We almost always state no gifts or ask for food donations for a food pantry for dc parties. 1. dc have quite a bit of stuff! 2. Economic times are still tough!!!! - we want the invitees to share in the bday fun, not a gift that may be a hardship or someone not to come b/c a gift just isn't in the family budget at that time. If our invitations state no gifts, dc do not open any gifts at the party. We have found that if we ask for food donations, it solves the whether or not to bring a gift dilemma. Sometimes kids come with a few bags of food each, which is great all around. The guest brought something, we don't have additional stuff & the food pantry receives needed donations. (I have been doing this for awhile now & have a big box by the front door for food, nobody notices what each guest brings.)