Pammy Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 sooner than we thought. Dementia usually ends a life in 2-5 years. It has been almost 3 since he was diagnosed. I am going to see him tomorrow and we are going to try to put him in a home, against my brother's wishes. Please pray for my sister and I as we try to minister to him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crissy Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 I am so sorry, Pammy. The decisions we must make on behalf of our aging parents are so difficult. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovemyboys Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 :grouphug: Pammy, so sorry for you to be going through this, and hoping you and your sibs will find peace with your decisions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laylamcb Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 Oh, wow, Pammy. That is so, so hard. Just SO hard. Blessings to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doran Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 sooner than we thought. Dementia usually ends a life in 2-5 years. It has been almost 3 since he was diagnosed. I am going to see him tomorrow and we are going to try to put him in a home, against my brother's wishes. Please pray for my sister and I as we try to minister to him. I know, first hand, of what you speak, of how painful it is, and how pitiful. Peace, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diane Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 I am so sorry you are having to make this decision. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missplacedalaskan Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 I'm sorry for your loss of the father you know and love, Pam. Praying for you as you make some hard decisions for you dad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reesegirl Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 Hi Pammy, I am so sorry that you and your family have to make this decision. My dh and I have experienced this same situation and have walked your path. My dh and mil had to come to this decision 4 years ago when they placed my dh father in a memory care nursing home. It was very difficult and we had self doubts and feelings of guilt. My fil was still aware of the situation and was very angry for several months. But in time he settled in to his new home. About a year ago he stopped recognizing my dh and when he went to see him there was no recognition. This past spring he started having problems with his bladder and after a couple of proceedures he was diagnosed with bladder cancer. He had surgery this summer and then within 3 week passed away very quickly. They say that most people don't die from this but from other complications. I will pray for you and your family as you make these decisions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom to Aly Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 Pammy, I am so, so sorry! I lost my great-grandmother and my grandmother to this, and now my mom is going into it. If it does help, my grandmother, who they said had full blown dementia, did recognize people occasionally for a couple of years afterwards (well, me and my mom, and one of my uncles, we were very close to her). I can't imagine how difficult this is for you, and am praying for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frankie Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 I feel for you. You're in my thoughts and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bev in B'ville Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in the Kootenays Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 It's tough. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G5052 Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 Mom has small vessel disease (vascular dementia) and Dad has Parkinson's-related dementia. We're estranged because I had to take steps to get my mother off the road, and I'm figuring that any day we'll have to put them into a supervised situation. Mom can't cook any more from all reports. It's heart-breaking! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 :grouphug: It is very hard! Praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3lilreds in NC Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 Oh, Pammy, I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mazakaal Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 I'm so sorry. I'll be praying that it goes well with brother and sister. I know how difficult it was for my mom and her siblings to put my grandmother in a home after her Alzheimer's got really bad. My prayers are with you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sleepy Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 :grouphug: Pammy :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bkpan Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 I am so sorry. My dad was recently diagnosed as well. I am still processing what our future may hold.:( Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 :grouphug:Pammy, prayers for your family.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie in AR Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 ((Pammy)) I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 I was thinking about you Pammy, and hope your weekend was okay. How was your Dad? Did you make a family decision about his care? My father has Alzheimers, and has for years. I've never heard the 2-5 year statistic, but I don't know anyone with dementia who wasn't alread very old and who died that quickly. I hope that your family will be able to work together to care for him. It's so so so hard, and if you want to talk about it, feel free to PM. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keptwoman Posted October 25, 2008 Share Posted October 25, 2008 Pammy, I am so, so sorry! I lost my great-grandmother and my grandmother to this, and now my mom is going into it. If it does help, my grandmother, who they said had full blown dementia, did recognize people occasionally for a couple of years afterwards (well, me and my mom, and one of my uncles, we were very close to her). I used to work in aged care as a nurse aide before I had children and I did a year on a dementia ward. This is very true. It was described to me as the patient being in a tunnel, every now and then they come out of the tunnel for a while. As they get further into the dementia tunnel the periods out of the tunnel become less frequent and shorter but from my experience they did happen for a very long time after a person seemed to be completely incapable of remembering people. Unfortunately though they are completely unpredictable in timing so it's just very lucky if a relative happens to be there at the time. I enjoyed those times of clarity with the people I cared for very much. I learnt so much about them in those short periods as I chatted to them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HRAAB Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 Pammy, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. Your family is in my prayers. Blessings, Janet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest janainaz Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 :( Very sorry, that must be really difficult. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyBlueLobsters Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brigitte Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 I am sorry for you and your family. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tracy in Ky Posted October 26, 2008 Share Posted October 26, 2008 I am so sorry.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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