misidawnrn Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 My youngest sister and her 2 girls were over for gift exchange and dinner tonight. A while back my sister stopped calling as much and stopped bringing her kids over as much for me to watch. I asked her "are you mad at me for something?" She kept telling me no. So we were standing in the kitchen making dinner and she said "remember when you thought I was mad at you? I wasn't mad, I have just been busy. I have met someone" Good, I say, and I asked if he was nice, to which she answered... "it isn't a 'he'" I started laughing (not the best response, I know!) So we discussed "her" and what she does and how nice she is etc and how comfortable my sister is. I honestly didn't know what to really say and how to respond. One of our brothers is gay and I don't have a problem with it. I am Christian and do not think that homosexuality is right according to the Bible but I also believe it isn't my place to judge them either. I guess I am still in shock. My sister has been married twice and divorced twice, has 2 kids, has had male relationships etc, so I never saw this coming. Another thing she shocked me with is about my 16yo stepdd. She told me that her "friend" has a friend in common with DSD on facebook and that DSD is on there in a picture holding hands with another girl. I have thought for a while that DSD might be gay but I am not about to ask her about it. .... OK I am going to bed now to process my thoughts. Please no religious bashing of anyone... I am just putting my thoughts to words. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simka2 Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 :grouphug: just hugs. You sound like you are handleing things wonderfully! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzanne in ABQ Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 My youngest sister and her 2 girls were over for gift exchange and dinner tonight. A while back my sister stopped calling as much and stopped bringing her kids over as much for me to watch. I asked her "are you mad at me for something?" She kept telling me no.So we were standing in the kitchen making dinner and she said "remember when you thought I was mad at you? I wasn't mad, I have just been busy. I have met someone" Good, I say, and I asked if he was nice, to which she answered... "it isn't a 'he'" I started laughing (not the best response, I know!) So we discussed "her" and what she does and how nice she is etc and how comfortable my sister is. I honestly didn't know what to really say and how to respond. One of our brothers is gay and I don't have a problem with it. I am Christian and do not think that homosexuality is right according to the Bible but I also believe it isn't my place to judge them either. I guess I am still in shock. My sister has been married twice and divorced twice, has 2 kids, has had male relationships etc, so I never saw this coming. Another thing she shocked me with is about my 16yo stepdd. She told me that her "friend" has a friend in common with DSD on facebook and that DSD is on there in a picture holding hands with another girl. I have thought for a while that DSD might be gay but I am not about to ask her about it. .... OK I am going to bed now to process my thoughts. Please no religious bashing of anyone... I am just putting my thoughts to words. I've been surprised like that, not by someone as close as a sister, but close enough. Interestingly, a lot of other things started making more sense after she told me. Pieces fit together. I understood. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 Merciful heavens. You might have a very interesting Christmas tomorrow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 Merry Christmas!! You might need some Vodka for your OJ tomorrow... or something else of cheer.... besides just chocolate :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 The shock will wear off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StephanieZ Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 Merry Christmas!! You might need some Vodka for your OJ tomorrow... or something else of cheer.... besides just chocolate :) And then peppermint schnapps in the cocoa. . . and cinnamon schnapps in the hot cider. . . by dinner you'll be mellow as can be! Just in time to serve the wine. LOL, I am not at all homophobic. I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. . . but I still would still be startled if I were in your shoes. It's a lot to digest, to change your vision of someone. Keep smiling, and don't say anything you might regret. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peela Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 Lol, I think I would be shocked too. I am not homophobic at all either and have gay friends, and a gay BIL, but still, it's your sister and you didn't see it coming. I think I might laugh too. Oh well- at least now you know. I am sure you love each other and thats really all that is important. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 It sounds like you reacted just fine. I know I would be shocked if my own sister came to me with such a revelation. Though, I'm pretty sure she would come to me fairly quickly. We're very much in each others lives and have talked about the need to be extra supportive if any of our siblings turns out to be gay because our parents will be horrified and possibly never speak to the child again. (That's what they say anyway, who knows if they would actually follow through.) So really, not a bad reaction. :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
linders Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 I'm glad she finally felt comfortable enough to tell you, and I hope you continue to support her, and DSD, too. I really can't say I think homesexuality is wrong, and my heart breaks for friends who have to hide their "friends." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 My youngest sister and her 2 girls were over for gift exchange and dinner tonight. A while back my sister stopped calling as much and stopped bringing her kids over as much for me to watch. I asked her "are you mad at me for something?" She kept telling me no.So we were standing in the kitchen making dinner and she said "remember when you thought I was mad at you? I wasn't mad, I have just been busy. I have met someone" Good, I say, and I asked if he was nice, to which she answered... "it isn't a 'he'" I started laughing (not the best response, I know!) So we discussed "her" and what she does and how nice she is etc and how comfortable my sister is. I honestly didn't know what to really say and how to respond. One of our brothers is gay and I don't have a problem with it. I am Christian and do not think that homosexuality is right according to the Bible but I also believe it isn't my place to judge them either. I guess I am still in shock. My sister has been married twice and divorced twice, has 2 kids, has had male relationships etc, so I never saw this coming. Another thing she shocked me with is about my 16yo stepdd. She told me that her "friend" has a friend in common with DSD on facebook and that DSD is on there in a picture holding hands with another girl. I have thought for a while that DSD might be gay but I am not about to ask her about it. .... OK I am going to bed now to process my thoughts. Please no religious bashing of anyone... I am just putting my thoughts to words. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 I'm glad she finally felt comfortable enough to tell you, and I hope you continue to support her, and DSD, too. I really can't say I think homesexuality is wrong, and my heart breaks for friends who have to hide their "friends." I am not sure if homosexuality is wrong or not, except Biblically speaking. However, I also don't think it is my place to decide that for someone else. You know...throwing stones and all.... I just think it is our place to love each other and understand that we each have our own journey in this world. If I am uncomfortable with someone, I just separate myself from them. If I am comfortable with someone, their race, nationality, religion or sexual orientation has no bearing on the relationship. You should be happy your sister shared this with you. She must live you bunches to trust you enough to share this. :grouphug: again. Faithe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 BTDT with my sister, down to her having been married and having two kids. The shock will wear off eventually. It makes no difference to me, my sister is my sister and I love her dearly. It sounds like you handled it just fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 My aunt has much, much better taste in women than she ever had in men. You might find the same with your sister, lol. Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrbmom77 Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 My aunt has much, much better taste in women than she ever had in men. You might find the same with your sister, lol. Rosie :D Fun-nay. Too bad I like men. J/k. Mostly. :tongue_smilie: OP - that would be quite a shock. Kudos to you for handling it so well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hsbaby Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 Glad you handled it so well. I am sure that was the best present you could have given her! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatCyndiGirl Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 Might I suggest a book? It is Love is an Orientation and is written by a Christian man who had quite a few friends/family members come out to him in a short amount of time and he wanted to get to know them and their struggle better. He is still Christian, still hetero, those thing never changed, but his understanding of the whole dynamic is much more broad. I highly suggest it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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