goldberry Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 We have several "early college" programs in our state. They are high schools that pay for dual enrollment. In fact, they allow students to stay longer (an extra year or two even) and get college credits that are still paid for. DD is in 11th grade this year, and tested ready to take whatever college classes she wants to take. So next year, she is enrolling in one of the early college high schools, but she will be attending the community college full time (paid for). She may even stay an extra year, if it fits with her plans, in order to benefit from getting that paid for. So, technically, she will graduate high school from XY Early College High School. I always thought she would just graduate as a homeschooler. The thing is, and this is where it gets really petty, I was kind of proud that I homeschooled her through high school. And I did really... although this is a high school technically, she is not taking any high school courses there. She is only taking college courses. So... is it still appropriate for me to say I homeschooled her through high school? Somehow it feels dishonest now that she will have a high school diploma from some XY public school. And... how silly that this would matter to me, right? Except... I gave up a lot of personal goals to homeschool. I do feel proud of what we accomplished together. I homeschooled a child into college readiness at 11th grade. It feels nice to have an accomplishment to say out loud in place of the personal goals I gave up. *sigh* That sounds petty though, doesn't it? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 You are still directing her education. I don't see why not. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 And it isn't petty. It's your life's work. 16 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 Call her a dual enrollment and graduate her from The Goldberry Homeschool AND whatever school is letting her start college classes. Since, after all, you have done the grunt work to get her to this place of being ready for college classes. :-) 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gil Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 This is not petty. It is all at once your life's work, your families journey, budding legacy and your child. All things that most people take tremendous pride in because of how hard they work for those things. Personally, I put long, tireless hours into planning, worrying about, thinking of, and actually teaching, training, coaching, directing my students (sons) individual growth. I have sleepless nights and weeks over these kids, their futures and live in constant distress over the idea that I am ruining them for life. Mine are only in 3rd grade. I'd be so proud, and also a good bit sad if after all I'd done and how I'd grown so very attached to our bond, our process, our journey, if I'd gotten my child to within sight of the finish line and it suddenly looked like I'd have my personal glory snatched away/shared on a technicality. If I were you, I would try to focus on the FACT that you homeschooled your child until college. It doesn't matter how they get to college, you and your daughter have gotten there together. Without XY Schools help or support. XY School is just your kids gate into college. This is not petty at all. I feel you. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted January 30, 2016 Author Share Posted January 30, 2016 Gosh, I am almost teary-eyed grateful at you guys understanding! Thank goodness for the Hive! No one else would get this at all.. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monica_in_Switzerland Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 You did it all! If anyone asks later, I would just say you HS'd through high school, and then she qualified for early college admissions and began college at 17 (or whatever). I would be annoyed too. But no one needs to know the dirty secret that she has a high school diploma. :-D 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 I don't think I know ANY homeschoolers who "homeschooled through high school" who didn't enroll in any outside classes. Completing some other program while homeschooling doesn't cancel out the work you did at home. Think of it as a double major? Or your own version of dual enrollment. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 Good job, mama! It's not petty at all. I would have a hard time with it too. :grouphug: Lots of good suggestions here for how to think or talk about it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Strawberry Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 She isn't going to high school. She's qualifying for a scholarship which also happens to give out a diploma. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 You educated her to be college ready. I wouldn't be thinking about it the way you are. I think you are "graduating" her to college level classes. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 Why not say "I homeschooled her until college"? 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abba12 Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 Would someone who's child graduated at 15 and enrolled in college early say that they didn't homeschool through high school? You've done EXACTLY that, she just happened to enrol in college through a more unusual means, through another school You homeschooled through high school You homeschooled all the way through until college Nothing takes that away from you. And nope, it's not petty either 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 Mine started college in an early entrance program. We talk about it just like Gill said, homeschooled to college. Congratulations to both of you!! Have a party! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 (edited) Goldberry, I'm a relic, :p a former homeschooler with three young adult kids. Our experience ranges from one child with no dual credit to one with 24 hours, and one in between. Whenever I people ask me about homeschooling, I tell them that we homeschooled all the way to college, and that I graduated three kids. I know your dd's program is technically a high school program, but it is clearly college, so I'd be proud that you educated her into college readiness. I'd have zero worries about hiring professors to finish your homeschooling job in your stead--if you are like me, you'll want to keep up with what is going on in her classes. LOL! [ETA: When people ask,] I tell them that, as my kids got older, my role as a homeschooler changed from being the primary teacher to becoming, instead, a coach and educational advocate, someone who encouraged, gave perspective, hired (and fired) teachers and tutors, sought out the best venues for each student's ongoing education, and generally, oversaw their education to its completion. My role changed as my students and their needs changed. But we homeschooled all the way to college. I'm proud of our accomplishment, and you should be proud of yours! Congrats, Goldberry! hth Edited January 31, 2016 by Halftime Hope 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 You educated her to be college ready. I wouldn't be thinking about it the way you are. I think you are "graduating" her to college level classes. :iagree: congratulations on a job well done :hurray: :hurray: :hurray: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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