k2bdeutmeyer Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 DS (2.5yr) is still nursing before bed/nap. Tonight, I asked him to come to me and that it was time for "milk" (bed) 3 different times. He told me no and ran away all 3 times. So, I put his jammies on him and told him "no milk" because he didn't come when mommy asked. I reluctantly put him to bed crying and screaming (he normally goes to bed very easily). He looked at me as I tucked him in and through his sobs said "I need you". I about lost it. He's now in his bed crying and crying and crying for me. Tell me NOT to go in there cuz I really, REALLY want to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristusG Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I'm sorry, I think I'd go in there LOL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SnowWhite Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I'd go. I also have a 2.5yo nursling, so I know where you're coming from. I'm at the "don't offer, don't refuse" stage. He skipped his nap today because he reneged on nursing twice. The weaning will come. Do your mama heart right! I can't imagine in 10 years you'll regret nursing him tonight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brett_ashley Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 don't do it!!! you'll be so glad tomorrow night if you stick to your logical consequence. speak some words of comfort to him from outside the door. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meggie Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I think it would be ok. I wouldn't expect a 2.5 year old to understand the verbal message. I think tomorrow you might have more luck with getting him to come and if he doesn't, remind him. And if he still doesn't, then I would put him to bed and not go back in. I don't think it would hurt anything this one time. Plus, I know how baby hungry you've been, so I would just say, "Go in and baby him a little." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EthiopianFood Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 He doesn't get it. Just go in. Think of another consequence next time. All he's getting right now is that he can't sleep. This is coming from someone who does NOT like to go back on a consequence! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whereneverever Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I'm going to agree- go in. He's still little. If bed time is usually peaceful I'd want to keep that up. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 None of my bio kids weaned before 3.5. If this were a poll, I'd tell you to go in. :) I promise you, this will not last forever, and you will *never* regret comforting him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2bdeutmeyer Posted November 15, 2011 Author Share Posted November 15, 2011 Okay....I went in :) He was still laying face down in his blankie sobbing. He's laying peacefully on my lap now.:001_wub: I do hope it helps him "remember" to not run away tomorrow night though. ETA: I have no issue with the nursing, I'm just so darn tired of him telling me "no" and running from me all.the.time! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I'd go. He is only 2.5. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whereneverever Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Okay....I went in :) He was still laying face down in his blankie sobbing. He's laying peacefully on my lap now.:001_wub: I do hope it helps him "remember" to not run away tomorrow night though. Enjoy him! I hope he comes quicker tomorrow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest submarines Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Oh my world. Just go in there and cuddle your precious little one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Myeightkiddies Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I think you did the right thing. The time that he was in there should be enough to correct his behavior next time. He can now cuddle and go to bed peacefully. If he does it again, just repeat what you did. He'll know that you are serious. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sevilla Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I'm glad you went in :). If it were me, I would hold the 'no nursing' boundary but still give the cuddling to sleep part. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meggie Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Okay....I went in :) He was still laying face down in his blankie sobbing. He's laying peacefully on my lap now.:001_wub: I do hope it helps him "remember" to not run away tomorrow night though. ETA: I have no issue with the nursing, I'm just so darn tired of him telling me "no" and running from me all.the.time! :lol: I can only laugh because I feel your pain. That is Digby to a T. I guess they just think it's funny.:glare: Little stinkers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 :) You won't be sorry. "The days are long but the years are short." It's difficult to hear this when you are in the middle of exhuastion and the never-ending physical demands of little ones. However endless the days may seem, fewer words are as true. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Myeightkiddies Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 :) You won't be sorry. "The days are long but the years are short." It's difficult to hear this when you are in the middle of exhuastion and the never-ending physical demands of little ones. However endless the days may seem, fewer words are as true. :iagree: So very true! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meggie Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 :) You won't be sorry. "The days are long but the years are short." It's difficult to hear this when you are in the middle of exhuastion and the never-ending physical demands of little ones. However endless the days may seem, fewer words are as true. I know I'm not the OP, but I do appreciate hearing this message many times on these boards. For me at least, it does help keep things in perspective. Thank you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2bdeutmeyer Posted November 15, 2011 Author Share Posted November 15, 2011 I know I'm not the OP, but I do appreciate hearing this message many times on these boards. For me at least, it does help keep things in perspective. Thank you. I couldn't agree more. It is easy to only see in the moment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 2.5 yr olds are teasers :) Course, if you wanted to stop nursing.... I nursed for basically...ever... so I'm no help there :) And believe me when I say I miss it :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Kristin, I read your OP, and before I read any of the replies, I was thinking 'Oh! Go in there! Go nurse that baby!' I see you did go in. :001_smile: What I wouldn't give to nurse my babies just one more time. It's such a challenging time. But you have older ones; you know that in a blink of an eye, he'll be BIG. You're a good mommy. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindyg Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 Well, my little baby is 14 years old. I have to say, If I could make his world wonderful again -- as 2.5 year, of course! -- with one more "nursin'," boy, I sure would. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom4him Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I'm sorry, I think I'd go in there LOL. :iagree: :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2bdeutmeyer Posted November 15, 2011 Author Share Posted November 15, 2011 Kristin, I read your OP, and before I read any of the replies, I was thinking 'Oh! Go in there! Go nurse that baby!' I see you did go in. :001_smile: What I wouldn't give to nurse my babies just one more time. It's such a challenging time. But you have older ones; you know that in a blink of an eye, he'll be BIG. You're a good mommy. :) Awww!! Thank you :) That just made my day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 :) You won't be sorry. "The days are long but the years are short You did the right thing.... My baby is almost 13. Her dad works out of town alot in the summer. Last summer, she went through a phase where she wanted to sleep with mom every night. I got tired of it! I like my privacy. I thought I was enforcing my boundaries. We argued about it. We went back and forth and she would BEG me to sleep in my bed. When I would let her she would snuggle up to me like a little baby all night. THIS summer, dad left, I ask, "Are you sleeping with mom tonight?" "No, I don't think so." ??? Now she likes her own room, and she likes listening to her ipod in privacy before going to sleep. She likes her window open so she can look at the stars. I spent half the summer asking "Are you sure you don't want to sleep with mom tonight?" A couple of times she did, but I think it was just to please ME more than because she wanted to. I would give anything to have last summer back. I just didn't realize that was my last chance at that stage. :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 I would have gone in. You can't regret anything but moments you could have shown love but were lost because you didn't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted November 15, 2011 Share Posted November 15, 2011 You did the right thing. Good for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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