I read the title as 'earrings"! Oh boy.
Well, several of my friends are the sole wage earners (or significantly higher paid) and the first thing that comes to mind is that they have no kids. THey are heavy hitters at their work and their husbands pursue interests that support the spouse. For instance, one guy went to chef's school and cooks and entertains for the wife.
If there were kids involved, I think the dynamics change considerably. ALso think that it totally depends upon the kind of relationship you have with your husband. Mine own husband is a non-working breed and it does get under my skin:D He spends well!