Mrs. Frankweiler Posted June 17, 2009 Share Posted June 17, 2009 I didn't want to hijack the thread on visiting out-of-town family, but I have to ask this question..... I, too, am always having to visit out of town family and those visits are rarely reciprocated. I'm the only one who moved away from the hometown. It's not that I mind going to visit, I'm just tired of being the ONLY one doing the traveling. It's exhausting, not to mention expensive. So let's say a person (in this case, me!) is tired of always being the one who has to drag herself and her children on long car trips to visit out of town family. Let's say she's had enough, and finally finds the backbone to say, "I am not going down there, but you (parents, sisters, brothers, etc...) are more than welcome to our home." And she refuses to succomb to the guilt-ridden pleas from said relatives that little Johnny will be so sad if his cousins aren't there for his birthday/graduation/etc.... How long does a long-distance sister hold out? What if no one EVER visits? Do the kids never see the cousins again? The grandparents aren't getting any younger. How long until she folds and loads the kids in the car, again. In my case, I've tried to put my foot down, but something always makes me go back. They have some valid reasons....kids in school, moms work, my schedule (as a homeschooler) is so much more flexible. My only excuse is that I'm tired of traveling, visiting, and feeling like I'm being pushed around. Should I just suck it up and keep visiting and think of it as my cross to carry? I'm feeling like they are being selfish and eventually my resentment will boil over and cause a big family stir (which already happened once.) WWYD? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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