My toddler would probably do the same thing! Run from me, anyway. That's why I use a stroller or baby carrier. Maybe that would help?? Sorry you had such a rough time!

I wonder if colloidal silver would be good in aftercare. Praying he's okay. I had some weird junk happen to my eyes before and didn't have vision issues. Not the same thing but I am optimistic for him. One was a day after trying a face mask and all the dr could conclude was that I must have gotten a chemical burn from it, but he couldn't see or do anything for me (supposedly). I think it took a couple of days but then everything felt fine.

I'm going to reply here again since I got so many responses lol. I am trying to take more time for me. I have started taking a medication to deal with depression and some other things. I decided to follow up on one job that I thought I missed out on. Last time I checked they just knew that interviews were being conducted. I felt that I must not be a candidate since I never got an email alert. But today I called to check and they asked me on the spot to come in Monday to speak with them. So I'd say that's an interview! The other pending job they never replied to me when I asked if it was filled. I did spoil myself a bit when I went Easter shopping. I left the kids at home with dh and spent my time hunting for church clothes but also let myself buy a few other items I wanted. Then today while out with the family I told dh about this store that had something in the window I wanted to check out. It was mostly curiosity, I didn't think it would be in the budget. It was actually on sale but didn't fit. While I was there the sales lady talked me into trying on some other outfits. I knew now wasn't the best time to blow money on a dress because dh is losing some money in his job soon and I don't know if I'll even land a job, but he told me it looked nice and encouraged me to get it. I did. I do have a part time job for a few shifts coming up but those shifts are few and far between at the campus bookstore making min. wage (they only need extra help when students are buying or reselling textbooks). If nothing else it will probably cover my dress Lol. I also got a haircut last week :) I don't feel that down about myself per se, but just frustrated at my flexibility with so much of my life revolving around dh's work schedule. Nothing is close to where I live so it's hard to join anything. Before dd was born I tried Bible study but dh worked those nights so I had to drag ds and it was awful. I quit going. For a while I would drive to another church to work with foreign students learning English. I enjoyed it, but it was too much gas money and sometimes I was too exhausted to drive. It's 30 min. from here. The other night I left the family at home to see my Natural Family Planning teacher and I used that as an excuse to go out on my own. I bought that cart at Target that I posted in another thread lol. I had to talk dh out of coming along with the kids because it would rush my evening with their bedtimes. We only have one car and live in a rural area so I have to think twice about wear and tear and gas but if I get a job I think we'll get the second vehicle then.

I have the app but I seldom post with it anymore because it says "can we access your photos?" to post a photo whereas the site just has an attachment icon appear without asking that. Maybe I already did "allow" another time? For text only posts the site doesn't let me see what I'm typing as I'm typing it, though. Very frustrating on a cell phone since I'm not that great at typing on those. I trust my fingers on a keyboard, though.

I just meant that I'm tired of feeling like a broken record and trying to hand this over to God I guess? My priest (who I didn't go into detail about it) said to just pray about it.

I know we have problems. Trying to get to a counseling is one of our problems. I'd have to find a couples therapist that has good availability and find a sitter to watch dd and/or ds so we can go. I've already tried individual counseling at an office that had "extended hours" and their hours weren't very flexible for us.

He just said it was no big deal and that I was welcome to join them. I am not really shoving my feelings down, because I've already voiced them. But I am thinking that I'm talking to a wall at this point so maybe it's best to concentrate on what I can control, which is clearly not him or his actions. I just sound like a broken record and to him an over the top jealous person.

He is not clueless. He knows these things bother me. It first started when he'd meet with a former coworker during our family vacations. One time I was sitting at my MIL's house with the kids while he was out eating with 1-3 former colleagues. At least one of those times it was just the one. His own mother thought nothing of it. I feel like he doesn't see a problem because his own parents didn't frown upon it. I resented it and he'd say it was important to discuss work stuff (over beer at a Mexican restaurant?). She crossed a line in the future and he finally had to make boundaries. But I felt like I saw an issue all along and it wasn't an issue til things got clearly inappropriate (nothing physical happened). Since then he had the female workout buddy that I complained about and he gradually stopped working out because he got injured so he never had to be blunt with her. He just let it fizzle and complained that I ruined his only friendship at work (my reaction :nopity: ). So then when he comes to me a couple weeks ago all amped up to workout this summer again, he says he's proposed this stroller walking group with his coworkers and I'm over here like, "Here we go again. Why didn't you just invite your family and not involve coworkers?!" Ugh. It's the same stuff different look each time. And I really don't think he's cheating on me. I just think he gets more quality time with all the females he works with than his own wife. I guess that's it. That's my real complaint. If anyone wants to talk further you can PM me. I've hogged the thread enough lol

I've tried before. He won't walk at my speed, so we end up walking basically separately. It was no fun for me. But another coworker that was injured would go walking with him and he'd walk at her pace. He's a foot taller than me so he has a much bigger stride. I can't keep up with him. Just like when we go to the movies we don't even sit together because of similar things. They are going to walk on a walking track. It's more likely I'll end up talking to another mom than actually socializing with my spouse.

I know that layout changed on the app but I think that has to do with phone updates? Like dh and I have the same iphone but I didn't update mine. His facebook comments look like speaking bubbles now. Mine don't. I don't like the layout on his phone.

I can go with him and may do that, but currently I usually take dd out earlier in the day and just doing that is so hard because of the humidity and lack of ability to shower with no one else to watch her. So when he starts walking I could delay my morning walk with her and just go when he does.

Yes, it's all of that stuff. I have no friends here. I don't want to live here. And we can't afford to move unless I can make $X which is super unlikely to happen so I'm just trying to find a job making enough to warrant daycare, commuting, etc. I can't even get the last job I applied to to respond to my question asking if they filled the position. So basically I'm "stuck" as a SAHM even though I don't do well in this role. Very frustrated right now.

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I've thought about the thread a lot. I think a lot of my reasons for not liking dh to do it has to do with the fact that I seldom get any meals with just him. Meanwhile, he's eaten with a female coworker numerous times. In order for me to eat with just him I'd have to set up a sitter. Taking the toddler out to eat isn't very pleasant for either of us. And the fact that I've voiced my feelings and I don't feel heard. He recently suggested a stroller walking group with his female coworkers this summer. He thinks it's no big deal because it's just women and their kids (he'd take dd). I think, "why do you even initiate this kind of thing?" I'm trying to shove my feelings down because I sound insanely jealous.

That's wonderful, the house and the update. I was just thinking of you yesterday, wondering how thing were. I missed the original post so I was out of the loop. Congrats.

The daycare (or learning center, rather) here provides meals (I think breakfast, snack, lunch) and averages out to less than $20/day but I don't think you can exactly compare a daycare price structure to an individual since we basically had this conversation a while back in another thread. I realized that the daycares are getting money from mult. families so I guess that's how they can manage on so little per child. But go to another town with a higher COL and probably more resources and it's much, much more. I checked prices once. I remember I couldn't even get over the cost of Mothers Morning Out! It was like 2-3 hours and $65 I think. It's just easier for me to try to run errands with my kids or juggle them around dh's schedule than pay that kind of money. Anyway, I guess I could understand the expectations of either party... depending on where you live and what the going rate is. Maybe Mom was going to send food/diapers/wipes and thought it was comparable to daycares she looked into that may or may not provide that. Who knows. I totally get declining. That sounds like a lot of work even for an adult with lots of baby experience. I think I made that much for a few hours of babysitting older kids when I was a teen. As far as hourly wages, yeah I have never made as much as $15/hr. so it would be hard to come up with money to pay someone that much per hour. I'm going to work a few hours in a local store soon (temp work) and will be making min. wage. Not disagreeing with the OP. Just commenting on an earlier post about hourly wages.

I know at least one adult that loves unicorn/rainbow type stuff. They have shared recipes with lots of colored cake layers, etc. So I don't have trouble seeing it marketed toward adults. Too much food coloring can be a turn off to me. The funniest thing I read online today was a meme referencing Harry Potter by talking about the fate of those that consume it because it comes from a unicorn. I never go to Starbucks. Not a coffee person. But I guess this isn't really coffee.

If items are already organized and labeled, there might be a way to get a group to pick them up for you. Or drop them off at a Goodwill or such? Do they belong to a local parish? Maybe someone from a church would help with this type of thing. I think you need to be honest with your mom. Maybe if she knew how much it stressed you out or how impractical it was to do XYZ then she would back off. I am sure she doesn't want to cause you undue stress.

oh ok Lol

When I hear slippery I automatically think of the Slip n Slide. I just say slide for the kind at the park.

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I only refrigerate the pre-sliced apples. Another bulk item from Sam's (two containers of pre-sliced apples). I also store other fruit in the fridge, but not our bananas or oranges. And as others mentioned, eggs. I forgot about those. I know that in Europe the egg process is different, so maybe people aren't storing theirs in the fridge. We also buy some types of bread that doesn't have preservatives so they can't be left out. Like Ezekiel English muffins. I agree that container size has a lot to do with storage. Like if your containers aren't large and you live near the store, you're not going to hog the same amount of space as someone that doesn't live near the store and keeps a gallon or two of milk in the fridge at a time. We don't have a bells and whistles fridge. We just have whatever was supplied (we rent). I think it's smaller than both our parents' fridges. We also do not have a built in ice maker of any kind! Not in fridge or freezer. We bought a stand alone one but haven't set it up.

For some people it's embarrassment of how others will react if they hear you are going to therapy or taking meds or applying for a job where disclosing certain info. might make them judge your ability to perform the job. I'm more concerned about someone labeling me "crazy" than a freak. Worried about gaslighting, being dismissed.

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I don't think all people that have mental illness would fit the mold of someone staying in a facility*. So I don't know if that is a good way to illustrate. Like if I had hidden things about myself people wouldn't necessarily know about my OCD or anxiety or depression. To some degree many people can hide these things, at least from people they aren't living with. *to be honest, I don't know what that mold is. I guess I'm thinking about TV shows which is probably not accurate