LinRTX Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 A year ago my daughter was starting college. She finished high school with an A average. She was beautiful, vivacious, and a joy to be around. Now she wants nothing to do with us, has dropped out of college, and is living in her car. Her choices are so wrong and I don't know why. She will not let us help. She will not even answer her phone. Sometimes life is hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freeindeed Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug: I am so sorry. I will pray for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen500 Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 I'm so sorry! Do you think she has a substance abuse problem or a mental illness? (I'm just talking out loud here, please don't feel the need to respond) :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Keep telling her you love her when you do talk, and keep telling her that there is nothing she can do that will make you love her less. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speedmom4 Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug: I cannot imagine what you all are going through. I will definitely pray for you all. I have a daughter heading off to college next year so your story is especially sad and scary. God Bless, Elise in NC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shanvan Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug:That is a very hard place for you to be in. I've BTDT with a relative, but it would be so much harder with one of my Dc. I'm sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lara in Colo Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 It really does sound like she suffered a trauma while she was there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MiniBlondes Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LinRTX Posted August 22, 2012 Author Share Posted August 22, 2012 But she was living with us and going to school from here. Suddenly she was spending more and more time away from home and now this! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfgivas Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug: i'm so sorry. its heartbreaking. :grouphug: ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 I'm so sorry! Do you think she has a substance abuse problem or a mental illness? (I'm just talking out loud here, please don't feel the need to respond):grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Keep telling her you love her when you do talk, and keep telling her that there is nothing she can do that will make you love her less. :iagree::iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug: I pray someone can talk with her and understand what is happening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in Florida Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Praying for your daughter. Just keep letting her know you are there for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 Alarm bells are clanging in my ears. Do you have any idea where this attitude came from? Living in her car is pretty drastic. I hope you are able to reach out to her and have her respond in a positive manner. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleIzumi Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacy in NJ Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 But she was living with us and going to school from here. Suddenly she was spending more and more time away from home and now this! Well, something else must be going on - not that you need to share that here. It probably relates to a relationship, a friendship, or an addiction. I hope you find the answers and can help her find her way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 praying that you find some answers and that she get's help. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 A year ago my daughter was starting college. She finished high school with an A average. She was beautiful, vivacious, and a joy to be around. Now she wants nothing to do with us, has dropped out of college, and is living in her car. Her choices are so wrong and I don't know why. She will not let us help. She will not even answer her phone. Sometimes life is hard. I am so, so sorry. How heartbreaking. I pray that she turns around soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heliconian Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 I'm so sorry! Do you think she has a substance abuse problem or a mental illness? (I'm just talking out loud here, please don't feel the need to respond):grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: This is what I would be worrying about. Or perhaps she has been victimized in some way that she doesn't feel able to deal with or talk about with anyone else. A very dear friend of mine had a similar phase of her life right after college, and it was terrifying to all of us. My thoughts are with your daughter. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisamarie Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 I agree. Drugs, alcohol, or a boy. To drastically change that much in such a short time is screaming that something is going on. Think back to all that you have seen in her. Does anything unusual stick out? Something you might have dismissed before but now makes you wonder? Did her attitude change over time or was it a quick thing? Quick would make me think something traumatic, over time would make me lean toward addiction. Clearly something is going on that she is ashamed of or doesn't want you to know about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I sooo feel for you. But I do not think this is as simple as making poor choices. She is having a breakdown of some kind. It could be due to drugs/ alcohol/ a boy as other posters suggested, I would have guessed campus rape, which is rampant, until you said she was living with you, so I would think you would have noticed a very sudden change. I do not think this was brought on by bad parenting, I do not think this is your fault. I think something extreme has happened. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 But she was living with us and going to school from here. Suddenly she was spending more and more time away from home and now this! She met someone who was a really bad influence there or has suffered a trauma, like others said, I think. Can you follow her and find out where she is and with whom? If she is underage and the other person or persons are not, maybe the police will extract her? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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