Mabelen Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 My daughter just heard today that a friend of hers from college killed herself a week ago. They had been friends since freshman year when they lived in the same suite. She had transferred to a different college at the end of sophomore year to be closer to her family. My daughter said she nor her other close friends had any idea that she was having any issues of any kind. I am still in shock. 21 years old, smart, beautiful, funny, a lovely girl, with a family that loved her. It just hurts to think. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThisIsTheDay Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 Oh, I am SO sorry. Your poor daughter also. How awfully tragic, and that dear girl's family, I can't imagine how crushing this would be. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 I can't even begin to fathom the things that must have run through her head to make her feel that was the only choice she had. That's so sad. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gaillardia Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 :grouphug: that is hard. :grouphug: So sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosika Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 :( How heartbreaking for everyone who knew her. Grieving is so difficult, but the shock and surprise on top of that have to feel incredibly overwhelming. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 :crying: I'm so sorry for everyone impacted. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted November 26, 2017 Share Posted November 26, 2017 I am so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia64 Posted November 26, 2017 Share Posted November 26, 2017 This is one of my worst fears. I'm so, sorry for your daughter and everyone impacted. Alley 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted November 26, 2017 Share Posted November 26, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted November 26, 2017 Share Posted November 26, 2017 So very tragic. I'm so sorry for you & your dd, her family, and friends. I can't even. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnE-girl Posted November 26, 2017 Share Posted November 26, 2017 I’m so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mabelen Posted November 26, 2017 Author Share Posted November 26, 2017 I can't even begin to fathom the things that must have run through her head to make her feel that was the only choice she had. That's so sad. This is what I am struggling with the most. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mabelen Posted November 26, 2017 Author Share Posted November 26, 2017 :( How heartbreaking for everyone who knew her. Grieving is so difficult, but the shock and surprise on top of that have to feel incredibly overwhelming. Yes, very shocking. So unexpected! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted November 26, 2017 Share Posted November 26, 2017 So sad and yet less uncommon than it was. Let your daughter grieve, talk, research, cry or hug as she needs. Prayers for all. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G900A using Tapatalk 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted November 26, 2017 Share Posted November 26, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nan in Mass Posted November 26, 2017 Share Posted November 26, 2017 Holding your daughter and her friends and the family in the light. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
livetoread Posted November 27, 2017 Share Posted November 27, 2017 My 19yo son’s close friend and next door neighbor died in June from an unknown heart condition. It was horrible. It still is horrible. He was his mother’s only child, and she is shattered. For my son, he appreciated hearing about grief and what to expect. He’s more of a practical guy and needed to know that. I also reminded him that it might be tempting to self-medicate the feelings, but that is a terrible idea. He’s going to hurt and it’s going to suck, but that’s okay - he just needs to hurt for awhile without trying to run away from it. He’s not much of a talker, but he has other friends who also knew the deceased and they have helped each other. He said he is realizing in ways he didn’t anticipate that life might be shorter than he thought. That translates in good ways like he is more affectionate with us, and not so good, like he almost didn’t leave for college in the fall because he could die tomorrow and didn’t want to be spending his time at college (he’s not an enthusiastic student). I am still struggling with my own grief. His mother is a “chat now and then and catch up†kind of friend, and every time I look out the window at their house, I am punched in the gut. At the open casket funeral, she stood there greeting people, and every once in awhile, she’d reach down and stroke his hair absentmindedly while talking to the mourners. I cannot get that image out of my head, and it just shreds my heart. She is so lost as he was her life. Leaving my son at college was that much harder, and him being out driving at night makes me pace. Just like he realizes his life could be short, I realize young adults die and I can’t make that seem as unrealistic as I used to. So, just want to say I understand, and I’m so sorry your daughter is experiencing this. It’s tough. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted November 27, 2017 Share Posted November 27, 2017 How awful. Same thing happened in our family A few years ago and it really shook us up. The young lady was 15. It’s so sad. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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