It’s fine. After two hours at room temp (68) then you’d have a problem. One hour at 150– no problem

I guess I just don’t understand what your concern is about adding meds. Clearly she is suffering right now and being taken out of class means things aren’t working for her and she’s not coping so she she’s experiencing tons of negative “side effects” from her behavior—psychologically and emotionally and probably socially. Do you think the medical side effects will be somehow worse? How? Have you articulated what is so bad about meds? I’ve seen this before in friends and mostly it’s just a vague feeling from people telling them it’s bad. I’m tired of seeing kids suffer for years bc the parents feel it’s bad to medicate and if everyone just tried harder they can overcome “this.” All that ends up happening is the child and parent feels like a failure. Nothing at all is gained. Do you somehow think that you can’t keep working on the other avenues if you add something? ETA:I didn’t mean that to come out as harshly as it did. I do want you to think, though. If you have clearly articulated to yourself what is so bad or worse exactly and specifically and weighed it against the negatives in her actual reality, then that’s good.

I have very mixed feelings about needing to pass on every little truth about the past generations. For one thing—it’s never the full picture bc everyone does have a different perspective. For another, why? My mother told me something that happened with her aunt, which was awful and caused the aunt to leave and cut contact. I think about this traumatic event ( not se*ual) but don’t think it adds anything to my understanding of anything family related. I already knew that my grandmother’s family was dysfunctional. Now, knowing about the alcoholism is very important particularly as my kids make decisions about whether to drink. Knowing about rage behavior caused by alcoholism? Well, important to understanding why we use gentle voices with grandma( who experienced it), but maybe not necessary to keep passing down. I’m kind of rambling now mostly bc I’m still trying to figure it out for myself. I’m at the point where I need to start making a decision about handing such things down.

Congratulations!

To me, walking distance is about a mile—or 20 minute walk. However, since you mention downtown, if it were a situation where parking might be an issue and someone said walking distance, I’d think of 30 minutes or so counting as walking distance.

That is wonderful!

I always liked to get Christmas ornaments. I did not like to get fudge/baked goods bc I was single and struggled with my weight. I never expected anything ( although, Dawn, I did appreciate when the parents of the challenging kids gave me something. Not that I expected it—but it was an encouragement.) I cannot even imagine writing that email tbh. It comes off very entitled. She doesn’t have to use the gift card but she can, iykwim? She can put candy in the teacher’s lounge. The thing with scents is the only thing I think is reasonable. But I would think talking to the room mother about it and having her spread the news that Ms K has a scent sensitivity ( or diabetes if that’s the reason behind the no candy) is the way to go.

One of mine from childhood—gunched (meaning all gone—mainly used with food) was so entrenched bc dh lived it and also used it that dd20 was embarrassed and astounded to find out that it wasn’t a real word. She said she’d always been surprised no one knew what it meant lol. The one of my children’s that most used still is to-member ( meaning remember.) youngest went through a stage where she replaced most prefixes with to (including words like forget—to get). So we often to-member things from their childhood around here. The one I wished had lasted was in-plit (for outlet) because it makes more sense from a child’s point of view.

Yes, we just changed plans in July when we moved. I coup iMessage folks with iPhones but paid for texts to androids or when I was out of a network. It’s a lot cheaper so my concern is that people with less resources are put in an awkward position.

My problem with text only is that some people do not have unlimited text. We did not have unlimited texting for years. So group texting situation can lead to a lot of cost if you’re paying per text.

I like the apps. Idk if you can use the remind app—it’s for schools, but folks can chose whether to get the info via text, email or only in the app. Class expectations and overall schedule I like getting via email so I can print it or search to find it. I hate Facebook. It stresses me out and sometimes I miss things. My phone won’t open messenger. Unfortunately, where I live now, Facebook is the main vehicle for communication.

Our library system has Spanish conversation groups. Maybe there’s some thing like that in your library system. Since the pandemic it’s been online.

And with regard to SWB, when she just had her youngest at home, she put her in high school (for at least a year or two.) So, she solved the social question a different way eventually.

My kids were involved in scouts, but that never led to friends. One did theater and had friends there, but it didn’t translate to outside activities. One did travel soccer and only started to make friends after two years. I can go on. We did pull out if co-op at one point, but found another one bc that’s where they connected with other people who wanted friends. Our social life had also gotten to be a tight group and when there was drama and bullying by a “popular” boy, my kids were left mostly by the wayside. Having other options at co-op was important. My kids are excellent scholars and do a lot of rigorous classes and have the scholarships and test scores to show for it. I had been one of the parents who felt I didn’t need co-op but my kids really did. I’m not saying everyone needs to do co-op but it can be very important for some kids. Farrar is dead on with how I feel. We both are/were east coast, so maybe other places are different.

I hope everything goes well!

My kids needed them to make and see friends. They also needed us to be out of the house. The benefited from the other parents styles and the group classes. We did it for their mental health. Other kids may be different. Some families may have thriving social lives without co-op. But I haven’t seen them. ( Before I get flamed—I do believe that some of you are part of that thriving group. I just haven’t met you irl.) it can take time to make mom friends. The more you volunteer to help with the things, the faster it will go. Working together can build bonds.

Well…my ds has a “best friend “ at college and for reasons I don’t know, he started texting her mom and brother and then she asked for his sister and then last week my number and she texted me. So that’s how it started in my house just recently. But they aren’t officially dating even though they clearly like each other a lot. I have no idea the story there and I am staying out if it. My bff is all in on contacting the mothers of the kids her kids date. It’s like a matter of principle for her and she feels it’s important. It wouldn’t occur to me to do that until there was an engagement.

Good for your family for having a great attitude around this! It makes me happy.

This is what I would do, too.

Did you let the turkey sit for 30-60 minutes after it came out if the oven and before you carved it? That lets the juices redistribute.

I love it! And awesome you paid off your debt to xh! Good luck on Monday.

I’m so glad it worked out well. That should make next time easier. My kids would never have willingly left before dessert!!!

Happy Thanksgiving!🦃

3 houses growing up ( but one from age six on.) Since then ( counting college as one even though I moved dorms) I have lived in 15 more. But the last one was for 15 years.

No, no you are not the only one 😂