I agree with this 100%. However, it's also good to review the points periodically. Recently after reading Being Mortal, I asked my mom about her wishes and she said that she absolutely wanted no intervention and said that she already had everything spelled out in a document typed up 15 years ago. I was relieved until I read the said document. It clearly stated that she wanted "any measure that the doctor deemed helpful." I considered the contradictions and realized that a person's wishes can change over the years (perhaps without remembering what was originally in them) and should be reviewed regularly to make sure that opinions and feelings are still lined up with what is in the documents. Sigh.

I can't even imagine. You must at the very minimum rehome all the pets and begin to get at least a few hours of help every day. If you don't, you can expect a nervous breakdown or some other medical crisis.

Planning the housing situation is so crucial in all of this. I recently convinced my parents to downsize to a home just a few minutes from mine. They were previously in a rural area located far from all of their children. Their recent move has allowed them to have more frequent visits from all of us, more time with their grandkids, less home to maintain, a more active social life (because their new church is just a few minutes from their home), much closer to all the shops (they can walk if necessary), and local hospitals. The benefits go far beyond those that I listed. Whether you or your parents are in that "I'll die before I'll move from my home" please reconsider this. It will make it far, far easier for everyone if the housing and location can accommodate an aging person. Personally, their move has allowed me to care (not too much yet) for them much more easily. I love my parent's dearly and want to do the best that I can do for them and I don't want to become bitter or sacrifice my own family to care for them. Their old home had me driving to them for over 1 hour one way just to help them with their bills or computer.

Wow, I guess its unanimous. I get free cable and internet so I never considered Amazon video to be a perk of Prime. I think that is what would push me over the edge. Free shipping minimum has gone back down to $25 on Amazon. It's kinda scary. I'm pretty sure that Amazon is going to take over the world.

If he has low motivation to eat, I would probably make it as simple as possible. Protein bars, cereal and milk, trail mix, or yogurts. I loved to eat, but college dorms are a challenge.

How old is your ds? I'd present my thoughts to him and let him handle it if he is over 18. Let him know that he has every right to present the man a bill. He absolutely does. However, the response can vary depending on the person and considering the man's first response, there is a good chance he won't respond well. I suspect you both know this considering that you asked the question in the first place.

I buy a lot of things from Amazon, but never really felt that I needed Prime in order the get the items in less than 3 days. However, with Prime day coming up I'm beginning to wonder if I should buy Prime. I know that Prime is essential for a lot of people, but is it really essential? Just looking for some opinions.

Well, you can ask him to pay, but don't expect him to be a friend for much longer. These are one of those iffy points that can end friendships and he might still refuse to pay.

I've only been able to make 1 and 1/2 batch of an instant pot mac and cheese in one go. I'm assuming that you have the 6 quart, but if you have the 8 quart, I suspect that you could make 2 batches at once. I also have a separate slow cooker that I use to keep food hot. I've made a few batches for a large function and kept it warm in there.

You see, I do have time for other humans and real conversation about meaningful topics. I just don't want to discuss repeatedly how hot the weather is or how annoying it was to go to the store and find that your favorite soda was all out. I consider that chit chat and it's rather draining. I'd much rather talk to anyone about how they genuinely are doing or even if they need help in any way.

I'm exactly the same way, so I understand what you're saying.

I understand what you're saying. I'm more direct by nature and I know that it rubs some people the wrong way! I realize that there are niceties that need to be said, but when people constantly dance around a subject I also find myself getting frustrated. I don't know what they're saying! People are talking, but that's not communication to me. Just tell me what you're really thinking!

I'm from PA and while I have had encounters similar to what you've mentioned, it's not the norm here. I do think that you could be a little more direct or firm. If you're feeling particularly put out, I'd point it out to the cashier or receptionist that you're speaking to. Something like, "I'm sorry was I unclear? I understood what you said, but I also asked for an appointment. Please let me know what your first availability is. Thank you." I have heard that New Englanders are more curt or taciturn. I guess I just don't assume that they are trying to be rude. There really are regional differences, but I don't equate it with rudeness.

As I went through the poll, I could tell immediately that you were speaking of Trader Joe's. I didn't even read your first post. I'm pretty sure that's across the board with all TJ's. Aldi cashiers ask the first question all the time too. I also go to some stores where the cashiers don't say anything at all, not even hello. I expect all sorts of interactions from cashiers.

I'd add chicken thighs marinated in lemon, olive oil, garlic, and oregano. If you can, grill the thighs.

I would have your boys alternate cleaning the toilets every other day or so. I found that the most effective way to help my ds improve his aim and bathroom habits was to have him clean it a lot. After a while, he got tired of cleaning the toilets so frequently, so I found he made fewer messes.

Sure! I just looked today on Verizon Wireless for another pre-paid Iphone 6 for my mother. The $199 phone is still there.

I would check out the pre-paid plans from Verizon. I just recently bought a brand new iPhone 6 from their pre-paid phone options for $199. The monthly (no contract) cost is $40 for 3 GB of data a month. Since I have two phones on pre-paid I pay $70 plus about 5 dollars for tax.

We have a family of 6 and we eat a lot of vegetables. We often have 4 types at one meal. I didn't see how many kids you had, but could you enlist their help in meal prep? Kids could definitely cut cucumbers or peel carrots. Also, although you did say that pre-cut veggies are too expensive, that really isn't always the case. I carefully read the price per unit and compare. I've found butternut squash, sugar snap peas, spinach, snow peas, and often broccoli at very similar or even lower prices. The smaller bagged lettuces are definitely more expensive, but I look for the bulk packages at Wegmans and Costco. Also, we don't really mind eating leftovers so sometimes I'll prep enough of a veggie for two nights and then put half away for the next day. If I put the veggies out, my dh will eat all of it! Oh, frozen veggies at Costco help too. I get green beans, riced cauliflower, and sometimes the other veggies. Frozen spinach is definitely worth it too.

I am so sorry. My deepest condolences.

I'm sorry to be the dissenting vote. ? but contacts and swimming do not mix. Yes, you'll hear that a lot of people do it, but there is a very real risk of infection. I have four swimmers and three of them have very strong prescriptions. We use the inexpensive Sporti prescription goggles from Swimoutlet.com

Situations like this are the exact reason why I'm reconsidering my previous stance against the vaccine. A dear dear friend of mind did everything right just like they told "good Christian girls" and do you know what? Her dh gave HPV to her. She was devastated, angry, and had to endure the possibility that she would have to deal with cervical cancer. Honestly, I do hope that my kids wait until married, but there is absolutely no assurance that their future spouses do not have an STI/STD. Initially, I wanted my kids to make that decision for themselves and to get the vaccine once they could be more responsible for their healthcare. Our pediatrician told me that the efficacy drops with age. Is this true? Or was she trying to scare me into getting it?

On one device, four of us heard Yanny and two of us heard Laurel. Interestingly, those that heard Yanny said that it was a higher male voice, but my dd and I (Laurel) heard it as a deeper male voice.

Please don't hire that lady. wow. I guess she thinks that she would be doing you a favor.

I am so so sorry to all of you struggling with this. I have relatives struggling with this very issue. I cannot help but wonder what the aging relatives would have wanted if they knew what their future (now) held for them. A few doctor friends of mine strongly recommended the following book. I plan on reading it this summer. https://www.amazon.com/Being-Mortal-Medicine-What-Matters/dp/1250076226/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1526414622&sr=8-1&keywords=being+mortal