Joanne Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Remember that on the last custody date we were granted a continuance so that the other side could pursue a psychological evaluatioin? Well, my still unemployed xh has the money for it (the court required his side to fully fund it). They cost several thousand or more. Today, from my attorney, I get this: Joanne, * While I know how this offer will be perceived, I am obligated to pass this along.* Mr. (Xh's attorney) called to offer that, in addition to maintaining child support at the current level should Andrew go to live with Mr xh, he would also pay you $4000 that would otherwise go to Dr. Expensive Profesional for the evaluation.* ______ Current level of child support equals $400 for 3 kids. Total; not each. Um. Sick. Does he REALLY think it's about the money for me? I have stopped posting many specifics but this one takes the cake. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Gak! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Katia Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Oh. My. Gosh. Wow. There are simply no words. Sheesh.:001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caitilin Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Words fail me.:confused::confused::confused: :grouphug: to you and your DC and DH through this nonsense. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 I'm really sorry, Joanne. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Do you have this nonsense in writing? If so, I'd make sure it was entered into evidence as an example of the kind of parent your xdh is. Seriously. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nicole M Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 This is heartbreaking. And I don't understand why he is fighting for just one child. I find that confusing and heartbreaking as well. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted August 22, 2009 Author Share Posted August 22, 2009 Do you have this nonsense in writing? If so, I'd make sure it was entered into evidence as an example of the kind of parent your xdh is. Seriously. It was a phone call between attorneys. Surely it would be admissible? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMCassandra Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Blech. SuperBlech. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 (edited) It was a phone call between attorneys. Surely it would be admissible? Of course it was verbal. :001_huh: Lawyers are too smart to put this stuff in writing. Maybe one of the attorneys here will pop up and answer this. Ask your attorney as well. I'd try to bring it to light if it doesn't make you look bad. Sometimes evaluators or judges just ignore any negative info. from exes. They've seen so much of it. :001_unsure: Edited August 22, 2009 by True Blue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandy in TN Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 That is so sad it makes me want to cry.:grouphug: Mandy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujsky Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Do you have this nonsense in writing? If so, I'd make sure it was entered into evidence as an example of the kind of parent your xdh is. Seriously. :iagree: That is really horrible and sick! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TraceyS/FL Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 My attorney follows those kinds of calls up with a letter stating what they said. You might ask about it. :grouphug: but mine where/are for sale for a price too, and I'm not caving since the KIDS cry over the item that is the price. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 That's so awful!! I'm so sorry you are going through this. :( :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
camibami Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 :blink: I simply cannot imagine why you left such a prince as that man. I've seen some crappy exs, but geez- yours takes the cake! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 How truly awful. I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Gah! :confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fivetails Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Why are the courts dragging this all out anyway? Isn't the child in question something like 13? (Or did I get things mixed up?) .. It's just that by that age, youth are often given a choice as to where they want to live in a custody fight - as long as both homes are safe/etc, of course. I rarely hear of custody battles involving teens ~ mainly because it's pretty difficult to force a teen to live somewhere they don't want to be. They'll often just refuse. Regardless, that "offer" from your ex is pathetic. What a drip. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmilyK Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Offers in settlement are generally not admissible (though of course it completely depends on the jurisdiction, which is why I usually don't answer lawyer questions). I'm so sorry to hear about this. Joanne's son has a great mom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissel Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 (edited) Oh. My. Gosh. Wow. There are simply no words. Sheesh.:001_huh: I can think of a few :glare: That is just horrifying and disgusting. What great proof of what kind of person he is, though. Put that letter in a safe deposit box! ETA: Oops, hadn't read the whole thread. Of course it was verbal, ugh. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this waste of space for a minute longer than you should have had to :grouphug: Edited August 22, 2009 by melissel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Couldn't something like this be used to file a complaint against x's lawyer? I mean...talk about unethical! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Sick. And I thought my ex was a "winner". The idiot probably can't even see how much he is damaging his relationship with his kids with all this. Instead of working with you to arrange a workable custody situation he is driving his kids away more and more with his games and attempts to control. He won't end up with custody and in the end all the kids will likely cut him out of their lives. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gingersmom Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Nothing surprises me. My X (unemployed and living with his mother, cancelled health insurance for his kids and didn't tell me, etc) went before the judge and told him "I do not need to pay child support". Not that he was anyway. In his mind he had himself convinced (and I have no doubt his mother backed him up on this) he did not have to pay child support. So $400 would have been a lot of money for me. I was getting $0. Luckily the judge felt differently. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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