Harriet Vane Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 (edited) UPDATE: Thanks for your prayers and hugs. I so appreciate it. While it was not as bad as it really might have been, it did not go well at all. I was calm and rational; she was contained and irrational. I was glad she stayed contained--I expected a spectacular temper tantrum (it's happened before). She is unfortunately well entrenched in some denial and was also dishonest. She threw out some ugly, ridiculous accusations at me to make herself feel better. I ended by telling her how much I care about her (I've known her since she was just a child) and asked her to please remember that I have always, ever wanted only the very best for her. She rolled her eyes at me. I was torn between feeling so sad for her and being angry/incredulous at the rudeness. It will actually be easier for me without her--I can easily get another cleaning lady that won't bring her emotional baggage into my life--I'm just so sad to see her sliding downward. I pray God opens her eyes so she can make herself open to getting the help she needs. Thanks again. Hi folks, I have to fire someone over the next hour. This person is emotionally volatile and has no idea that this will happen. She thinks it can be smoothed over. If she chooses, she can restore her friendship with me. However, she cannot continue working for me. Not only am I done with the drama, unreliability, poor work, and DRAMA--it's really not in HER best interests for anyone to enable her to continue the drama. I'm unhappy and upset about the whole thing. This is someone who has struggled a lot--I think she is drinking and engaging in very negative life choices right now. When she was first in my employ she was fresh from an extensive rehab experience and doing soooo well. I've watched her slide in the last several months though and am heartbroken. I've watched this happen with others, and know too well the signs. Just pray for our discussion tonight. Thanks. Edited January 6, 2010 by strider Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stansclan89 Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dayle in Guatemala Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 I will be praying. :grouphug: I know this is difficult for you, I'm sorry you have to do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 Praying. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8circles Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug: That's hard. Praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 Praying here. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 Praying. So sorry you have to do this. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 So hard :grouphug: I will keep you both in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 Praying. Sorry you have to do this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 oh, I'm so sorry. I pray that you have the right words and that she receives them well, even takes them to heart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 :grouphug: Always sad when you know it could have been different... BUT, that doesn't mean it has to be your problem anymore! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 Be strong. I know it is so hard when the other person doesn't take responsibility for their own bad decisions. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 Do you have someone there w/ you? Be safe. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nrg Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 :grouphug: Please let us know how it goes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted January 6, 2010 Author Share Posted January 6, 2010 Do you have someone there w/ you? Be safe. Yes, dh and the kids were just upstairs. Thanks for your concern. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 So? How did it go? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crissy Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 My reply likely comes after the fact, so I wish you peace tonight, strider. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted January 6, 2010 Author Share Posted January 6, 2010 UPDATE: Thanks for your prayers and hugs. I so appreciate it. While it was not as bad as it really might have been, it did not go well at all. I was calm and rational; she was contained and irrational. I was glad she stayed contained--I expected a spectacular temper tantrum (it's happened before). She is unfortunately well entrenched in some denial and was also dishonest. She threw out some ugly, ridiculous accusations at me to make herself feel better. I ended by telling her how much I care about her (I've known her since she was just a child) and asked her to please remember that I have always, ever wanted only the very best for her. She rolled her eyes at me. I was torn between feeling so sad for her and being angry/incredulous at the rudeness. It will actually be easier for me without her--I can easily get another cleaning lady that won't bring her emotional baggage into my life--I'm just so sad to see her sliding downward. I pray God opens her eyes so she can make herself open to getting the help she needs. Thanks again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dayle in Guatemala Posted January 6, 2010 Share Posted January 6, 2010 :grouphug:I'm really sorry it came to this.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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