dirty ethel rackham Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 I am having a really bad day. The perfect storm of my PMS day, plus my seasonal affective disorder have combined to put me in the worst frame of mind. I spent 20 minutes in the shower planning to leave my husband and this entire life behind, but chose to re-enter the real world (as in exiting the shower) when I remembered that I have children. Every month, when this comes around, I want a new life, new husband, new everything. Then the reality sets in that no matter how new everything is, I am still the same old me. It is especially bad today because I am really feeling the energy deficit of the SAD. No matter how much makeup I put on this morning, it is not hiding the ravages of sobbing in the shower. I am weepy and crabby. I just chewed out dd for wanting me to do math with her before I had my breakfast. I should be rejoicing that she wants to do math. I can't even compose a coherent paragraph. Please pray that I will see the sunshine today, that I will be able to feel how good I have it, let this pity party go, and not say or do anything I will regret when I get back to a more normal frame of mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 :grouphug: Thinking about you and praying for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Dominion Heather Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 :grouphug: Praying for sunshine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 :grouphug: Praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle in AL Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I've struggled with PMS/hormonal changes too. Here's what's worked for me in case it may work for you too. You may have already tried these: Calcium Vit D chews (last piece of the puzzle for me, took away all my symptoms) Magnesium 250mg/day Super B Complex Vitamin Fish Oil Zinc (for skin) Please consider medication if you feel this badly (for you and your family), it can be life changing or at least take the edge off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam L in Mid Tenn Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 :grouphug: It's Friday. Skip math. Give the kids some books to read, or papers to color, or legos to build. Maybe park them in front of some TV. Documentaries are great. I think that Mythbusters and Dirty Jobs are educational. Dh and I watched an old episode of Dirty Jobs last night about mule logging. I might assign ds13 to research mule logging on the internet this afternoon. I can see that topic jumping into several subjects! :grouphug: I'm 49. I completely understand. You'll feel better on Monday. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 Do you have a light box?? Those work wonders for SAD! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nono Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 Wow -- you showered??!!!! That's amazing! :hurray: I have SAD am in my mid 40s...so, while I'm kidding, I'm not! :tongue_smilie: I call these my pause days. I have to pause my whole life and sit and cuddle for the day. The dog, the kids, etc. (When I cuddle, I don't run off with the mouth so much). I just don't do anything planned and I sit. I usually have 1 pause day a month. Used to fight it. I just can't anymore. Having a pause day doesn't seem to disrupt our family much. Just something to consider. :grouphug: and a prayer for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyGrace Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 (edited) :Calcium Vit D chews (last piece of the puzzle for me, took away all my symptoms) Magnesium 250mg/day Super B Complex Vitamin Fish Oil Zinc (for skin) :grouphug: I was there in a big way this summer. Found out I needed progesterone (I'm almost 42)!!!! Read this book What Your Doctor May Not Tell you about Premenopause and do what it says. I had the saliva test and started on Emerita progesterone cream-it is reasonably priced, all natural, and may be bought over the counter. My levels didn't even show up low on my tests but I knew I had the symptoms of estrogen dominance so I trusted my gut and started it anyway. Changed my LIFE. Seriously. Also take St. John's Wort, B complex, Fish oil (Carlson's The Very Best Fish Oil), and zinc, as mentioned above. And if you haven't, GET YOUR VITAMIN D levels checked. Mine were dismal. I realized I need a constant HIGH dose of D to function (I am in the Northeast.) Carlson D drops are great. Go easy on yourself til you feel better. ETA: It took a couple cycles on the pro cream to start feeling well again, but keep with it! Edited October 29, 2010 by HappyGrace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sophia Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 :grouphug: I'm sorry. What a horrible way to start the weekend. I used to live in the western burbs of Chicago and was also affected by the gray skies this time of year. Praying some of the suggestions others have offered will help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalphs Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 :grouphug: Praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:I'm so sorry, Ellen!!! I think hormones can really make someone feel like they're going insane. I know last month was HORRIFIC for me. I had NO stress, everything was going well, but I had a VERY bad mood, then a VERY, VERY bad cycle and it all made sense. I fear when menopause actually sets in. I felt so unstable for a few days, crying, isolating myself, etc. It was SOOOOOOOOOOO not me! Do you have a light box? SAD responds WELL to a light box. You can make one cheap by buying full spectrum light bulbs and rigging up something yourself. I'd bet even having a few lamps with the full spectrum bulbs would help. I recommend you do this and while you're drinking your coffee or tea in the morning, soak in the rays from these bulbs. I used to not believe in SAD but after my head injury when I went through a ton of testing, the dr. talked to me about it, said it was REAL, cited the Scandinavian studies, etc. I want to buy the bulbs because on rainy days I have NO ENERGY. Anyway, it would be worth a try!!! :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Also, maybe some natural progesterone cream and/or herbs will help. You don't need to suffer through all of this! If you continue to do so, TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2abcd Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 Oh, shucks. NOT a good way to feel. Echoing the others... Vitamin D helps me A LOT. You can have your levels checked at the doctor and get a prescription for the high potency stuff to get you started. Or... http://www.iherb.com/ProductDetails.aspx?pid=6113980569814739786 Carlson Labs, Ddrops, Vitamin D, 2000 IU, 11 ml $13 Natural Progesterone Cream may help, too. Some call it the Happy Cream. Hormones are such a balancing act. It is so hard sometimes to control one's emotions. The fact is you have the husband who is right for you. He and your kids need you. They love you. You love them. The grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence. (Though surely things will be better after menopause, right?!) Hang in there. Hang on to God! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyGrace Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 (edited) I wanted to add two things that may be helpful to say to yourself during the worst of it- 1. Feeling like this is NOT who I am, and the things I am thinking right now are NOT reality-I am sick right now. 2. I WILL feel good again-this will pass. I'm not talking about "positive thinking" per se, just a way to try to stop your thoughts from going into the downward spiral. I totally understand! :grouphug::grouphug: Praying for you! Edited October 29, 2010 by HappyGrace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 You know, my PMS was extra bad this month. I had not thought about the effect of less sunlight. Maybe that's why it was so intense. I chewed out some guy at Sam's when I got bad service. I was beside myself for 2 days, then I finally felt as if I was back in my right mind. :grouphug: to you. I know it's hard. As my mom keeps saying, "This too shall pass." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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dirty ethel rackham Posted October 31, 2010 Author Share Posted October 31, 2010 I just wanted to thank all of you for your prayers last week. I survived my awful day and am doing much better. (Nope, I didn't pack my bags;).) Thanks for all your suggestions. I have been doing most of them already. This one caught me by surprise somehow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GESTEP Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 I am just starting to experience some signs and found that eliminating sugar has helped with my mood. Glad you are feeling better:thumbup1: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
treestarfae Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 I like this for PMS http://bestchinesemedicines.com/details.php?id=37 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 Do you have a light box?? Those work wonders for SAD! :iagree: We have this one and it really does make such a difference. I keep it on in my bathroom while I shower and do my hair/makeup. Sometimes I use it again in the afternoon if it's an especially gloomy day or I'm dragging. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 It would be really great if wnter stayed away for me, and it would be super extra great if we didn't "fall back'. I hear you. I am thinking about a light box. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 Right there with you, dearie. :cheers2: May God give you peace today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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