We tried for many years for our first. We desperately wanted a baby. We went the usual testing routes to no avail. 6 months after we decided to stop I found out I was pg. Somehow we got pg first try next time but I miscarried at 3 months. We tried again but decided not to pursue any additional testing, procedures this time. We went back and forth about having a baby. Dh was fine if we didn't have another. I really wanted a house full of children. Finally, almost 13 years later the week of Christmas I decided I was ok if we didn't have anymore. We were at an easy point of our lives, etc. The next week I found out I was pg. After a year of sleep deprivation, I no longer have that desire to have another baby. I'm also 40 and am really feeling my age right now.