Miss Peregrine Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 but my husband is going to be off work for 3 to 4 months. :svengo: He is having surgery for a work injury and I am anticipating being driven crazy. It is already putting me in a bad mood. That's sad, though. How can I change my perspective and attitude and be joyful that we will get to spend so. much. time together? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted January 10, 2014 Author Share Posted January 10, 2014 Is he annoying or demanding? He is a micromanager. He also cannot stand to not be doing something, which is annoying, because if does too much he wont heal as fast. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 You just need ideas to keep him busy that are not too physical. Maybe you could give him a little budget for trading penny stocks? Is he interested in any period in history so you could stock up on books, maps, etc? Has he ever wanted to write a book? Maybe he could get ready and do his own version of NaNoWriMo? Does he have an iPad or gaming platform where he could get interested in games? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Find him a hobby! One that can be done using his brain more than his body. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Would he help homeschool the kids? He wouldn't have to move around much to do that. This could be helpful since it could free you up to do other things that need to be done that he won't be able to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 How can I change my perspective and attitude and be joyful that we will get to spend so. much. time together? If I were in this situation, I'd be planning lots of things we could do together at home. Even if it's just along the lines of board games or planning to watch a movie together in the evenings. I'm assuming he won't be able to get out much as he's healing. If that's not the case, and he can get out and do things with you and the kids, I'd be planning regular activities outside the home to break things up a bit. DH and I go stir-crazy if we're just hanging around the house for too long. We do better when there's something planned, whether it's inside or outside the home. Having a plan keeps you moving towards "the next thing", so you won't feel as overwhelmed by the prospect of having your DH home full-time for several months. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Keep him well drugged. :lol: Or that. :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsheresomewhere Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Keep him well drugged. :lol: Or duct tape. Maybe plan mommy sanity breaks just to run for coffee/tea/etc when he is well enough for you to leave him alone for a few. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 :grouphug: Can you set him up in your room to give you a bit of space? I agree with keeping him busy, many recovering peeps can go a bit stir crazy, thus driving their care-takers crazy. Schedule some you time. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bolt. Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Read the book "Boundaries in Marriage" -- maybe he will too. It will help you both (or at least you) take responsibility for your own choices, refrain from blaming each other for your own moods, ask for what you want (without demanding), and set your own boundaries ton what you will or won't tollerate from each other... Plus many other skills. Well worth it in most marriages... Probably essential for this season of yours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Have him learn to knit, crochet, cross-stitch. (My sister worked with a gentleman who cross-stitched and he won ribbons at the state fair numerous years.) Best wishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Send him to his mothers. I have been dealing with my dh's disability since July. The only thing that has saved my sanity is sending him to his mothers for a few days every few weeks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristusG Posted January 10, 2014 Share Posted January 10, 2014 Have him do any read alouds. Or do a project with the kids. Get him interested in a great TV series....one with 5 or 6 seasons LOL. Get him a stack of great books. Does he have any hobbies? Writing? Painting? Teach him to coupon and he can save you money on groceries, etc. It takes a lot of online time and planning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 Have him learn to knit, crochet, cross-stitch. (My sister worked with a gentleman who cross-stitched and he won ribbons at the state fair numerous years.) Best wishes. Like what this man did. He ended up making 600 hats for the Salvation Army. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UncleEJ Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 I feel your pain! My DH was home from July to the middle of October due to a sprained ankle (yes, you can sprain your ankle that badly, he completely severed three ligaments). There were definitely some trials during that time, especially the first month and a half. After that we got used to it and he was more mobile then as well. What helped us was getting his his own ipad, lots of magazines and tv. We got through whole seasons of many shows during that time lol! But I will say that by the time he did go back to work, I actually missed him! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poppy Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 Buy an xbox! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted January 11, 2014 Author Share Posted January 11, 2014 I should have mentioned that he is having shoulder surgery and will only have use of one arm. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T'smom Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 I like the read aloud idea! Plus, he can do board games or listen to the kids read. If he likes board games maybe get something new that he can learn. (We just bought the Game of thrones card game and it has a steep learning curve! Or maybe we're just dumb.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 My DH was out of work for a while. If I had it to do over again, I would've gotten a job and had him homeschool. It was fun for a while, but it got old fast. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatHomeschoolDad Posted January 11, 2014 Share Posted January 11, 2014 Wine. Bhuddist texts. Zen texts. Quasi Bhuddist or Zen, like "Chop Wood, Carry Water" or "Power of Now" The above on audio during suspiciously long walks "just around the block." Yoga / meditation class - perfect time to try, esp with a coupon! Chocolate. For you, I mean. For him, tool catalogs, a laptop, a remote, and opiods. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted January 11, 2014 Author Share Posted January 11, 2014 He will be set up in a recliner in our bedroom. We are moving the tv up there, too. He does not read. :001_rolleyes: HIs hobbies all use arms. *sigh* This will be a great time to try out all the marriage counseling we just went through. :laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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