Karen in CO Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Today at the grocery store with my youngest I ran into a lady I used to work for. I haven't seen her in three or four years. Here's the start of the conversation: Me: "(name with held),Hi! it's been a long time. It's good to see you. How are you doing?" Friend: "Hi. Wow, you've stayed skinny. I haven't." <here she raises her arms and does a sashay in the aisle> ......<awkward moment> Me: "So, how's work?" Is there a proper reply? I work among mostly men and only have a few real-life female friends. That conversation wasn't right, was it? :001_huh: Was I supposed to say something in reply? Did I miss some social queue? Tell me what should I have said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardening momma Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I think you were fine. I think it was socially awkward/tacky on her part for her to say that...I mean, how ARE you supposed to respond? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest submarines Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I think you were fine. I think it was socially awkward/tacky on her part for her to say that...I mean, how ARE you supposed to respond? :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I think you were fine. I think it was socially awkward/tacky on her part for her to say that...I mean, how ARE you supposed to respond? :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laughing lioness Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 :iagree:Awkward moment brought on by TMI and public display. YOU did just fine re-directing:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I would have taken it as a social cue that I was supposed to say something like, "oh, haha, you still look great," then I would have moved on to work or whatever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tammyw Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I would have taken it as a social cue that I was supposed to say something like, "oh, haha, you still look great," then I would have moved on to work or whatever. That's probably what I would have said, but definitely an awkward moment, and I think you were just fine with how you handled. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I probably would have stood there blinking at her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I probably would have stood there blinking at her. This is what I would have done. I would have taken it as a social cue that I was supposed to say something like, "oh, haha, you still look great," then I would have moved on to work or whatever. This is what I would have wished I'd done, but was so gobsmacked at the sashaying my mind blanked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zaichiki Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 She was being purposefully silly. I would have laughed with her (she was probably making a face or laughing) and said something like, "Maybe. But you've still got your groove on!" Then I would have asked about work. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PentecostalMom Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 :iagree:Awkward moment brought on by TMI and public display. YOU did just fine re-directing:) :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hwin Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I've tried the whole "What are you talking about? You look great!" but it usually sounds fake. Not because I think anyone overweight(or whatever else) --I'm just not good at contrived compliments on the fly. I vote for changing the subject, as you did. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I would have let out an awkward laugh, thanked her, then moved along onto appropriate small talk.;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StephanieZ Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 How about . . . You: "Why thank you! I try. You look great, too! What's new?" I am sure she meant it as a compliment, so you might as well respond to her intention. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 How about . . . You: "Why thank you! I try. You look great, too! What's new?" I am sure she meant it as a compliment, so you might as well respond to her intention. :iagree: Also, she proably felt awkward that she has put on weight. Yeah, was it awkward and uncomfortable? Sure, but cut her some slack. (OP that was not directed at you.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I would have let out a polite laugh and shaken my head with a puzzled look on my face, and then quickly changed the subject. Funny, just yesterday my daughter came home and told me a similar story about her run-in with a woman she hadn't seen in a long time. The woman told her, "You are so skinny!" My daughter wasn't sure what to say in response either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen500 Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I would have taken it as a social cue that I was supposed to say something like, "oh, haha, you still look great," then I would have moved on to work or whatever. :iagree: But, you know, she too could be posting on some message board about the silly thing that came out of her mouth when she met an old co-worker...:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I would have said "Dahling......you look MAHVELOUS!" and kept on talking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawana Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 "You look maaaahvelous, dahling!" In your best obviously-put-on voice, because you're just playing along with the game she started. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 "You look maaaahvelous, dahling!" In your best obviously-put-on voice, because you're just playing along with the game she started. Yeah, a la Billy Crystal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawana Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Yeah, a la Billy Crystal. Hah! We posted at the same time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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