In this case I would guess that the suggestion would be that a bisexual woman spend more time with her straight friends rather than gay female friends? If that's applicable. I really think the answer is going to depend on the individuals involved. Obviously not every partner is going to feel uncomfortable with outside relationships or specific friends. YMMV

I'm really hating the implication that if a woman thinks precautions might be healthy that she must not trust her spouse. It could simply be that she does trust her spouse but doesn't see any reason for temptation to potentially be there or she wants to protect the other people that he could inadvertently be leading on. Or you know, she may not trust the other people.

I wasn't talking about professed crushes. I was talking about secret crushes. Say it was obvious to your spouse or coworkers that a male coworker had a crush on you. Would that knowledge affect your interactions? If I knew a male colleague had a crush on me I certainly would give pause about continuing to eat lunch with them one on one. It doesn't matter if they openly told me. And I wouldn't expect my colleague to necessarily share with me that their marriage was on the rocks if it was. Heck, I want dh to go to marriage counseling with me. I don't expect his coworkers to suspect that.

Usually covered in whatever dd has been coloring. I actually like the look of a pretty clear coffee table. Maybe just a remote control caddy or coasters or something small.

I don't doubt that the friendships described were friendships that remain(ed) platonic. I guess I was saying that no matter how platonic one side sees the friendship, it doesn't mean the other party doesn't have a crush and/or it isn't bothering a spouse. Sometimes one side of the friendship is a single person and they might not have the same guidelines for hanging out with married people as say the married person.

To the other party or the office workers that saw day after day so and so walked over to this person's desk (like I said that was if the desk wasn't on their way. If they had to go out of their way to stop by the desk to say hi. Then later in the day eat lunch together. It would seem kinda like overkill. At least to me if my dh were wandering around an office to greet a woman each day and then eating with her each day. I would hate that).

I don't know if your office was arranged where you'd pass by each other's desk or have to go out of your way to visit, but this seems like it could easily send mixed signals.

I don't think it's hard for someone to be oblivious to the fact that their friend is attracted to them. I don't think just not acting on it is always enough. If it's affecting your actual partner then I see that as a factor to consider. (e.g. your partner is uncomfortable so do you still eat lunch with your workmate?)

I voted other because I think there are some guidelines that would differ in some relationships vs others. For example, I doubt many men would care if a woman is friends with a gay guy. But they might have a problem with her hanging out with a straight guy. KWIM? Or maybe the setting would be the determining factors. I know dh considers some women at work friends, but I am not comfortable with certain situations that wouldn't bother me at all if they involved a man. A female invited him over for a drink (just the two of them) at her place. I wouldn't have cared if it had been a man and he could get home safely.

No where near that amount. And I hang onto some clothes for a long time. Sometimes dh takes the initiative and just buys me stuff because he knows I need something or it would be nice to have. He recently bought me a denim jacket. Of course I don't know when I'll be able to wear it... it's getting hot lol.

My guess is the font made it look like a lower case "L" so I copied and pasted. Not sure if this is the right capsule, but it's probably somewhere on the site if not this link: https://www.cabionline.com/2017/02/07/cabi-clothing-spring-wardrobe-capsule

Puffy shirts are okay if you're Johnny Depp playing Icabod Crane. I copied that style a few times years ago.

It sounds awkward to me phrased "to hold the bag" because I have always heard, "holding the bag." As far as whether or not it registered, they might have felt defensive or embarrassed and had nothing to say even if they did understand what you meant.

I don't usually see men's undershirts. I have commented to dh when I saw his pocket outline showing through his dress shirt. I don't even know if he cared Lol. He refuses to wear regular undershirts. He also only buys t-shirts with a pocket. I think of panties as more private than say, a shirt hem. I'd do better comparing women's camisoles to men's undershirts showing. I have one top that is a baseball shirt. I didn't realize it at first but it's very see through. I wear a white camisole under it but then you can see the camisole. I don't know if I've ever worn it in public because it makes me self conscious. It's so hot here I wouldn't want a woman to feel like she couldn't leave the house in a tank top because her bra strap kept poking out. Mine has done that before and you know what, some days it's like, whatever. I'm not wearing it like that to a professional setting. Just don't store your money in your bra. I'll judge you for that. No one wants to handle your sweaty money. Get a purse or wallet. :laugh:

Maybe this is more a personality thing than an etiquette thing. I would not want to be given back something (in general. There may be exceptions). Now I could maybe see taking the stilts back if they fit your own children or there's some other use for them, but I don't know if I would have bothered to ask if I were her as the whole thing is awkward. I do think she meant no harm, but I might also speculate that her local consignment/thrift store didn't accept them and she had no where else she could think of to donate them so I was the last effort before they went to the trash. Call me cynical. My MIL gave us hand-me-down baby stuff (from dh's childhood) for ds to wear and most of it didn't get used. Dh didn't really care. A lot of it was quite dated. Little did I know a day would come she would ask for it back. I'm so glad we still had it. Then she gave us a couple of those items for dd. We took a pic of her wearing the moccasins and I set them aside to return and we did when she'd outgrown them. I didn't want anything to do with keeping up with items that were sentimental. I consider it a stressful burden. It's funny how different we view these things. If I took back an item that had been discarded I might think about that rather than the gifting of it. I want to remember the gifting.

We don't have a lot of kids around so it doesn't come up much, but there have been instances where dh and I talked about not feeling comfortable dropping ds off at people's homes if we know their parenting style is quite different. For example, there's a woman we know from church that has offered to bring ds over to her home to let him play outside with her grandkids. Around here some people have a lot of land and let the kids roam outside. For them it's fine, but not for us. We don't know what level of supervision there would be and ds has quite strong reactions to ant bites and used to be very sensitive to grass. He can't handle being outdoors too long before complaining about getting too hot. Another person we know has a trampoline in their backyard (yes, it has one of those mesh covers or whatever around it). We would not allow him to use it because he's accident prone. I know we sound overprotective but I don't care. Between the two kids I've been to the ER for freak accidents a few times in the past year. And some of the staff at the nearest one isn't the most competent so we drove further last time which made it an hour drive partially in hail (I'm not kidding) at around 11pm. Not that the kids would be playing outside at 11pm lol but just to say I think some of my overprotectiveness is warranted. Besides that, there are concerns about just knowing the parents and other people that come/go from the home. Older siblings or whoever. I'd want to know who was there and what was going on. As ds gets older I think I will be less nervous. And the home with the trampoline, I wouldn't mind him going there if he knew he couldn't play on the trampoline or wander around. The boy that lives there is very familiar with the area and wanders around the area sometimes. The way the people drive around here it scares us.

So who knows if the packaging was the problem or the actual product. What a mess!!

Dedicated homeschool area that isn't shared space. I've picked up Scrabble Jr. a few times this week because of the toddler. I don't have enough tall shelves to keep everything up and away from her. Don't even get me started on storage of pens/pens/markers. It's a nightmare. Bilingual Spanish teacher Really we'd just move to the city so we could be involved in more. Musuems, sports or arts, parks. And if we made it to the city I probably wouldn't homeschool if I'm being really honest. I don't know, though. I still love it in theory.

It hasn't come up much. Ds did get invited to one recently and we opted out. I literally had never talked to the parents and had no idea from the invitation where they lived (kids from his school come from different cities). He isn't close to the classmate, but I think the child invited most if not all the boys in the class. Given the right set of circumstances I would be okay with a sleepover. Supposedly when I was in elementary school I went sleep walking and talked to my friend's older sister in the middle of the night at my friend's party. I have no recollection of this and didn't know if they were just messing with me, but they seemed serious. Our families were basically best friends. Best friends to the point where on the night before one of my friend's sibling's wedding my dad was asked to break into their house to get the cake topper because they were out of town LOL How awful but glad you spoke up. The bolded were my thoughts when I read another post commenting on day time visits vs sleepovers. Sure, something could happen at either visit, but it seems to be that sleepovers might have more issues. Parents would probably be asleep during part of the sleepover so not as aware of what was going on.

Sounds like he goes to brick & mortar school so shifting the bedtime later will just cause problems in the morning.

I don't mind it because I think it's a way to have a more summery look/cooler wardrobe without necessarily exposing your bra straps (of course that depends on the width of the collar). I don't know if I'd pick one out for myself, but I saw it on TV and didn't mind it. I think it was the daughter (Savannah) in Chrisley Knows Best. She has a clothing line and I figure that top she was wearing might be from her own line. Most women's tops don't appeal to me. They tend to have low or wide collars. I don't want plunging necklines or bra straps sticking out. I wear a lot of t-shirts, but like to be able to wear dressier tops, too. Like today I was trying to tuck my bra strap back under my shirt at church ugh. And I agree about it being annoying when fabric is too thin/see through. I have a skirt that requires a slip, but last time I tried to find a half slip I had no luck. I don't know if anyone wears them anymore. I had to settle for a full slip I own and yes it is awful in the summer to wear all that extra fabric.

Totally understandable. I find it difficult to breathe at my SIL's home due to smoke and was unhappy the time dh and ds crashed there last minute. Ds has breathing issues so I like to limit his time there. They also used to have a dog he immediately had an allergic reaction to so we'd have to give him medicine before going over. With strangers I don't know if they have pets I have to consider.

Are you trying to upload it to this forum? If so, go to your profile. There is a tab somewhere for photos. You can delete old ones. I had to do this recently :)

I have a strong-willed child. He fights bedtime constantly. He does it with dh, too. He whines. He says he's hungry. He starts guilt trips (or tries. "I didn't get to do anything! I had to do homework and shower and eat dinner and I only got a few minutes of downtime"). He takes forever to brush his teeth. He says he doesn't sleep well alone (I think he's a little jealous that dd still sleeps in Mom and Dad's room). I have tried to push bedtime back and sometimes it works (other times it gets derailed by his time management with homework and eating or my inability to serve dinner at a consistent time), but it's especially hard to enforce on weekends (especially since dh is hard to get on board with early weekend bedtimes). We've taken away privileges and at the end of the day, he pretty much does the same things. All this to say, I don't think punishments/incentives work for all kids. He doesn't have much currency to work with and the ones he does don't always matter to him in the moment. What bolt. said sounds like something I might hear in my positive disciplining group. Basically making a connection with your child. Most of the times I'm having trouble with my ds I don't have the opportunity to do this because I'm too swamped trying to settle down the toddler or my time management doesn't allow for us to add reading in bed because I already know he's not going to get as much sleep as he needs and he's going to be cranky in the morning. In theory I think I know that connection is key, but in reality it's really hard to start bonding when your child is acting out.

I can't speak for others but I do sometimes read articles about why some families may want to opt out of sleepovers all together. Basically sexual abuse or other things (kids getting online unsupervised, etc.) being a potential concern (with concern about the abuse not necessarily the hosts' parents). And if the sleepover is taking place at a family's home you don't know well (random birthday invite) then I can see the hesitation there. Ds was recently invited to one and we opted out but it was because I didn't know the family at all (ds got the invite in class) and the kids were being taken directly from the school to the party venue and then to the sleepover house. Ds had never been to the venue, met the parents, gone to a sleepover, I assumed it would be awkward to insist on my child's booster seat in their car, etc. etc. I thought about taking him to the venue and skipping the sleepover portion, but that would have required me to drive far and hang around with a toddler while I waited for the party to end. This might have also been embarrassing to him if he was the only one not doing what the others were doing. Sometimes sleepovers are tied to another activity so I can see logistically it being complicated. Like growing up my parents did not host them and didn't even like me attending. I do recall attending a couple. If they were on a Saturday night then we had to coordinate an appropriate Mass time so I didn't miss church.