Joanne Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 My husband is heartbroken today. He called yesterday "the second most awful day" of his life (I haven't asked what the first was). He had promised his Mom (who is now dead) and his Dad to never put his Dad in a nursing home. And now, he has to put his Dad in a nursing home. It was an unfair and completely unrealistic promise. His Dad has been in a wheelchair for 30+ years with some kind of MS-like progressive disease. He had a stroke, failed the swallow test and needs a feeding tube (hopefully temporary). He can't go back to his assisted living. We toured nursing homes yesterday. We are chosing the one with the highest ratings, but they are all fairly dismal, discouraging and have "that smell". DH feels he never should have "left" his parents home after he moved back to TX to assist with Hurricane Rita issues (his parents lived in East Texas, and were severely hit). After he got them somewhat together, he moved out and moved back to Houston (where he loves it). He feels he should have not made that self centered move, stayed with his parents during his Mom's death and taken care of his Dad after. I can't make him feel better. There are no words. But, don't ever make or put someone in the position of having to respond to the request to "never put me in a nursing home". :confused::confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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