Samiam Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 So DS6 is a Tiger Scout (DS9 is also a Webelos I). I volunteered to be a Asst Den Leader for the Tigers. The dad who is the leader is an EMS and has a very "military-like" demeanor. With that I just mean, he's seems very well, regimented, and strict. Not the fun, fluffy, type personality you want for Tigers (at least what I tried to be when I led my DS9's Tiger Den, and what the guy who ran last years' Tiger Den was). Okay, fine, let's see how it goes. Sometimes organization is key so it's not a horrible quality to have as a Den Leader, right? So he can't be at the first Den meeting, has to work, so I am going to lead it. He sent me his "schedule" for the meeting (since I was a Tiger Leader, I already know, but hey he's the official leader, so I am not going to be a know-it-all). The schedule is very regimented, very much do this, do that, say this say that...all going through the handbook stuff, not one single "Fun" thing to add to it....well, unless you count the Welcome Activity (while we wait for everyone to arrive) which he marked as "have them color or something". Basically it was sit at the table while the leader talks,plans. Boooorrring. So I changed it up, added a more fun welcome activity (create with pipe cleaners), and added an active partner game. But here's the kicker....he wants to have them immediately start working on the Tiger beads, after giving them the Tiger Emblem at this first meeting. The handbook clearly states that they need to get the Bobcat Badge first. I mentioned this to him and he says he doesn't want the boys to lose interest so wants them to get something every meeting....okaaay, but that's not the protocol, and the point is to get the Bobcat, and then start earning the fun beads. Apparently he already have this conversation with the Packmaster, who said no, Bobcat needs to be first, but the Leader is going this route anyway (he told me about this conversation). Ugh. So then in a conversation I have with the Packmaster, PM also mentioned that he, PM, is not waivering on the fact that Bobcat needs to be earned first before Tiger beads are given out. So now I am stuck with either doing what DL wants, which is to give out beads tomorrow night based on our den activity,(no one has got Bobcat yet because this is our first meeting) or going against his wishes and following the rules of PM and Handbook. At this point I just want to jump ship. I hate that it's already this messy. I hate that this new DL is deciding he's going to do it HIS way. I hate that I have to pick doing it his way or the right way. It's just UGH. It's the only Tiger Den in our Pack, so we'd have to switch Packs. Which also means switching DS9 to a different Pack, even though his Webelos I den is fine. It's only his 2nd year with this Pack, so it's not like he's been with these boys the whole time, (we were in a different state), and he's not really clicked with any of the boys (they tend to all go to to the same school, and most live in the same neighborhood so there's a bit of a clique while we are neither)...so I don't think he'd miss anyone too much. That Den has great, organized leadership though. No issues there. Am I being too picky? Making a bigger deal than it needs to be? I guess I just feel an "omen" that this DL is going to be, well, not a good DL. I am picky, and want Tigers to be a great start for DS6...I know, having a past experience with our oldest DS14 when he was younger, that if the DL stinks, the whole Scout experience stinks, especially at this age. I also know that it's likely the DL will stay with the boys as they advance, so it's not like it's just this year and then move on....no, it could be the next FIVE years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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