always cookin' Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 I have been invited to a wedding. I am going to a funeral. I also need to send a belated graduation (from high school) gift. I know that it depends on how close you are to the recipient, but I would appreciate ball-park figures as to how much $ to give. Also, how much do you generally spend at a bridal shower? I am not super-close to any of them, but I want to give them a nice gift. It has been so long since I have had to do this, I have no idea how much to give. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erica in OR Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 Ballpark figures, typical wedding/graduation/bridal shower amounts for me (gift or cash) is $10 to $20 if I don't know them that well. Erica in OR Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 weddings and graduations: $50-100 funeral: a card showers: $30-40 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 it also depends on where you live. You'd give far more money in NY than you would in OR, for example. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 weddings and graduations: $50-100 funeral: a card showers: $30-40 I pretty much agree with this. I'd give at least $50 for the graduation. I'd give at least $100.00 for the wedding. The funeral could just be a card and/or a card and flowers. And for a shower anywhere from $25 to $50. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyrjoy Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 We give what we can afford which is about $25 for graduation and $35 for a wedding. For a shower, I usually $20. Certainly if we could afford more we'd do that! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristusG Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 I'd do $20 for each. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barry Goldwater Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 I have been invited to a wedding. I am going to a funeral. I also need to send a belated graduation (from high school) gift. I know that it depends on how close you are to the recipient' date=' but I would appreciate ball-park figures as to how much $ to give. Also, how much do you generally spend at a bridal shower? I am not super-close to any of them, but I want to give them a nice gift. It has been so long since I have had to do this, I have no idea how much to give.[/quote'] 1st of all, it should be what you can afford...but our rule of thumb has been: $100 for wedding if I'm attending, $50 if not. $50 for graduation. $50 for bridal shower. Card + flowers ($20) for funeral or donation in lieu of (if requested), personal visit to calling hours if feasible. I may be way off the average...I grew up on east coast where everything is expensive...but currently live in MW where we're having a depression:tongue_smilie: We don't have a large network of friends, most family is out of state...so we don't get hit up too often :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sherry in OH Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 I have been invited to a wedding. I am going to a funeral. I also need to send a belated graduation (from high school) gift. I know that it depends on how close you are to the recipient' date=' but I would appreciate ball-park figures as to how much $ to give. Also, how much do you generally spend at a bridal shower? I am not super-close to any of them, but I want to give them a nice gift. It has been so long since I have had to do this, I have no idea how much to give.[/quote'] Wedding - $50 if attending, $25 if not attending. I'd give more for a close family member and more if my children are attending the reception. Funeral - $20-30 donation to specified organization Bridal shower - $25 maximum Graduation - $25 maximum Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 (edited) 50-100 if you're a friends of the family for the wedding, 100-1000 if you're family (Dh and I got thousands from family members (not in total, but singularly) at our wedding and we had a SMALL wedding just 60 peeps). 30-50 for a birthday card and at least a 50 arrangement for the funeral if you're close enough-just a card if you're an acquaintance. I would also follow up with a few meals or something. Shower at least 50-that's a minimum. For both bridal and baby. Normally I go in on a big ticket item. BUT when my brother gets married I can tell I'm gonna be shelling out some escarole. graduation-if you're a friend 25, if you're family at least 100. ETA, the bottom line is you give what you can. People understand. Those who don't aren't worth your time, you know? If you really can't give, send regrets unless you're an immediate family member. I'm in Jersey. Around these parts, the checks depend on the spread you put out. If people are sitting at the reception and the wait staff is stingy, they take money out of the envelope. Edited September 28, 2010 by justamouse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dansamy Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 Wedding - $50 if attending, $25 if not attending. I'd give more for a close family member and more if my children are attending the reception.Funeral - $20-30 donation to specified organization Bridal shower - $25 maximum Graduation - $25 maximum For people I am not close to this sounds about right. If I am close to them, it's more. The funeral thing - generally just a visit at the wake to offer my condolences. If the deceased has young children and the family has set up a fund, I'll donate to that. (Yes, I know everyone should have life insurance, but sometimes people pass without having planned ahead. The children should certainly not be made to suffer anymore than they already are.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 I have been invited to a wedding. I am going to a funeral. I also need to send a belated graduation (from high school) gift. I know that it depends on how close you are to the recipient' date=' but I would appreciate ball-park figures as to how much $ to give. Also, how much do you generally spend at a bridal shower? I am not super-close to any of them, but I want to give them a nice gift. It has been so long since I have had to do this, I have no idea how much to give.[/quote'] What would be reasonable for us if we didn't know the people well would be $25. Would send a card for a funeral unless there is a request for a donation to a fund that I would like to support. If I didn't want to support it, I would send a card; if I did, $25 unless it was for a widow, etc. without good life insurance, then it would be more even if I didn't know her well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 Wedding-$250, more if the kids are attending with us. Shower- $25-$50 depending on how close I am with the family. Graduation $25-$50-depends on how close I am with the family. Funeral-send food to the house afterward with a card. I am in New Jersey for perspective. I also agree with a pp, that you give what you can. True friends really do not care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barry Goldwater Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 Just another thought...along the lines of 'what you can afford' will change a lot depending on your season of life, such as being single, being married w/both of us working & no kids, just me working with 4 kids, etc. I would think the family with 4 kids under 6 yrs old w/ just one parent working wouldn't be expected to be as 'generous' as the 50 yr old couple whose kids are out and on their own...but again, anything given ought to be accepted graciously. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 I don't give money for weddings. I'll purchase a gift either off the registry or from one of my local shops. The cost varies depending on what I have on had at the time. A great gift for one particular couple may be $20 and be just the thing for them. For a different couple I may have to spend more. Same with a shower. I've gone from $20-60 depending on the bride, our friendship and her taste. For a funeral I'll buy a card and flowers. Which reminds me I have to do that today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dobela Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 Ballpark figures, typical wedding/graduation/bridal shower amounts for me (gift or cash) is $10 to $20 if I don't know them that well. Erica in OR That is about what I do as well unless slitting the costs with someone else. If the family of the deceased has named a perferred charity, then I might give around $10-$15 if it is one I would want to support. Even just a card is acceptable in that case. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitestavern Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 1st of all, it should be what you can afford...but our rule of thumb has been: $100 for wedding if I'm attending, $50 if not. $50 for graduation. $50 for bridal shower. Card + flowers ($20) for funeral or donation in lieu of (if requested), personal visit to calling hours if feasible. I may be way off the average...I grew up on east coast where everything is expensive...but currently live in MW where we're having a depression:tongue_smilie: We don't have a large network of friends, most family is out of state...so we don't get hit up too often :lol: :iagree: with the exception that the only time I give flowers or a donation for a funeral is if I am pretty close to the deceased one's family. We live in the Northeast. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted September 28, 2010 Share Posted September 28, 2010 (edited) *** Edited February 18, 2023 by J-rap Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted September 29, 2010 Share Posted September 29, 2010 50ish for a friends wedding 100ish for a family wedding 20-25 for a birthday card, meal and a 40-50 arrangement for the funerals of close family/friends 25-50 for a shower graduation-25 for friends, 50 for family Note that the amount might be a gift for around that amount, or it might be a check. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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