Luanne Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 ... to me he says "Thanks, Luanne, for being my friend!" And yes, the "my friend" part was underlined ... just like that. My initial (and still) thought is this is his way of making it crystal clear that we are only ever going to be just friends. Am I reading too much into this or am I right on target? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unfrumpable. Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 I would probably take it the same way you are, as well as wondering if I were reading into too much or not. Good relationships start with good friendships, so I wouldn't totally give up hope or anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 I'm sorry, Luanne. :( Yes, I would take it to mean what you thought, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 I'm afraid the underlining gives it away. Sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 Oh, that's a tough one. A woman would write that and be giving a hint. A man writing it could mean "I really just want to be friends" OR " you are my friend and I think this is so cool and I don't want anything to come between us being friends so I'm okay with moving the relationship forward as long as we remain friends." Their brains work differently. You might have to ask for clarification. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 I would just ask him that question, instead of trying to figure out if that is what he meant. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luanne Posted August 1, 2013 Author Share Posted August 1, 2013 That is exactly what I was trying to figure out. I was wondering if I should ask for clarification or just let the whole thing go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest submarines Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 I'd ask for a clarification. He could mean a bunch of things and you'd never know unless you ask. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 It would be sad if your relationship with this person didn't move forward simply because of an incorrect assumption or misunderstanding. If you don't feel comfortable asking for clarification, at least don't read anything into it for now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalmia Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 Men are clueless. He could mean anything. Stop trying to read his mind and ask. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 How about this: he underlined it precisely because he wants to take things to the next level, and he's hoping you'll ask him about it. The underlining might be his way of getting your attention. Guys are weird. Ask him. :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HRAAB Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 I honestly don't know if I would have the courage to ask him for clarification, but open, honest conversation is always best. I don't know what conversations you've had prior to this, or if any of them indicated there might be something more. If so, I wouldn't just let it go but ask for clarification. Who knows where friendship can lead, though. I'm sorry. That's not what you wanted to hear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luanne Posted August 1, 2013 Author Share Posted August 1, 2013 I honestly don't know if I would have the courage to ask him for clarification, but open, honest conversation is always best. I don't know what conversations you've had prior to this, or if any of them indicated there might be something more. If so, I wouldn't just let it go but ask for clarification. Who knows where friendship can lead, though. I'm sorry. That's not what you wanted to hear. I honestly don't know what I want to hear (if that makes any sense). We have been writing back and forth since the end of March. We have met in person one time (at a funeral) at the beginning of July. I really don't know him well enough to know if I want more than just friendship or not. I just wanted to know there was a possibility of it, you know? He lives 100 miles away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted August 1, 2013 Share Posted August 1, 2013 I would say the underlining was because you are a very special friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luanne Posted August 2, 2013 Author Share Posted August 2, 2013 I would say the underlining was because you are a very special friend. You think? I really probably should clarify this with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OrganicAnn Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 I would assume it means he means he wants to be "just friends" but unless you ask you can't be certain. Guys aren't too complicated, but they often don't like difficult relationship situations. So it might be easier for him to write this than to say to you "Let's just be friends". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 Pretty sure it means he wants to be just friends and nothing more. He was pointing that out by underlining the word. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 If he's not driving to your town and taking you out from time to time on his day off I would figure he's not really interested. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted August 2, 2013 Share Posted August 2, 2013 I'm sorry, but I think you are correct. The message seems pretty clear; it's possible he meant something else but it isn't likely. I hope you can appreciate his friendship--that's a good thing even if it isn't what you were hoping for. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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