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  1. Seeing as I myself was graduating highschool in 2004, no I haven't been here that long. I'm guessing I found the boards when my oldest was kindergarten age so 2013.
  2. March is turning out to be quite an expensive month. But so much of it is wasteful spending that isn't worth it, so we've got to reel that back in. I've got some hefty savings goals for this year that I'd really like to accomplish so I need to stop wasting money on unimportant things. So, the goal for the rest of the month is $500 for groceries and any essentials. And that is it. I'm also thinking about selling a few things just to sock a few hundred in savings to make up for the overspending. We'll see.
  3. I imagine most kids who say opening is too hard don't actually care about using the locker and just use the difficulty as an excuse.
  4. At the private school I went to through most of high school we weren't allowed to carry our backpacks into classrooms so we had to use our lockers. But we rarely locked them. In the huge public high school I went to for one year, I didn't even know where my locker was. But my parents knew nothing about my locker usage. And honestly had my mom demanded I use it or she'd come show me how to, I'd just lie to her about it and likely stop talking to her about anything having to do with my school life and likely personal life because of that overreaction.
  5. So, I sort of hope it is the last one because I don't want to get sucked up into the world of competitions. Although, I see the value of her doing 1 a year because is did push her in a different sort of way compared to performances. It is the same one as she did the masterclass last year. And it isn't that I don't like it. The competition was National Ballet Competition. And I actually thought it was a great one to start with instead of YAGP Philly because it was her home stage, where she does all her dances with the company so she knows it well and could take the aspect of anxiety out of the equation. I don't know much about competitions so I don't know how important they are for someone who wants to go professional. I imagine if you ask ten people you'll get ten different answers.
  6. There were 40 kids in her division.
  7. Dd placed 9th overall in her division. She is pleased with that for her first competition. I just hope it is her last 😂
  8. Not according to the artist who wrote the song. He says that the song came from 2 incidents. One was when he was tripping on LSD sitting under a peach tree at the house of a woman he had a crush on. I can't remember the other story though. Something about a homeless man. Oddly enough, my brother's and I were talking about this last weekend. Mainly because of the fact that the guy is Casper Baby Pants.
  9. I'll keep you posted. Hope your kids get into the intensives they're hoping for. Only one of my other kids dances. She is 9 and I won't let her compete until 13 at the earliest just because that is what I did for her older sister. My oldest just wanted to try competing and thankfully we got that contemporary piece choreographed and coached for free, so it made competing much more affordable. I certainly don't want to get caught up in the crazy competition schedule some dancers do, and dd doesn't want that either. But we may be ok with her doing 1 a year if she wants.
  10. She is done with competitions for the weekend. Great to get it out of the way on day 1. Now just masterclasses. It is up to her if she wants to go away this summer or not. I'm pretty sure she doesn't want to yet, which I'm happy with. She may choose a different school to do intensives at though. The only thing she's specifically mentioned is The Rock School because they do partnering and her school's intensives don't.
  11. And ... received_430507852772853.mp4
  12. Posting this here because I know @mommyoffive will want to see it. Dd13 had her first ballet competition today. It continues tomorrow and Sunday so no idea how she did but here are her pieces. Hope the quality is good. received_1426569211292937.mp4
  13. We got our tax refund today, which is always really large because of the child tax credit even though we don't have any federal taxes taken from our paychecks. $5000 of it went into my RothIRA, $2000 went to sinking funds, and the rest is just sitting waiting to figure out what we're doing with it. The rest of March should be a close to zero spend month, minus a few b-day gifts we need to get for nieces.
  14. I know I can love without a dryer, I've done it with no problem. And could likely live without a washer, I'd just require people be more conscious of what they're asking me to wash. No jeans that were worn for 2 hours, etc. But I've learned how to replace many washer parts so I don't have to live without one or replace them
  15. I thought of one that most people think is a necessity but I could easily do without, a dishwasher. We are a household of 11 currently
  16. We already don't buy any of the things you mention. But there is a ton we could get rid of if need be. A second car, streaming services, gym memberships for dh and me, alcoholic beverages, and snack foods. Most of our non essential money doesn't go to products though, it goes to experiences. So, a lot of the little purchase type things that you mention, we've never purchased or stopped buying ages ago
  17. I just used scrub daddy for the first time recently and love it. I use it to scrub gross hardened things on the floor, cabinets, and other spots people miss when they make a mess. But for most other things I just use the rags that bars use
  18. We don't ever tell at each other, slam doors, sleep in separate areas, or curse during fights but we certainly have idiotic fights that end up in hurt feelings, not talking to each other, and sweeping it under the rug. Although sweeping it under the rug doesn't happen anymore but we went through extensive work to not let those stupid fights be ignored since they do add up and they do end up lasting a bit longer each time
  19. Lucky! I wish that were the case here. When I declutter an area, everyone takes it as an invitation to start filling it back up. My dad lives with us and every time him and my mom leave for a few weeks to cruise or go to their other house I declutter things in the kitchen, just things we have many duplicates of. And every time he comes back he buys more of the things I've covertly gotten rid of. He doesn't even know I got rid of it, he just always thinks having back ups is necessary. For ex, we have 5 ice cream scoops of different sizes. One is for ice cream. The others were all him testing which size was right for filling raviolis, which is great. When he found the right size he bought more of them in case one broke!
  20. This made me think hard about how my relationship with dh started. I think we both equally pursued each other. I'm pretty sure if I didn't meet him in the middle in terms of pursuing he would have backed off or without every truly pursuing me. Not because he wasn't interested but because of his own self doubt. He is one of the most charismatic and attractive person I know but he doesn't know that about himself. I would have really missed out on an amazing person if I just waited for him do all the work. Not to say I was chasing him in a clingy way or anything. But I reached out to him just as much as he reached out to me. For example, the guy who gave you his number and mentioned he was off work the rest of the week. I'd assume that was the invitation to reach out to him the day that I was available to see if he wanted to show me around. I wouldn't assume that he'd reach out to me on the day I'm off work. And if a scenario like that had happened while dating dh, he would have taken me not reaching out after he basically said I'm free all week as me showing I'm not interested
  21. We just went to the town over got a license at the courthouse, waited 2 days, and then went to a little chapel. It was a random Tuesday in January. Dh's sisters response to hearing our news later that day was, "our we supposed to be excited for you." They were mad that they weren't involved. Then they both swept their comment under the rug and didn't apologize for years. I got over it quickly, it just showed me the type of relationship we'd always have, cordial but not close. Dh held a grudge for a LONG time. His youngest sister did apologize at some point years after our marriage when she was engaged. The other one didn't until a few weeks ago. We've been married for 16 years! I laughed when she apologized because it simply didn't matter anymore.
  22. Disclaimer, I do not judge anyone for spending any amount of money on their wedding. This is strictly a personal thing for myself. I love weddings. And completely understand the want for one, especially wanting your kids to have the ability to have a big one if they want. I just could never spend the money on my own. And knowing how finances are for most young people wouldn't want my kids to have a big one if it put them behind financially
  23. for me, 10,000 is just a doable amount in theory to give each of my kids, I have 6, for whatever major life event comes first for them. If I could give more, I would. But I also would secretly hope that it didn't get wasted on a wedding.
  24. seriously. The only way I would pay that much for a wedding was if I was wealthy enough that 35k would set us back in anyway. But I spent next to nothing on my wedding since I eloped. Then we had a party a few months later in my parent's backyard for a few hundred bucks
  25. Dh says he had one 4 years ago. This was when he made a complete career change as a first step to improving our marriage. It was the best thing for our marriage and probably the most positive midlife crisis I know of. I think I'm going through one right now. I just feel like something needs to change. I'm often sick of the monotonous day to day life of a stay at home home schooling mom. I'm stuck in my own Groundhog Day and need a change. Overall, I am happy with my life and don't actually want to change anything. However, the idea that I'll be doing this for another 14 years is hard to grasp at the moment.
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