I am so, so sorry.

I agree that three intake appointments seems ridiculous. I'm glad you are questioning it. The thing I am the most sorry about is how hard it is to get help once you get someone to agree they need help. I will keep praying.

Stone is such a dog, lol. He can't help himself. I like Holly better too.

That is funny. I can never figure out how some people come up with this stuff!

Still praying for you!

Honestly there isn't much a friend can do other than be fun and help take the parent's mind off the troubles. That was my biggest contribution to my friend who just went through her custody battle and she appreciated it tremendously. Sometimes we forget to have fun in life, and a good friend can be there to remind us to live a little.

He looks amazing! Congrats!

Well, yes, guilt pleasures does sound a little... naughty. I really was referring to comfort reading, lol.

I will be the first person to admit that during stressful times I read trash. Utter trash. Stuart Woods, trash. Lately I've been reading Amanda Lee, and she is several steps above Stuart Woods, lol, but still she isn't Liane Moriatry who is truly, deeply clever and makes you think more than you might like under stress. What is you go to when you need fluffy reading?

Honestly, in her case she is going to have to do something on the phone or maybe pet sitting. The kind of pet sitting where you just go feed someone's birds or cats, not the kind where you walk a dog for an hour at a time.

I bet she doesn't get it. My dd does it once in a while for Twitter pics but is well aware it's not an attractive look. She does it for the stupid doggy filter. I think the doggy filter is dumb, but whatever.

I would send her. You have a big responsibility and it sounds very challenging. I would do what is best for everyone, which is to take some reasonable precautions for yourself to keep yourself from burning out totally.

I do feel sorry for her regarding lifestyle change. Those changes are hard. If it weren't for the fact that she has already had a crippling depression and you were afraid she is slipping into another one I would say she was always judging people and is is now feeling judged the way she used to judge. Which may still be the case, but I do think you should chose a quiet time with no kids or dh's around to tell her you are worried about her slipping into another depression. If she can't make changes I would distance myself from her because you can't keep propping up someone else. It's just unsustainable.

That brings back memories of my mom and sister and I staying up on Saturday night to watch The Love Boat. I was very disappointed to learn that real cruise ships do not allow that sort of fraternization, lol.

Still praying!

I have no advice, but I suspect if I took a similar test I would have a similar result. So I am curious to see what will happen for you. BTW, I am a super white person, but my brothers have AA features and my mom grows a REAL afro, and my mom's grandmother really really looks like the mixed kids I have seen from her few pictures.I really suspect there is plenty of AA in my family history.

I also agree that once a person is B team becoming A team is probably not in the cards. As a matter of fact DH did it at his last corporate job and it made so many people mad he ended up fired. Not because he had done anything wrong, he actually had become a star and the other B team people were resentful, and the A team people didn't think he belonged. It was a bad JR High sort of mentality that somehow many corporate environments never outgrow. I don't think that's Jenny's problem. There was one job and the more senior person got it and it was a disappointment. They are asking what they can do, I would give them a chance to see if they step up, but I would move on entirely if don't step up at this point and at least get her working four days a week. That is a totally reasonable request.

I strongly suspected this would be the case. I am not surprised at all. I hope an ER doc can get your dh meds ASAP.

Sounds like my own personal idea of hell, probably why my ancestors immigrated, but it does look interesting to watch.

As an oldest child, I think it was HUGE for my sister that I moved out right when I turned 18 and let her have a turn at being the oldest with all it entailed. She really stepped up and became a different person. Not that my sister was as shy as the OP's dd, but still, it was really good for her to be the leader. One thing that was very hard on my cousin who is my age is that neither of her older sisters moved out EVER, (her oldest sister lived at home until she died at 54 and the other lived at home until she was 36), so my cousin ALWAYS had someone telling her what to do, and she never got to grow up. It was not good for her.

Praying.

If it won't be a struggle to get them there I would do it. If they aren't going to want to get ready, ect and it's going to end up as more work for you, I wouldn't. Your health needs to come first right now.

We have a timeshare, but no vacation house. I wouldn't want one. Where we live most of the houses here are vacation homes and I appreciate the people who have them and do business with us.

I just wanted to say I am sorry. Our own dog, a Golden, is such a lover that he must constantly be monitored to keep from scaring people with his exuberance.

I had a mom in my first home school group years ago who did the same thing. It was Kid of the Week, because she had two boys, but it solved who sat in front in the car and other things.