Your children's ages are very close to what mine were with my last and worst pregnancy. They are not traumatized.Older ds learned to fix breakfast for himself and his brother in the mornings (cereal, muffins and fruit, or oatmeal microwaved.) They watched lots of educational shows and played educational computer games and survived. They're a little feral at times, and we're easing into not just them getting to do whatever they want anymore, but it's fine.