Jenny in Florida Posted September 8, 2016 Author Share Posted September 8, 2016 Jenny, if you stop trying to justify things this thread will go away. Oh, I'm not really "justifying." I'm actually finding the exercise of formulating responses to be helpful in clarifying my own feelings about the whole thing. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lang Syne Boardie Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 I wouldn't do THIS thing, but like you, I am doing other insane things in the name of car-sharing and helping young adults get launched. Hope the 6 weeks go by quickly, with safety and health for everybody in the family. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlsdMama Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 It's six weeks. I'll survive, but, oh boy, will I be exhausted. Am I out of my mind? Yes. Honestly, yes. This is going to be SO much. I hope he's recognizing the sacrifice AND grateful. And I really would put a deadline on the six weeks. I could do it for a short period but I drove DS to classes last year, mock last year, and work twice a week and, even now, it exhausts me thinking about it. If it looked like it was going beyond six weeks, there are preferences and necessities. School is a necessity. Working where you *like* is a preference. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 Yes. Honestly, yes. This is going to be SO much. I hope he's recognizing the sacrifice AND grateful. And I really would put a deadline on the six weeks. I could do it for a short period but I drove DS to classes last year, mock last year, and work twice a week and, even now, it exhausts me thinking about it. If it looked like it was going beyond six weeks, there are preferences and necessities. School is a necessity. Working where you *like* is a preference. Isn't yours the thread that mentions planning a wedding and an eagle scout project? I read that and think I'd lose my mind! We are all so different! :) 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Okra Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 Oh, I'm not really "justifying." I'm actually finding the exercise of formulating responses to be helpful in clarifying my own feelings about the whole thing. Well, clearly you should have put JAWM on the post. I think the biggest red flag in your OP was that your son wanted to spend more time with his girlfriend and was asking you to drive more than you needed to on a particular day/days. To me, this is a red flag, that he is not appreciating or understanding the time you are putting in. So, while you are clarifying your feelings about this, you might want to think about this. Otherwise, you have made it very clear through additional posts that you have a plan, and you are sticking with it. (It might have been clearer if the hive knew this in the original post.) Life is a two-way street. If you give and give and give of yourself sometimes it can lead to burn-out and depression. If you are not receiving something (appreciation.....understanding......someone doing something nice for you sometimes), then you might want to consider changing some things. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 I will trade late night driving for toddler/preschooler wrangling. Anyone? (Also, I keep singing "Boo to you" while reading this thread. I have no idea what Jenny's son is doing, but in my head, clearly it's something fabulous at MNSSHP. :) ) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted September 8, 2016 Author Share Posted September 8, 2016 Well, clearly you should have put JAWM on the post. I think the biggest red flag in your OP was that your son wanted to spend more time with his girlfriend and was asking you to drive more than you needed to on a particular day/days. To me, this is a red flag, that he is not appreciating or understanding the time you are putting in. So, while you are clarifying your feelings about this, you might want to think about this. Otherwise, you have made it very clear through additional posts that you have a plan, and you are sticking with it. (It might have been clearer if the hive knew this in the original post.) Life is a two-way street. If you give and give and give of yourself sometimes it can lead to burn-out and depression. If you are not receiving something (appreciation.....understanding......someone doing something nice for you sometimes), then you might want to consider changing some things. I think you're perceiving conflict or upset where there really isn't any. As I recall, I did say in my original post that I knew I'd survive the six weeks, although I would be exhausted. The only real question I asked was "Am I crazy?" That one has been answered. :001_smile: As for "receiving" something in return, I definitely do. In addition to receiving thanks from my family, I derive satisfaction from taking care of them. I'm pretty strong on intrinsic motivation, I think. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted September 8, 2016 Author Share Posted September 8, 2016 (Also, I keep singing "Boo to you" while reading this thread. I have no idea what Jenny's son is doing, but in my head, clearly it's something fabulous at MNSSHP. :) ) (Sorry, it's actually the other big theme park complex, and the event he's working is distinctly NOT appropriate for preschoolers.) 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Only me Posted September 8, 2016 Share Posted September 8, 2016 Two things to consider which you may or may not thought of. I'm not sure which theme park he is working at and I know it's a bit different but my dd did the Disney College program. She worked at Epcot. First know that even if he is getting off at 1:30 it could very well take him 1/2 hour to get to your car. Since you are driving him of course he won't have to take the bus like she did but keep in mind depending which park you are talking about it could take awhile to walk to your car, clock out, deal with uniform or costume etc. Also I'm not sure of his position and if those are set hours but I would make sure that they don't ever expect him to work later if things are super busy. Also since there are so many people that work there could he possibly get a ride to or from work from a co-worker once in awhile? I'm not sure if we are talking about the same park or where you live but my dd was friends with a lot of people who were permanent pt or seasonal. It's possible that someone could even go to the same school as him and work there. Just a thought. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted September 9, 2016 Author Share Posted September 9, 2016 Two things to consider which you may or may not thought of. I'm not sure which theme park he is working at and I know it's a bit different but my dd did the Disney College program. She worked at Epcot. First know that even if he is getting off at 1:30 it could very well take him 1/2 hour to get to your car. Since you are driving him of course he won't have to take the bus like she did but keep in mind depending which park you are talking about it could take awhile to walk to your car, clock out, deal with uniform or costume etc. Also I'm not sure of his position and if those are set hours but I would make sure that they don't ever expect him to work later if things are super busy. I actually did my own theme park stint when the kids were little, working for The Mouse for about three years. So, I'm pretty familiar with the front-line cast member experience there. And my husband has worked there in a backstage/technical position for going on two decades. But our son is actually working for the other mega-theme park complex, in an entertainment role. He's already attending rehearsals, so we know what his after-work routine will look like and how long it will take for him to be ready to leave. The event has two casts, with shifts staggered to cover the hours of the event. It looks like his in and out times will be pretty firm. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Only me Posted September 9, 2016 Share Posted September 9, 2016 I actually did my own theme park stint when the kids were little, working for The Mouse for about three years. So, I'm pretty familiar with the front-line cast member experience there. And my husband has worked there in a backstage/technical position for going on two decades. But our son is actually working for the other mega-theme park complex, in an entertainment role. He's already attending rehearsals, so we know what his after-work routine will look like and how long it will take for him to be ready to leave. The event has two casts, with shifts staggered to cover the hours of the event. It looks like his in and out times will be pretty firm. Ok I just wanted to make sure you knew so there weren't any surprises. That's good that he will have a set schedule. Just trying to help. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted September 9, 2016 Share Posted September 9, 2016 So it really has nothing to do with "late at night" or "after dark". Good point. But the neighbor may have used the dark as a reason to coax her into a ride. "You don't want to be walking home at night alone." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted September 24, 2016 Author Share Posted September 24, 2016 Just in case anyone is wondering how things are going: We're about halfway through the second (of 7, not 6, sigh) weekends, and we're both hanging in there so far. He's tired. I'm tired. He's found it pretty tough to roll out of bed in time for classes on a few mornings. I've had to be intentional about not drifting into self-pity on a couple of evenings when I look at the clock and realise I still have to wait another three or four hours before it's time to pick him up so I can come home and go to sleep. We've had a couple of talks about working as a team to get him through the season and making an effort to treat each other with kindness and consideration. But he's having a good experience with the job, and we're doing pretty well. 35 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 24, 2016 Share Posted September 24, 2016 I'm glad you two are hanging in there :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted September 24, 2016 Share Posted September 24, 2016 Just in case anyone is wondering how things are going: We're about halfway through the second (of 7, not 6, sigh) weekends, and we're both hanging in there so far. He's tired. I'm tired. He's found it pretty tough to roll out of bed in time for classes on a few mornings. I've had to be intentional about not drifting into self-pity on a couple of evenings when I look at the clock and realise I still have to wait another three or four hours before it's time to pick him up so I can come home and go to sleep. We've had a couple of talks about working as a team to get him through the season and making an effort to treat each other with kindness and consideration. But he's having a good experience with the job, and we're doing pretty well. Are you able to nap before picking him up (setting a timer/s so you don't oversleep)? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kroe1 Posted September 24, 2016 Share Posted September 24, 2016 Sounds like it is time for a Class B RV. You can drive it as easily as a car, but, also, pull over and take a nap or potty. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia64 Posted September 24, 2016 Share Posted September 24, 2016 (edited) He can't ride a bike or use a bus at 1:30 a.m. I would cut out the theme park. It seems like everything else is your lives has more importance -- and that's a crazy schedule that could seriously hurt other areas of your lives. Edited to add: sorry! I hadn't read all the threads, just went off of your original post. Alley Edited September 24, 2016 by Alicia64 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmilyGF Posted September 24, 2016 Share Posted September 24, 2016 Good to hear an update! You should edit the top thread with a note about the update in post #218 so that you don't get new and unnecessary advice. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted September 24, 2016 Share Posted September 24, 2016 Good to hear an update! You should edit the top thread with a note about the update in post #218 so that you don't get new and unnecessary advice. :-) This! Good update. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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