Renee in NC Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 As some of you know, when we moved my oldest ds decided to stay in NC with his father so he could stay in his school. The situation was always less than ideal, but it is escalating. My ds is a good kid - good grades, not in any trouble at all, etc. The family situation there is about as dysfunctional as it can get. Recently, an older stepbrother has moved out and so now all the problems in the home are the fault of my ds. There is a tremendous amount of mental abuse going on, but so far no physical (except that he threw something at him and then jumped up in his face to scream/intinidate him.) My father is willing to take him in, but his father isn't likely to allow it. He is a senior, so coming here is not really an option (though he says he wishes he would have come with us before!) If I go back, he can move in with me and there isn't much his father can do about it (no one has legal custody.) We can't go back without a job and a place to live. The situation with my ds is getting worse and worse - the whole story would take a lot of time, but this is not a healthy situation for anyone. I am getting increasingly worried for his psychological well-being. So, we just need to get a job. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 Praying for a job. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diane in CO Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 Praying for a job for you Renee :grouphug: Diane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 That has to be hard. :grouphug: Praying you get a great job close to your ds. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle in AL Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 Praying Renee :grouphug: I was in your son's shoes at one time. I know it's hard. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 Lifting you up :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 I'm praying for you and yours. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 Be strong :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caitilin Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 :grouphug: God's peace to you in your search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathmom Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Crimson Wife Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 :grouphug: Praying for your family. Can your DS go to court and get legally emancipated? That way he could go live with his grandfather and there would be nothing your ex could do about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachin'Mine Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 I'm praying for you, your son, and your whole family. :grouphug: Couldn't he move in with you and go to ps local to you? I know it's his senior year, and it's not ideal to change schools now, but he'd be transferring from another ps, so all his credits would apply and he could just pick up the same subjects he has now. It sounds like that home situation is horrible. :confused: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenL Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 Praying :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in PA Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted October 30, 2010 Author Share Posted October 30, 2010 I'm praying for you' date=' your son, and your whole family. :grouphug: Couldn't he move in with you and go to ps local to you? I know it's his senior year, and it's not ideal to change schools now, but he'd be transferring from another ps, so all his credits would apply and he could just pick up the same subjects he has now. It sounds like that home situation is horrible. :confused: :grouphug:[/quote'] This is not an option for many reasons. He *needs* to graduate from the school he is in. Transferring now would make it so he probably would not get into college for various reasons. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted October 30, 2010 Author Share Posted October 30, 2010 :grouphug:Praying for your family. Can your DS go to court and get legally emancipated? That way he could go live with his grandfather and there would be nothing your ex could do about it. I looked into and it would really take too long. Ds will be 18 in May and he plans to leave that day. We had been trying to have him tough it out by staying busy away from the house (extracurriculars, sports, working with my Dad, etc.) but now his Dad has said he cannot go anywhere without specific, express permission and he isn't giving permission. We *think* this was done to keep ds from my Dad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melanie in WI Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 I'll pray for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2a&z Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 :grouphug: Praying for you and your family :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 How old is your son? If he's almost 18, he could move to your dad's as soon as he turns 18 - in fact, he might be able to move sooner depending on your state's laws. Anne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 I hope you find something soon. :grouphug: Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted October 31, 2010 Author Share Posted October 31, 2010 How old is your son? If he's almost 18, he could move to your dad's as soon as he turns 18 - in fact, he might be able to move sooner depending on your state's laws. Anne He has 8 more months or so until he is 18. We are investigating the states laws. The sheriff dept. told my Dad one thing and a social worker in the county told me something slightly different. It really seems to boil down to how much trouble his Dad wants to make for everyone, the reasons ds tells the deputies he doesn't want to go home, and the deputy who would respond to the runaway call. We'll be there in a few weeks and see what we can figure out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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