m0mmaBuck Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 Is he entering some sort of preteen argumentative phase? Today he argued with me about his math, stating the numbers in the workbook were different when he looked at them. He argued that the people in Brazil speak Portuguese because that's what the slaves spoke when they brought them to Brazil. He argued with me about spelling, saying baseball is most definitely spelled "baceball" because the "s" sound is more of a "c" sound. He is currently arguing with me about grammar because obviously verb tense agreement is not important when composing a paragraph. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 Time for a coffee break, Momma! Personally, I blame the weather. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redsquirrel Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 Wow. Looks like my kids finally made that time machine they have been talking about. He is 11 now, but that def. sounds like his 9 year old self. Or maybe it is the 6 year old aged up a bit.... I am sorry. Please know you are not alone. When he was 9 I would make him run around the block a couple times between subjects. That sometimes took the edge off. Keep 'em too tired to fight is my motto! Now he is in ballet class 4 days a week and that helped. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CalicoKat Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 :grouphug I recently gave my self permission to not have to answer my pro-arguers. There can't be an argument if I don't answer, right?! I listen. I smile. I listen. And then I try to see if they're ready to be distracted from their mental grove. Nope, not read? I smile. I listen. I smile. And try distracting again. Alrighty then, Mom's coffee needs to be refilled, or ________. If they're extreme my answer is, "When you talk to me like that the answer is always going to be no." :grouphug::grouphug: Don't engage the beast. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Bear Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 I've just finished a spelling test with my 14yo - and, um, well... Most days she doesn't need to argue like this. :tongue_smilie: My mom had one of these and while he was a pain to raise, he's been ever so rock-solid as an ethical engineer. Kids like this are more likely to lead groups *away* from drugs, etc., and be otherwise unaffected by negative peer pressure. Perhaps we could get that on a wall hanging 'specially for these times? :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amy g. Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 Oh, my, this reminds me so much of the stage my Ds went through at that age. One day, dh was home working on the car when Ds started arguing with me. I said, "I don't have to put up with this. Your dad is on the driveway. Go argue with him about it." Ds claimed to not know which driveway I was referring to. Huh? My dad was here, and he told him to go outside and search every driveway until he found his dad. Fortunately, now, we can laugh about it, and Ds does a pretty good imitation of his obnoxious former self. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 Early Defense Attorney stage :lol: . I learned this term from a poster here. Of course any means of reminding him that he is still a paralegal would make your life easier. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SebastianCat Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 My 9 year old DS is in the same stage. Glad we're not alone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scrapbookbuzz Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 It's the "magic" 9. From what I hear, and what I've experienced with my own dd, 9 years old is a HIGH TRAINING year. Which means much arguing from the child and much frustration from the parents. This too shall pass, I promise! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5LittleMonkeys Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 I don't know if I'd rather have arguing or crying. Dd8, who will be 9 in a few weeks, has taken to crying at the slightest thing. Yesterday we had 15 minutes of tears because she couldn't spell 'Paul'. What skills for adulthood would you equate that to? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrissiK Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 My 8 year old does that all the time. Drives me insane. I know I shouldn't engage him, but he just sucks me in! Right now I"m so mad at him. He gripes about what I serve for lunch (so the items he complains about I tell him he can't have, it's not that he doesn't like it, he just wants to gripe) and then he broke one of my clay pots with his soccer ball, didn't tell me about it and didn't apologize when I confronted him. I'm sorry about your kid. I understand! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oak Knoll Mom Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 My mom had one of these and while he was a pain to raise, he's been ever so rock-solid as an ethical engineer. Kids like this are more likely to lead groups *away* from drugs, etc., and be otherwise unaffected by negative peer pressure. Perhaps we could get that on a wall hanging 'specially for these times? :D Thanks, I needed to hear this today. I even emailed it to my DH. DH has always said our argumentative child is principled. God willing he hangs onto right principles! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Myeightkiddies Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 I don't participate in the argument. Typically, when they do that, they are just wanting attention. I don't give in as I don't want to encourage it. Usually I will "distract" them and find another way to give them attention - something positive. So, if one of mine was being argumentative for the sake of arguing, I would wait a few minutes then ask if he/she wanted to come help me make cookies. Usually, they will take me up on the offer. Editing to add: Healthy debates are fine and encouraged. The day-in/day-out arguing just to argue is different (handled as mentioned above). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 Ugh. My 10 year old spent the 9 year innocently asking me questions so she could argue with me about the answer. Seriously. I think she would lurk in her room, trying to figure out what question to ask to get the ball rolling. Thankfully she outgrew it shortly after I started answering every question with "are you looking for information or an opening for your prepared argument?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lang Syne Boardie Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 Ugh. My 10 year old spent the 9 year innocently asking me questions so she could argue with me about the answer. Seriously. I think she would lurk in her room, trying to figure out what question to ask to get the ball rolling. Thankfully she outgrew it shortly after I started answering every question with "are you looking for information or an opening for your prepared argument?" :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Myeightkiddies Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 Totally off topic, but is your avatar a pic of you? I'm curious. If it is, you look so young! It is me from the last week of November. Thank you. It's a picture that I resized from a larger one, which caused it to be a bit grainy and fuzzy, so it's sort of an "illusion". :D LOL. My pinterest photo is the same photo but larger. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 I know it is easier said than done, but don't argue. It may be time to have practice for library skills. It might be satisfying to say, "Prove it. Go look it up." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suppleasthewind Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 :grouphug I recently gave my self permission to not have to answer my pro-arguers. There can't be an argument if I don't answer, right?! I listen. I smile. I listen. And then I try to see if they're ready to be distracted from their mental grove. Nope, not read? I smile. I listen. I smile. And try distracting again. Alrighty then, Mom's coffee needs to be refilled, or ________. If they're extreme my answer is, "When you talk to me like that the answer is always going to be no." :grouphug::grouphug: Don't engage the beast. :iagree: Do not engage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coffeetime Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 I am both laughing and thanking God right now, because y'all just described my 10 yr old DS. I am SO GLAD this is normal. You have no idea. I am totally making my DH read this thread. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoVanGogh Posted December 9, 2011 Share Posted December 9, 2011 Don't engage the beast.:lol:From another mother with a 9-year-old boy. 'nuff said. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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