under consideration. He is nearly 50yo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Butter Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 Blood pressure (and blood pressure meds) is a big contributor to erectile dysfunction. I had an, um, friend who's husband had a whole conversation about this with his doctor just a few weeks ago. I'd suggest your friend encourage her husband to have a complete physical with full blood work-up... maybe suggest a testosterone level test. He doesn't necessarily need to talk specifically about this issue, especially since he was outraged when it was mentioned. And more, um, build up and a longer anticipation time leading to the actual act can help in that department as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StartingOver Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 Men, they say peak at 18. I do not believe it is abnormal at all. I would suggest a talk with his doctor, as our can be a sign of other issues. There are many meds that can help. There are also things that restrict blood, that can be a tremendous help, and much cheaper than many meds. A thorough checkup should happen before any meds. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StartingOver Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 Regarding bringing it up to hubby. I called my hubby 's doctor, and my step dad's when he came to me in tears poor man. Explained the issue, then made an appointment for a check up. Their doctor was able to bring it up as routine questions. Man to man, it was easier to take. Of course their doctor started with... Many men start to have issues such as..... Both would have just keeled over to have to start a conversation like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aspasia Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 I don't know anything about this issue, but I just wanted to say that I'm really enjoying the language dance in this thread. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plumshadow Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 I watched a documentary that said how much blood flows to that part of the body is directly linked to heart health and not age. The guy/Dr. explaining it was in his 70 and boasted no issues down there lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted April 25, 2014 Author Share Posted April 25, 2014 wouldn't 33 be a little early for such severe heart issues as to cause problems down there!? No history of heart problems in his family... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Χά�ων Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 Age does not matter. Somethings just are. When I was 21 I started having heart trouble. I was healthy, active and working out multiple hours a day before that with no issues. Suddenly, I started fainting left and right. I am on medication and it is under control and I have not had a fainting episode since. Raynaud's can cause similar issues in men and while raynauds is generally not an issue it could indicate and underlying rheumatic disease, but only a medical doctor can determine if it is something to be concerned about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hjffkj Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 wouldn't 33 be a little early for such severe heart issues as to cause problems down there!? No history of heart problems in his family... How often is it not as hard? Is it an obvious 100% of the time difference or sometimes its normal and sometimes its less hard? Also, how often they have sex coulkd be a cause. My dh is 32 and is in phenomenal shape. His has varying degrees of hardness depending on how exhausted he is, how aroused he is, how often we have sex. So unless it was a complete change all the time I wouldn't be worried but may still suggest a physical if he hasn't had one in a long time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Butter Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 wouldn't 33 be a little early for such severe heart issues as to cause problems down there!? No history of heart problems in his family... There are tons of other reasons that cause problems down there. Blood pressure (too high OR too low), low testosterone, stress, being tired, and so on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dory Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 I would wonder about health problems elsewhere. That seems pretty young. My dh is 43. When I was in my teens I only saw soft in the guys that were getting fairly old (think 50's) or were unfit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Here's my dh's helpful advice (NOT!) Maybe she is looser? :rolleyes: I would get it checked out by a doctor if it is bothersome. However, if it is just bothersome to your friend and her dh doesn't notice/recognize it as an issue, I am not sure there will be any receptiveness to get checked out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StartingOver Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 wouldn't 33 be a little early for such severe heart issues as to cause problems down there!? No history of heart problems in his family... No. My husbands grandfather had heart issues at 27. Died at 37. My husband had issues that he should have paid attention to at 25, and had 3 stents at 35. It is never to young to have heart issues. And sometimes there aren't enough signs to worry folks until it is very late. Any blood flow issue should always be checked out. My female cousin died of a massive heart attack at 31, no history of heart conditions at all in my family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeganCupcake Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 I watched a documentary that said how much blood flows to that part of the body is directly linked to heart health and not age. The guy/Dr. explaining it was in his 70 and boasted no issues down there lol I believe I have seen that documentary, too. I think the male part was referred to as sort of a canary in a coal mine, sending a warning that other things might be going on in the cardiovascular system. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted April 26, 2014 Author Share Posted April 26, 2014 How often is it not as hard? Is it an obvious 100% of the time difference or sometimes its normal and sometimes its less hard? Also, how often they have sex coulkd be a cause. My dh is 32 and is in phenomenal shape. His has varying degrees of hardness depending on how exhausted he is, how aroused he is, how often we have sex. So unless it was a complete change all the time I wouldn't be worried but may still suggest a physical if he hasn't had one in a long time. Not sure...it's just something she's noticed in the past year or two. Not every time is it noticeable. Maybe it is just due to fatigue or stress? Here's my dh's helpful advice (NOT!) Maybe she is looser? :rolleyes: I would get it checked out by a doctor if it is bothersome. However, if it is just bothersome to your friend and her dh doesn't notice/recognize it as an issue, I am not sure there will be any receptiveness to get checked out. To be fair, it's something she notices in her hand as things are happening. It doesn't seem to make much difference in the feeling during the act, but it's definitely much more "malleable," as a PP put it, in the hand. :p No. My husbands grandfather had heart issues at 27. Died at 37. My husband had issues that he should have paid attention to at 25, and had 3 stents at 35. It is never to young to have heart issues. And sometimes there aren't enough signs to worry folks until it is very late. Any blood flow issue should always be checked out. My female cousin died of a massive heart attack at 31, no history of heart conditions at all in my family. Scary. What do you suggest he get tested for? She scheduled him for a physical and he will be getting labwork done. Since she won't be going and this is just something she's mentioned once to him offhand, she doubts it will even come up at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flyingiguana Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Has anyone ever heard of lead poisoning causing this problem? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StartingOver Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 He just needs to be screened, at least blood tests. They can put him on a treadmill, but the only real test is a Heart Cath. Most won't schedule that unless there are other issues at his age such as high cholesterol, or family history. For my hubby the first sign was that his fingers would be really cold in winter and turn slightly bluish. For my mom, much older, it was her toes tingling constantly. Some have no warning at all. I wouldn't bet on a heart condition, but it does happen. There are many reasons, he just needs to talk to the doctor, and get some labs done at the very least. If my dad and step dad at 73 can still have a healthy love life, almost anyone can. You just have to be honest, and try new things. Isn't it amazing what can be done now. I just can't imagine what men went through with early ED, in the old days. I am sure there was much more depression. Can she schedule a consult with the doctor before he goes, to discuss her concerns for him. I know the HIPPA laws say the doctor can't tell her anything, but he can listen to her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StartingOver Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Has anyone ever heard of lead poisoning causing this problem? Personally no, I haven't heard of it. But it can happen. http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/healthlibrary/conditions/adult/kidney_and_urinary_system_disorders/impotence_erectile_dysfunction_85,P01482/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 I believe I have seen that documentary, too. I think the male part was referred to as sort of a canary in a coal mine, sending a warning that other things might be going on in the cardiovascular system. LOL, now there is a word picture! Anyway, my dh is almost 50 and his issue is stress and not enough sleep. Good day at work, reasonable sleep, the evanroot cranks just fine. Bad day at work combined with up too early and to bed too late, not so great. If I didn't see that pattern in him, you can bet we'd be off to the doc asap. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted April 26, 2014 Author Share Posted April 26, 2014 He doesn't get much sleep. Maybe 5 hours? He has been much more tired recently. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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