Guest Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 I only intervened if we were going somewhere it mattered. Same with my boys. If we were playing at home, wear whatever the hell you like. The ugly "I'm Irish!" Tee shirt, sweatshorts with a chlorine bleach splatter from cleaning the pool - no matter. If we're going to church, or grandma's, I would suggest an outfit change. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tess in the Burbs Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 Mine could care less what others think as evidenced by her attire today. She turns 12 tomorrow. I do suggest things when I think the event requires it. Then it is up to her to decide. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 If your Dd wears something that doesn't match at this age, purple tie die shorts, orangey, corally, top for example. Do you say something to save her from the mean girl comments? I did tell Dd that I put her denim shorts on her dresser, just in case she just did not see them and grabbed the purple ones. But no she wants to wear what she has on..... I love my smart, confident, artsy, creative girl. Yes. Because 10yo dc are still learning to understand what fashion is, what looks best on them, what is appropriate for different situations and what is not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 If neither of its is at risk of arrest, I let it go. I'm pretty sure she has more girl fashion sense at 11 than I ever did. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reign Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 I let my kids clash. I was really into weird clothes as a teen. It's in the family blood. Clothes must be clean, weather appropriate, and venue appropriate. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MiMi 4under3 Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 I haven't cared if any of my girls matched since they turned 3 and started to choose their own clothes. They've all mostly figured it out by now. The one who always clashed the most, now frequently gets compliments on her outfits and she never even tries to look nice! She's just developed her own flair for putting certain items together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommymilkies Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 Are you kidding? That sounds like something I would wear. If kids will be mean about the clothes, that's a pretty good indication of who not to give a rat's patoot about cultivating a friendship with. Plus, following your own fashion sense seems to be "in" right now with lots of strange fashion. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momof4babes Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 My DD is almost 11, and sometimes doesn't realize when something clashes. She's getting much better, but will ask me occasionally if her outfit is ok. If something does, I'll tell her, but 99% of the time it's up to her if she changes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 My DD went to seventh grade last fall with a very eclectic/bright/loud/mismatched wardrobe. It was well received where we were. She got compliments on her style. I only make her change if it's dirty (not overly rare, but getting better) or not appropriate for where we'll be (very, very rare). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 I might comment that some people might not think it goes together but what she wears as long as it's not inappropriate is up to her. They, after all, think I dress " boring". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kroe1 Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 I am currently at a restaurant looking down at my ankle socks hanging out of brown shoes, blue shorts and a purple striped shirt. I have on no makeup and 5 stitches in my face. No, I would not say anything. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cera2 Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 9 times out of 10 the outfit I think looks ridiculous is actually extremely fashionable for the tween girl set so I don't comment anymore. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alice Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 9 times out of 10 the outfit I think looks ridiculous is actually extremely fashionable for the tween girl set so I don't comment anymore. My boys don't really care that much about clothes yet. My oldest though only wears black socks with shorts and athletic shoes or Crocs. I think they look ridiculous and have told him that. His personality is such that he thinks it's funny that it bugs me so I'm not crushing his sense of style or anything. Then we were at a party where a friend's tween boy was also wearing black socks and she commented how she thinks it looks so weird but how it's apparently the cool thing to wear and that white socks are "dorky" in her son's words. I actually kind of find it funny that my son happened upon the cool look accidentally (at least I'm pretty sure it's accidental, maybe he's more aware of what is cool than I realized). My daughter is almost 6 and has a very strong sense of her own style. I haven't picked out her clothes since she was 2. Even then she would refuse to wear certain things and it wasn't really a battle I cared about. She frequently dresses fairly crazily but as long as it's clean and appropriate for the occasion I'm ok with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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