trulycrabby Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 I just don't like this lady, I don't know why I ever said yes to her friend request. I see her occasionally in an exercise class I take, so this is someone I know in real life, and not one of my imaginary wtm friends. :) If I unfriend her, will it be obvious, like a message or blurb on her facebook friend: "Trylycrabby has unfriended you?" :o Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lavandula Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 You don't get any notification. If they look click on your page it'll show you don't have each other added, but that's really it. If you are worried about upsetting her I believe there's a way to hide people's posts from your feed without deleting them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wilma Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 Not obvious. I doubt she'd notice, unless you're a very prolific poster and/or super fascinating and she would miss seeing your posts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dory Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 Nope. Often they won't even know it happened unless they suddenly notice that they aren't getting any posts from you and go look at your page and friends list I know people that didn't realize someone unfriended them until a year after the fact. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted June 27, 2014 Author Share Posted June 27, 2014 Not obvious. I doubt she'd notice, unless you're a very prolific poster and/or super fascinating and she would miss seeing your posts. I am probably the least prolific and fascinating person on facebook. :o :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aiden Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 I'm not sure if they receive a message or not, but I do recall one of my acquaintances posted something on his timeline once along the lines of "Noticed I'm down one friend. Didn't they know they could just unfollow me?" So, I don't know if this person would notice you unfriending her or not. If you're annoyed by the things she posts and don't really care if she sees your information, I'd just unfollow her, so nothing from her will show up in your page. If you don't want her seeing what you post, the easiest thing would be to unfriend her, though I guess you could go through the effort of creating customized "who can see this" lists that exclude her, then remembering to apply that setting to everything you post. I usually just unfollow people I find annoying, though if it's really bad, I'll unfriend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 You can set her to "acquaintance" then set your feed to "friends except acquaintances." You won't see her stuff in your feed, she won't see yours, but you will each still have access to the other's timeline page should you ever want to pop over there and take a look. Eventually she might figure it out but it's fb. That kind of stuff happens all the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 You can hide her from your feed. She will still see you, but you won't see her. This avoids the unfriending issue. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 It's not obvious, but she certainly might notice. For one thing, you might show up on her "people you may know" list. Sometimes I just hide people if I don't want to see their posts, but if I actually didn't like them? eh, I'd probably defriend her. If she has the nerve to ask about it, just say you decided to narrow down your friends list to people you see and talk to more often. People do this all the time. She doesn't have to know she was the only one weeded out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 I'm not sure if they receive a message or not, but I do recall one of my acquaintances posted something on his timeline once along the lines of "Noticed I'm down one friend. Didn't they know they could just unfollow me?" Wow, that person keeps a mighty close eye on their friend count, lol! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 I would just do it and not even worry about it! I've unfriended a bunch of people. I have been unfriended. It's no big deal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted June 27, 2014 Author Share Posted June 27, 2014 I really just don't want her to see my posts. The only public groups I post on are homeschooling ones, so they likely bore her to tears... :o Thanks for everyone's help. I will try changing her into an acquaintance, but if that doesn't work, I will unfriend her. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momto10blessings Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 Wow, that person keeps a mighty close eye on their friend count, lol! Seriously! I have no idea how many friends I have, and would never notice if an acquaintance unfriended me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aiden Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 Wow, that person keeps a mighty close eye on their friend count, lol! He's a mathematician. He always notices numbers! :001_rolleyes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 If you unfriend and block her, you will disappear entirely. She could think you deleted your FB account. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted June 27, 2014 Author Share Posted June 27, 2014 If you unfriend and block her, you will disappear entirely. She could think you deleted your FB account. Ooh, I like this idea! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ohdanigirl Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 If you unfriend and block her, you will disappear entirely. She could think you deleted your FB account. When someone deletes their FB acct, they still show up on my friend list. When I click on their name a message comes up that says... This person has deleted their account, you are the only person who can see them on your friend list. If they pay attention, they will know you unfriended and blocked. You could keep them as a friend, but unfollow and restrict. This way they will see you on their list of friends, but won't see any of your posts. You will not see any of their posts, either. It will seem like you have gone inactive. HTH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 I just don't like this lady, I don't know why I ever said yes to her friend request. I see her occasionally in an exercise class I take, so this is someone I know in real life, and not one of my imaginary wtm friends. :) If I unfriend her, will it be obvious, like a message or blurb on her facebook friend: "Trylycrabby has unfriended you?" :o No. But you could also "unfollow" her, which means you would not see any of her posts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 I would just do it and not even worry about it! I've unfriended a bunch of people. I have been unfriended. It's no big deal. I agree... just do it and don't over think it. If she gets in a huff is that really the kind of person you want to be friends with on FB anyway? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brilliant Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 Wow, that person keeps a mighty close eye on their friend count, lol! I know, what a nut. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brilliant Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 ... If they pay attention, they will know you unfriended and blocked. You could keep them as a friend, but unfollow and restrict. This way they will see you on their list of friends, but won't see any of your posts. You will not see any of their posts, either. It will seem like you have gone inactive. HTH Yes, do this! Several posters have mentioned the unfollow part, but you should also go the extra step of restricting her access to your feed, or adding her to a list like acquaintances, and they have all of your posts exclude acquaintances. I've done this with a few people who aren't really "friends" but I don't want to unfriend for whatever reason. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milovany Posted June 27, 2014 Share Posted June 27, 2014 You could also unfriend and then totally block her. If she searched for your name, you just wouldn't show up. Then she might just think, "Oh, she got rid of her FB account" (or, yes, she could think, "Oh, she may have blocked me"). Either way, she'd be out of your FB hair. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kari C in SC Posted June 28, 2014 Share Posted June 28, 2014 There is an extension for google that shows you who unfriends you. She would need to have something like that to see that it happened. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSmomof2 Posted June 28, 2014 Share Posted June 28, 2014 Agreeing with others to set her to Restricted, not just acquaintance. Then she isn't unfriended, but she can only see posts you have set to Public. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandylubug Posted June 28, 2014 Share Posted June 28, 2014 My husband unfriended his sister and a bunch of other peeps and not sure if they have noticed yet of not hahaha. Afterwards, I did tell him he could have set filters, blah blah blah but his reply was "it was easier to unfriend" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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