Antipsychotics or mood stabilizers might be helpful, someone needs to call the person who prescribes meds ASAP. These are drugs that are taken daily, unlike rescue meds like a limited number of Ativan. The current med regime of 3 Ativan/mo is NOT going to work. Hugs to you.

I like this post so much I have to quote it too! 😀 There are a TON of red flags in this child's speech. At his age is is very likely NOT to fix itself simply due to the number of various issues identified. A good evaluation will provide insight into why these problems are occurring and how to remediate them. If left unaddressed, these problems are definitely going to negatively affect him educationally and socially. That poor child.

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This concerns me, as someone who cared for my mother with Alzheimers until her death. I am really glad the guns are removed. Now it is VERY important not to let him drive anymore. You do not want to wait until he fails at driving, as innocent people could be injured or killed. Remember you do not have to be honest with him. His brain is not allowing him to be rational and it will continue to deteriorate. For his own safety and peace of mind, you can tell him a reason he can accept at this time. It is a kindness to allow his paranoia to abate, if you can achieve that. For the driving, it may be, "the doctor said so". His doc may be willing to literally write a paper prescription that says no driving. Police may be willing to assist with this as well. Remove his keys from the home and hide the remaining set well. It's dangerous if he drives and must stop ASAP. In my area we have "Silver Alerts" in which people with dementia are lost multiple times a month. For the money, you can tell him that the payer is using direct deposit now and it is going directly into the bank account. If necessary (and funds are available), you can set up transfers between 2 of their own accounts so it looks like a new deposit is going in every 8 days (e.g., transfer $800 in form savings, show him, transfer it back out a day later, transfer it in again when the next deposit is "due"). when you show him the account, choose the view that shows "deposits" so he is only seeing the list of credits, not the removal of the money later. If he asks for the guns back, tell him his son is getting them professionally cleaned/ tuned up/ displayed at the VA for being an awesome collection/appraised for value or something (I'm not a gun owner, I don't know exactly what is plausible here! LOL) and they will be ready "next week". Keep saying "next week" as he has probably lost track of time in any abstract way, and if he hasn't yet, he will shortly. Start looking for a facility with a locked unit. My mother had to move to one for her safety and it was awesome and she THRIVED there because it was set up to accommodate dementia. Hugs to you all.

You might be able to see it if you go through her site and click the link there: https://www.drlisadamour.com/articles/ I really like Lisa Damour. Untangled was excellent and I have her newest book on pre-order.

Hugs and support to you, Squirrellymama. I have been in a somewhat similar position and it is such a challenge. We used to attend a religious co-op and we are not actually religious; we were respectful of their beliefs and kept our thoughts to ourselves since this was clearly their space. We did it for the classes and the activities. Anyway, my son took a writing class in middle school and had to do a persuasive essay and presentation. A limited number of ridiculously noncontroversial topics were available (literally stuff like "smoking is bad for you") including "God created all people". On his own my son received permission to present the opposite case "Present-day humans evolved from primates". I nearly died when I found out. He was disappointed at the reaction to his presentation as all his classmates looked at him like he was dumb as a rock and no one asked him any questions or even presented a counter-argument. He was genially frozen out. We did get Ken Hamm books in our mailbox though! Your son's topic is not likely to go over as quietly, at least around here it would not. Good luck!

And it arrived like 5 hours earlier than they expected! A true Seattle weather event, full of surprises. We are all desperately hoping things start getting cancelled for tomorrow. Bring on the SNOW DAY! Or icy roads day, as it may be....

This is great advice! Like X 100

Congrats to you!!!!

Thanks for doing that! What is wrong with people? 👿

That is genius. I am buying a clip TODAY.

I clean the bathroom every morning after I've gotten ready in it. I just throw miscellaneous items my teens leave out in the drawer, wipe down the sink with windex, grab a bleach wipe and clean the toilet surfaces and the lid on the garbage can, done. It takes one minute and everything stays decent. Also I buy gas every Saturday no matter how full the tank is; no having to add an emergency stop for gas during the midweek craziness.

I think I agree with most posters that the author wrongly attributes some elements (ex too much work all the time) to her generation when it applies to all adults. I think previous generations faced a wide variety of hardships that are unaccounted for in this article, and I think the number of people who retire at 55 is vanishingly small. But I also agree that it is harder in some ways to be financially stable as an adult than it was in the second half of the 20th century for college-educated adults. One thing that I think negatively affects people below the age of 40ish is the tremendous amount of connectivity and feedback they have received their entire lives about all types of information and decisions 24/7. I wonder if the rates of anxiety and depression are higher for those who have never known the world without 24/7 news; who hear about every tragedy the minute it happens (often with live video); and then who see on social media a glorified, glamorous, pinterest version of the peers' lives lived in real time. Wouldn't that have a terrible effect on how they perceive their own lives? Of course we have always had the pressure to conform to certain standards; ask any woman who was married with children in the 1950s how that felt. The difference is, they weren't confronted with the visual evidence of their failure to meet unrealistic standards via the neighbor's staged Instagram story. I think the modern adult is drowning in news, opinion, and feedback from too many distant judgmental sources and it is making many people nuts.

https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/millennials-burnout-generation-debt-work Has anyone else read this article? I am curious to hear others' opinions (as long as they don't bash an entire generation). I am older than Millennials and my kids are in the generation below them, so I have no skin in the game.

I am long-time Marie Kondo fan and I like this show a lot. There really is no "magic", you just have to be motivated to let things go. I'm re-doing my clothes this weekend. 🙂

Thinking of you and your mom.

I am super impressed by this! Way to go! Thanks for linking your pinterest board, I may do some cooking this weekend.....

I am/was a huge fan of Sherman Alexie, heard him discuss this book on NPR, and read the book as well. I guess it is another reminder that people are complex are capable of both good and bad acts. 😞

One of the best books I've read in years was The House of Broken Angels. The character development was just fantastic. https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40603634-the-house-of-broken-angels?from_search=true

I also understand why you are hurt, but I don't think there's anything to be done. I'd send a nice gift and do my best to let it go. Hugs to you!!

You are completely correct to get a hotel. Hold firm!

I returned to work after staying home for 15+ years to a child-centered field. My parenting experience has actually given me additional credibility with my coworkers and with the parents I serve. I would include both temp experiences on your resume. Good luck!

Best wishes for a speedy recovery.

Cardiologist ASAP.

Not much to add after Peter Pan's list, but a weighted blanket might be enjoyable and relaxing.