:grouphug: I think it is great that you are helping out your son. What a horrible situation. I am so glad your son told you!

Where have you found the cheapest place to buy the Life of Fred at? I know some people are able to get them at their library. That isn't an option at my library.

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Where do you find your calendar's for onenote?

We went on a family bike ride this weekend to the pool. I had on my swimsuit and coverup. The coverup looks like a dress. As I pedaled, it kept inching up my legs. I thought of this thread and was laughing to myself about how this is probably considered immodest by some. I probably inadvertantly caused a number of men to think lustful thoughts, maybe some women too! ;)

I would keep schooling, but do it on rainy days. We have had a bunch. OR I would start early in the morning and hit the pools in the afternoon or whatever other activities there were.

Maybe the husband has another activity planned for the guests, like bringing in a masseuse or something....This is the latest trend in birthday parties where I live. I would bring your dish, and a card or little plant, something fun and inexpensive.

Wow! That is so rude. So, basically best offer wins? How did you handle it with the person?

I would call again. I know that some people are more helpful than others. It is interesting because I called several times about the same problem, got different people, and they told me different things and helped in different ways.

:lol: :lol: I stopped sending out paper invitiations and use evite. I have had very good success with people responding to it. It is nice because you can have it set up to to send out the invitiation several times. Poppy, I like the regrets only version.

Before I would do a d & c, I would get bloodwork done several times. If that isn't an option, I would wait and let nature take its course.

Awe. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I would have a really difficult time with this. You are a very strong family to be open to having your son see his birth parents. It may seem like a gloriously good time now. However, the past hurts from his birth family most likely aren't erased from his mind. Praying for you.

In thinking of this topic, Green Eggs and Ham by Dr. Suess asks some good guestions: *Subsititute the appropriate word for them: to wear _______, to not wear, teA. I am sure that you all can figure out other replacements that fit since we are all educators. ;) Would you like *them here or there? Would you like *them in a house? Would you *them in a box? Would you? Could you? in a car? You may like *them in a tree? Could you, would you on a train? Would you, could you, in the dark? Would you, could you, on a boat?

If you decide to outdoors, while hiking, like in the mountains, make sure it really is secluded. ;)

Speaking of commando, I think commando is better when wearing tight clothes rather than loose, what do y'all think? :001_rolleyes:

O.K. I have to confess, I am completely, over the top, immodest with my dh. Whew. Just had to put that out there. :rolleyes:

I don't think it is a problem.

This thread is great! In high school a group of us went swimming in a pond in the nude. Overseas, I didn't realize that when you get a massage, they just put you anywhere on the beach. You only get one small towel. So, you get to pick what parts will or won't show. I just kept in mind, these people won't be seeing me again. Of course, now with all the camera phones, that thought no longer works ;)

Thanks!

I would wear it again.

What a nice way to say it rather it was an accident. Congrats!

I wouldn't do it having not been in the program. I think it is difficult to lead a community that you haven't seen in operation. Also, people tend to buck new leadership, especially if they don't know them. The disadvantage being you haven't seen how the group works together and what issues or things that might be done could be hot topics and create conflict.

Yes, I agree. I read a really good book called, "When I say no, I feel guilty" that was about being assertive. It was really helpful. If you, or anyone else has any other suggestions, that would be great! I was really pleased that this time, I actually said something when he made the comment about he shouldn't have to eat the cost of the glasses. I think the next step for me is too do the broken record, on the same day :), for what I am asking. I understand the lab usually get everything correct, but I want everything double checked again. And just repeating.

Thanks! I plan to let the manager know once I have my glasses so the situation can be followed up on. Of course, the manager may have already told the regional manager. I am sure that I am not the only person to have had issues with the person. In fact, isn't there some statstic that says for every reported complaint made by someone they represent a certain amount of people who haven't said anything?

Part 1: Got my glasses but after a couple weeks, was having issues seeing. Went to eye doc and found out after 10 years, my perscription changed. So, eyeglasses were remade. Part 2: After remake, I still was having problems. I asked guy #1 if he would check the perscription and put the red dots on the glasses to see if everything was made correctly. He didn't refuse outright, like no. On the other hand, he didn't do it. I went in another day. Guy #1 not working so I asked guy #2 the same thing. He did it. Turns out, I have something called, eye convergence. So, sometimes my eyes instead of viewing something at the same spot, one eye will be a little off. After the person did this, he noticed my one eye was straining, so something needed to be changed. Part 3: After 2nd remake, still having problems. Guy #1 working. He is by himself. He is busy. I wait until he is done with the other customers. I can tell he is in a horrible mood. I told him, here are the problems I was having. He was like, what do you want done? So, I asked him to recheck perscription and put the red dots on the glasses. Again, he wouldn't do it. Didn't say no, but ignored my request. Takes my glasses and adjusts several things and says, try this. O.k. I leave. I come back a few days later. Things still aren't right. I understand how progressive works. I had a progressive frame prior to this. I also know how I should be able to see. Something isn't right. Guy #2 there by himself. I apologize and tell him I am sorry that I keep coming in for adjustments. He apologizes and says he shouldn't have acted the way he did the other day. I ask him to do the red dots and check perscription. He tells me, the lab always gets the perscription right. He takes the glasses, makes adjustments and says, try this. A week later, put my glasses on. The frame breaks. Yipee. Not. I go in. Guy #2 working. Well, as it turns out, I will have to pay for a new frame. Unless I talk to the manager and he is willing to work things out. Guess who the manager is? Guy #1. He won't reduce price of eyeglasses. Interestingly, with the glasses sitting lower, I can see the better than before. I decide I am just going to have to suck it up and pay for the frames. It really is the cheapest option. In the meantime, I go into another eyeglass store and have them check the perscription and do the red dots. Find out, red dots show everything is lined up correctly. Perscription is wrong. Since this is a place not affiliated at all with the other eyeglass place I have been going, I decide to go to another location with that company and have them check the perscription. I figure that it could be a mistake or how they check may be different. Find out, perscription is wrong. Not one person, but two people check it out. They notice the eyepiece is missing. They had looked in my file and saw that I have only had them a few months. I just tell them it broke and I am going to buy another frame. They are like, what? You haven't had it that long. I agreed. The lady is like, that isn't right. This is not the service we provide people. She asks if I had talked to the manger, and I said yes. He said I will need to buy a new frame. I let her know that I have been to the other store quite a bit, and really, I think they are just sick of seeing me and that I have been picky about my glasses. She said that it shouldn't matter. Obviously at this point she knows I am coming here because they didn't check my perscription at the other location. I let her know I have an eye appointment with the doctor and he was going to recheck my perscription to make sure I didn't need it stronger and to give suggestions about what is going on. I also let her know I can see better now that the frame is lower, and she is like, you need to lower the segue. I ask if she will call and tell the doctor what she is telling me since I have no idea what she is saying. She says she will. She also lets me know she is going to talk to the mangager (guy #1). I freak out and am like, no that is o.k. you don't need to. I am not trying to cause problems, I just want my eyeglass situation resolved. (I know if she talks to this guy, he will not be pleasant to work with.) Well, she did call him and said everything should be o.k. and that I should let her know what is going on. Well, I get there and have to wait for eye doc at the location I have been going to. In the meantime, Guy#1 says, "I just don't know what more I can do for you". I tell him the perscription isn't right. He says, "yes it is". O.K. I don't say anything else. Doc comes out. I tell him the situation, he checks the perscription. It is wrong. I ask him if this would cause most people to have problems seeing or is it just me, since I am picky about how I see. He says, no. He wouldn't have told me it was wrong if it was within the normal margin for error. He checks my perscription. We decide to have it a little stronger, although, it could have stayed the way he had done it before. We talk about the segue line. He says I should just let guy #1 know to lower it a mm. I ask him if he could just tell him. So, he writes it down. Doc goes out with me. Hands the perscription to guy #1. Guy #1 says, o.k. we will remake it. He looks and me and says I have one person ahead of me so sit and wait. The person leaves and I am sitting there. Finally, he asks me if I have the perscritpion. I tell him no. He is irriated. Gets up and finds it on a stack of papers. He sits down, doesn't tell me to come up to where he is sitting. So, I just stay where I am at. Finally, he wants me to come over. He says, "I shouldn't have to eat the cost of the frames" and looks at me. I tell him that I have no problem paying for the new frames. However, I don't want to have the same situation happen where there are adjustments being made again and again, and the frame breaks again and I have to pay, again. That is why I am making sure everything is correct. I than tell him, again, the perscription was wrong and I had asked him to check it but he wouldn't, telling me that lab was correct. So, no matter what adjustments would have been made, I would not have been able to see right. He tells me, he did check it and it was correct. the other people are wrong because they don't check it manually. (What I didn't say, is the one person at the other location did check it manually and it was wrong.) He gets up and sets the paperwork aside and says rudely, o.k. that's it. I will do what the doctor said. (I guess I am not going to have to pay for the frames, because he didn't have me pay.) I look at him and say, "I am not trying to cause trouble. I just want things to be right. We are going to have to work together to get this staightened out." He says,"I will do my job" and gets up and walks away. I hate. hate. hate. these types of situations. I have to go back to get my glasses and I don't want to deal with this guy. I think I will go when he isn't there or I think I will have my dh come along. Then I think, you are such a chicken. I think I should be able to handle this without all the anxiety. In my family though, conflict and confrontation, were not allowed. You argue, you go to your room. I so stink as an adult handling conflict without having a physical reaction, shaking, anxiety or just backing down to keep the peace. The other location followed up and wanted to know what happened, so I told her. I started crying. I hate. hate. hate. when I do that. She was concerned that I was so upset. I told her really, I just don't deal with those types of situations very well. The other location offered for me to pick them up and than come to them to get them fitted. In fact, they said, just have dh pick them up and let them know I will get them fitted another time and than go to their location. The other location also thinks the regional manager should know what happened and wants to tell that person. I told them please to wait until I have my glasses. I don't need the situation to get any worse than it is. Did I mention that I hate. hate. hate. situations like this?