GoVanGogh Posted March 6, 2012 Author Share Posted March 6, 2012 Wow, I've been spun off and quoted! I do hope you don't mind that I quoted you and spun you off. You have been quite the topic. ;) I have only started a few new posts in the few years I have been on the boards, but don't think I have ever had one this popular. :001_huh: I'm a bit overwhelmed. I posted yesterday, then had a family emergency come up. I came back to... 50-some posts?! I don't know where to begin. I truly appreciate everyone's comments. So much to think about. I agree with 8Fill and regentrude, there can be very little comparison or collaboration, especially at the high school level. The delusion is too contagious and depressing. We have to just put our shoulders to the wheel and press on alone.I obviously need to get to this point. :tongue_smilie:I feel like I'm swimming against the current. So many homeschoolers I know IRL have low expectations. The public school parents I know rave about how wonderful their children's education is. I have had numerous people tell me, "Don't worry. When you get tired of doing that homeschool thing, you can be assured that our schools really are top-notch." Regentrude asked where the parents are in all this. In my community, they are so impressed with the social media town hall meetings and on-site publishing facilities that they don't look beyond the shiny cover. I finally got the nerve to ask this lady who was raving about our schools, "So what do you base that on?" Her response, "The facility is beautiful and our test scores are some of the best in the state." I pointed out that 72% of our high school graduates are taking remedial classes in college. Her response, "Well, my children won't be. They are straight-A students." Ironically, her son is one in our neighborhood who flunked out of college. She hasn't talked to me since, so I have no idea if she still feels our schools are top-notch. About the peers: my son's two best friends from elementary schools days (when the boys attended a Montessori school) are in college and on track. But it seems that there are so many young adults in our community who are really at a loss for what to do. Admittedly some are trying--they work as waitresses or cashiers for the time being. I worry though about the kids who seem to be in downward spirals. There are too many of them. This was not how their parents envisioned their lives back in those boastful days on the soccer fields. The number of "brilliant" children in my community tipped the scales back then. What happened?? At some point in middle school, I think, it all comes apart at the seams which leads me to think that those who decry the lack of basic skills have hit the nail on the head. That coupled with the lack of intellectualism outside of school partitucarly by parents who seem to believe that their job is to see that their children are constantly entertained.I could have written something similar.We moved into this small neighborhood 16 years ago. All of our neighbors had young children that we have now watched grow up and... Well, as I mentioned in my initial post, it has not been pretty. Not a single one has successfully launched into adulthood. These are children that had every advantage possible - two parent homes, affluent community with lots of opportunities, top-ranked schools. What went wrong? That is why Tibbie's post really struck a nerve with me. The bolded part above is what really troubles me. The lack of intellectualism. My neighbors would rather buy another video game system than enroll their child in an academic summer camp at the local college. Finding like-minded peers for my son has been difficult. (That said, we have been wonderfully blessed with mentors. My DH is an engineer and we have discovered that many of his co-workers love to talk engineering with this upcoming generation.) The school publishes its high school honor roll. At least 75% of the student body is on the honor roll. Again, since the parents are told repeatedly that the IQ in the district is so much above the national average, no one thinks it odd that 3/4 of the kids are on the honor roll.:lol: or :tongue_smilie: but that is our school district, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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