StaceyinLA Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 Dd's levels continued to drop slowly, and they did another ultrasound to verify that the pregnancy wasn't viable. She ultimately chose to go through with a D&C yesterday. I think the emotional roller coaster over the last few weeks had really taken its toll. She is feeling okay, and I think she had come to grips with the loss even before the procedure. In light of this, I would like to get her one of those necklaces to just be a remembrance. With her sister expecting, and the excitement that will accompany that, I surely do not want her to think I am forgetting about, or diminishing the pain of, her loss. Thanks to anyone who can point me in the right direction, and I appreciate all the prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NicAnn Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 I'm very sorry for her, and your, loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moxie Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 So sorry for your family. I got my sister a necklace from Etsy. Do a search for "miscarriage memorial" and you'll find lots of stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 http://www.labelledame.com/miscarriagejewelry?gclid=CPi92OS-ubgCFYui4AodiwwAxg http://www.intimeofsorrow.com/reunion-heart-sterling-locket-necklace.html?gclid=CLHg6Oa-ubgCFY2k4AodcWAArQ http://www.myforeverchild.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 No links for the pendants, but I want to say what a wonderful thing it is you are doing for her supporting her through this, and the pendant. I know it seems like it should be a no brainer. It's your dd and so you support her, but so many mothers are not like that. My last loss I found out a couple days before my sister's bridal shower. The baby had not started to pass yet, but I had bad cramping, and had already confirmed it. I had to put a smile on and help host the bridal shower, I was not able to mourn for the baby that would never be, everything had to be sunshine and roses for my sister. It was very hurtful to have that added on top of the loss. That had been my 6th loss and I was having a harder time coping with it than the ones before. And I really could have used my mother's support. It is so uplifting to me to see how you have stood by your dd and supported her through every step of this. I am sorry for her loss and hope she recovers from the D&C quickly. back to the pendant. With my last loss, I bought a bracelet that I had made using the birthstones of the month the baby was due. It wasn't anything fancy, it was made by someone who makes jewelry at home, so a beaded bracelet but it felt good and right to have it. I wore it for a very long time. Now it sits in my jewelry box seldom worn but I like going and holding it and praying for that little soul (and the ones before). I have not seen pendants before for remembrance of a m/c but I know if it was me I would have loved for my mother to have gotten me one. Having someone else acknowledge that this was a life and wanting to remember it would have made the whole grieving process easier. Too often moms to be are expected to just get over it as soon as possible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poppy Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 So sorry for this loss. I remember when I lost one that it helped me to name the baby, even though mine was an early loss and there was no way to know gender. My little one would have been born in August, and I called her Summer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StaceyinLA Posted July 18, 2013 Author Share Posted July 18, 2013 No links for the pendants, but I want to say what a wonderful thing it is you are doing for her supporting her through this, and the pendant. I know it seems like it should be a no brainer. It's your dd and so you support her, but so many mothers are not like that. My last loss I found out a couple days before my sister's bridal shower. The baby had not started to pass yet, but I had bad cramping, and had already confirmed it. I had to put a smile on and help host the bridal shower, I was not able to mourn for the baby that would never be, everything had to be sunshine and roses for my sister. It was very hurtful to have that added on top of the loss. That had been my 6th loss and I was having a harder time coping with it than the ones before. And I really could have used my mother's support. It is so uplifting to me to see how you have stood by your dd and supported her through every step of this. I am sorry for her loss and hope she recovers from the D&C quickly. back to the pendant. With my last loss, I bought a bracelet that I had made using the birthstones of the month the baby was due. It wasn't anything fancy, it was made by someone who makes jewelry at home, so a beaded bracelet but it felt good and right to have it. I wore it for a very long time. Now it sits in my jewelry box seldom worn but I like going and holding it and praying for that little soul (and the ones before). I have not seen pendants before for remembrance of a m/c but I know if it was me I would have loved for my mother to have gotten me one. Having someone else acknowledge that this was a life and wanting to remember it would have made the whole grieving process easier. Too often moms to be are expected to just get over it as soon as possible. Thank you for your kind words. I am sorry for your losses as well. I am very sad for dd, and my oldest dd's baby shower is next weekend. I know it is going to be so difficult for her; I can't even imagine. As a parent, it is so very difficult to have so much happiness for one child, while having so much sadness for another. I'm sad for my oldest dd because I know this is going to put a damper on how much excitement I outwardly show for her. I don't want to hurt my younger dd by constantly chatting about babies and baby stuff with oldest dd. I feel guilty, and like I am in a lose-lose situation sometimes. I think if I can acknowledge that this is something I am thinking of with her, by remembering the baby, it might help her through it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so sorry. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyJoy Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 After my 2 miscarriages I got myself an engraved heart pendant from Things Remembered that said, "In Heaven and My Heart" on one side and had the babies' due dates on the other side. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celticmom Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarinesWife Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 I think it would be okay for your daughter to skip her sister's shower. Maybe suggest it to her? Later .. she could do something privately with her sister. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freeindeed Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 So sorry for this loss. I remember when I lost one that it helped me to name the baby, even though mine was an early loss and there was no way to know gender. My little one would have been born in August, and I called her Summer. Agree about naming the baby. I named both of the babies that I lost. There were several friends and family members who were expecting babies around the same time that both of mine would have been born. That was VERY hard on me. I had to avoid all things pregnancy and baby related for a while until I healed emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Let your daughter know that it's okay if she has to do the same. I am praying for her, and I am sorry for the loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PentecostalMom Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 So sorry for all of you, this must be especially difficult for you as the mother being pulled emotionally in two directions at once. I lost a baby as well and the D&C was the least of my pain. I don't wear jewelry with th exception of my wedding rings, so I planted a knockout Rose. My baby's name is Lily. (((hugs))) to all three of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flowing Brook Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 Hope of my heart design is by a lady that experience infertility then miscarriages. She has a lot of pretty jewelry. http://www.hopeofmyheart.com/ She will also do custom orders. I am so sorry for your daughter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mysticmomma Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 Family tree grass. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kat19 Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 So sorry! Has anyone every told her to try a low dose aspirin? I ask that because I know quite a few ladies on baby forums who are taking a low dose(baby) aspirin for miscarriages. I don't know a lot of information about it but maybe try to google it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 18, 2013 Share Posted July 18, 2013 I make bracelets. I just opened an Etsy shop for this. I don't have up memorial bracelets yet, but this is something I want to get into, as a charity. My shop is called wordly wear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SamuelsMommy Posted July 20, 2013 Share Posted July 20, 2013 We went through infertility treatments and ultimately adopted our son. During that time, I was a member of an infertility & loss board. One of the women there makes memorial jewelry. Her website it http://www.hopeofmyheart.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted July 20, 2013 Share Posted July 20, 2013 I'm so sorry. What a wonderful mother you've been through all of this. I would have loved for my mother to have done something so thoughtful when we lost our baby this spring. I agree with letting her know that she doesn't have to go to th e baby shower if she's not comfortable with that right now. It was helpful for us to name the baby also. We picked out a gender neutral name that we would use if we couldn't find out the sex, and then when the genetic results came back, we were able to give her a name. Your daughter is in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted July 21, 2013 Share Posted July 21, 2013 I'm so sorry and send prayers. :grouphug: Remembering and acknowledging the loss is a special mom-thing you can do for her. I wish it had worked out differently for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
displace Posted July 21, 2013 Share Posted July 21, 2013 Sorry for her loss. It may be too late for this post to be useful for you, but I liked jewelry on http://www.october15th.com It helps to have a "date" to remember/acknowledge as well. As for aspirin, it was recommended to me by a prior high risk OB when they found a uterine artery blood flow problem during my last pregnancy. They thought it "may" be helpful, and likely not harmful, so I took it. It was a successful pregnancy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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