KidsHappen Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 Obviously, I can not say much on a public forum but my dd is in the same situation as the one our dear friend was going through recently. She is 19, has a good job, is going to college and has a safe place to go and yet she is choosing to remain where she is. I am going through a depressed phase right now and I am not thinking clearly and do not know how to handle this. I could use support, advice, prayers and positive thoughts. Please do not kick me while I am down because I on't have the resources to deal with it. Also may I please ask that you do not quote this particular post as I may remove it when I am thinking more clearly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hana Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 Sending you positive thoughts and hoping some of our boardmates have wisdom for you. My daughter was in a similar situation but did not tell us until later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 I'm so sorry :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink Fairy Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 Wish I had some helpful advice, but I'll be praying for you and your family. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 :grouphug: Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm sorry your dd is going through this. :grouphug: You will be in my prayers. The only advice I have is to keep communications open. Make sure you are talking to her often, and listen, really listen to her. Try hard not to jump at her with advice. I know it's hard. My mom had to deal with this. Thankfully the other person came to her senses a week before the wedding. But it's so hard to watch. And when she does come around, just be there for her. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 And when she does come around, just be there for her. :grouphug: :iagree: I wish there was more. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindergretta Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 :( I am so sorry. I am praying for you and for her. :grouphug: I have no experience with this so I have nothing helpful to offer. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted December 2, 2011 Share Posted December 2, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so very sorry. All you can do is keep the lines of communication open and make sure she knows she has a safe place to go. Don't argue or have impassioned pleadings with her--just calmly make sure she knows she has a safe place. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 I'm hoping someone has some professional advice for you. I offer prayer, good thoughts and :grouphug: I think I would be straight forward about my thoughts. I do know these things are serious. I lost a good friend in my 20s. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 Are you able to brainstorm with her about various options? Not in an instructive way, but in a creative, helpful way? It seems that someone will be less apt to leave/end a bad situation if they do not know of other options out there. I'm so sorry. I really have no experience with this, so do not know if this is practical advice or not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug: So sorry. I had to watch this with a sibling and it was a very helpless spot to be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug: What a tough thing to deal with. I agree with the pps - just keep the lines of communication open. Praying for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 I'm sorry, Kids. How hard it is to watch our children in these situations and feel so helpless. Take care of yourself, please. Eat well, rest, meds, whatever recharges you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unscripted Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 I have no advice... Both of you are in my prayers. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 Does she not feel as though she is in danger, or is she admitting that it's a possibility, but doesn't want to leave? Can you work out a system w/ her where she checks in w/ you daily, at a certain time, and have a codeword for if she needs you to call in the police? :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug: Praying for wisdom, strength, and clarity for you and your dd. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyof4ks Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 Keep communication open. I have a family member who was in that situation, and no amount of talking or convincing would change her mind. :grouphug: That is a hard situation indeed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 :grouphug:Lots of hugs, no idea what I'd do in your shoes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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