KidsHappen Posted March 26, 2010 Share Posted March 26, 2010 The first time my hubby told me he loved me he immediately said, "I sorry. I didn't mean that. Well, I meant it, I just didn't mean to say it." What do you say to that? I decided to let him stew for awhile, figure out what he really felt and meant. Plus I needed time to consider the matter myself. The implications for us were more serious than most. Anyhow, a few days later, I told him that I loved him too and he busted out crying. He told me later than he almost ran off down the street and never came back. Once we had decided that we were both in fact in love and intended to stay together, we broke the news to his family and dealt with the consequneces. It was a very messy affair that almost tore his family apart. Luckily, we had some support and bridges have been mended and we are still together 20 years later. It only took his family a few years to decide that we had made the right choice. Even my children from my first marriage believe we did the right thing even though it makes their lives terribly complicated. My family was pretty accepting from the beginning but the consequences were less severe for them. My dear mother bless her heart, always supported just about any crazy thing I wanted to do. When I wanted to get married at a young age the first time around she agreed to it, when I called and said I am having a home birth she was there by my side, when I said I would breastfeed she said good for you and when I said I would homeschool she was all on board with that as well. I don't know that she ever questioned my ability to do anything I set my mind to and as long as I was happy she was there to support me. So what's your story? :bigear: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted March 27, 2010 Author Share Posted March 27, 2010 Wow, no stories? :lurk5: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cricket Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 My dh actually asked me to marry him before he ever said "I love you." It was two weeks after we met and it was over the phone. I asked him that meant that he loved me and he said yes. It took me a few more days to agree to all that! :) We've been married 14 years now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie12345 Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 It would be inappropriate for me to share that story. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babysparkler Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 (edited) DH and I were 14 (I think I had just turned 15, maybe?) and had been dating for about 2 months when he told me he loved me... Here is our "story": He had come home from a family vacation early b/c his grandmother (who he adored) suddenly passed away, so we didn't expect to see each other for another couple of weeks. He called me for a "spur of the moment date" in the middle of the day. His parents came to pick me up (we weren't driving yet:lol:) and dropped us off at an icecream/lunch place so that he could tell me the sad news in person. I had only met her once, but I began to cry just knowing what she meant to him. That was the moment we both knew "for sure" how much we meant to each other and we exchanged "I Love You's" over a plate of barely eaten cheese-fries. The word "cheese-fries" has become synonymous with "I Love You." Seven years later we FINALLY got married. :001_smile: Edited March 27, 2010 by babysparkler Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sputterduck Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 Come on! We need to know why being in love was a bigger matter than it normally is! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 Uhhhhh. I don't remember. :blushing: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Margo out of lurking Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 The word "cheese-fries" has become synonymous with "I Love You." I have a good hs mom friend for whom "cheese fries" is synonymous with s*x. :lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 my dh told me at the same time he asked me to marry him. he said I love you , and want to spend the rest of my life with you , lets get married. we were married 3 months later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corraleno Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 Dh and I were co-workers and had secretly started dating. (It was a very gossipy office and we didn't want to be the topic du jour.) After we'd been dating for a couple of months, I was sitting at my desk idly fiddling with a thick rubber band when I had an idea: I stretched it out really far and wrapped it around a cardboard tube, then I wrote "I love you" on it in tiny letters with a finepoint pen. When it wasn't stretched out, it just looked like it had lots of tiny lines on it like a bar code. I gave it to DH and told him it was an extra special rubber band and not to lose it. A few days later he decided to use it for something, and when it was stretched out he saw "I love you" and came running into my office all choked up and whispered "Me too! You know... the stretchy thing... the rubber band. Me too!" :D We kept our relationship a complete secret for a year, then walked into the office one Monday wearing wedding bands and everyone flipped out. :lol: Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babysparkler Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 (edited) I have a good hs mom friend for whom "cheese fries" is synonymous with s*x. :lol::lol::lol: :lol::smilielol5: My innocent little mind would have *died* if I had heard that back then. Edited March 27, 2010 by babysparkler Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 I don't remember. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MeaganS Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 We had been dating for about 3 or 4 weeks (but known each other for much longer) and we were spending every moment together. I always worked Saturdays but not Mondays, and on this particular Monday my dh didn't have class because of a holiday. On Saturday night we went to a roller-rink, which we never did again because my husband is horrible on skates, and then went to a late movie. At 2 a.m., when he was about to drop me off, we decided that because it was such a long weekend we should do something fun, so we decided to drive to Las Vegas. So I went and got a few blankets and we drove. It was on the drive that we talked a lot and really started to move in the direction of getting married and it was somewhere in the middle of nowhere that he told me he loved me. We got to Las Vegas, drove down the strip, got bored about an hour after arriving, and drove back home. We got home Monday afternoon after sleeping at rest stops in the car. It was so fun and definitely a good memory. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Girls' Mom Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 We had been dating for 2 weeks. He was 18, and I was 15. We were just hanging out in my room, when he looked at me and said "I love you". I had the greatest response in the world "That's nice":001_huh::lol: Poor guy. I was just completely caught off guard. About a week later I finally told him that I loved him too. He still gives me a hard time about that 18 years later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dana Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 We had been dating for 2 weeks. He was 18, and I was 15. We were just hanging out in my room, when he looked at me and said "I love you". I had the greatest response in the world "That's nice":001_huh::lol: Poor guy. I was just completely caught off guard. About a week later I finally told him that I loved him too. He still gives me a hard time about that 18 years later. For us, it was about a month of dating. I was 16, he was 18. We lived in Monterey, CA, and were at the beach, so a perfectly romantic setting. He says, "I love you." I say, "You can't." (thinking we're too young, you don't know what you want yet, etc.) He pauses for a minute or two, then responds, "No, they're my feelings. You don't have to love me, but I love you. Deal with it." :lol: Here it is, over 20 years later, and we're still going strong. (I'm leaving out the proposal, because when he attempted the down-on-one-knee, he had to preface it by, "Will you shut up, I'm trying to propose to you. ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 Ours was after a wicked fight. We had just started going out and he did something awful. I told him, "Look. We can have two kinds of relationships. One-we can have fun. Two-we can make this work forever. I'm okay with either one, just tell me now which one you want." He said, "Well, I love you. So I'll go for the second one." We've been together 17 years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted March 27, 2010 Author Share Posted March 27, 2010 Ours was after a wicked fight. We had just started going out and he did something awful. I told him, "Look. We can have two kinds of relationships. One-we can have fun. Two-we can make this work forever. I'm okay with either one, just tell me now which one you want." He said, "Well, I love you. So I'll go for the second one." We've been together 17 years. Sometimes you just have to set the ground rules first. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tressa Posted March 27, 2010 Share Posted March 27, 2010 We were both 20 and had been dating a couple of weeks. I was dropping him off at his ship late one night when he looked at me and said, "I love you." I didn't know what to say, so I said, "Thank you." :D He still teases me about that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted March 27, 2010 Author Share Posted March 27, 2010 Come on! We need to know why being in love was a bigger matter than it normally is! Well, I have only shared this once or twice but my hubby used to be my BIL and my ex is now my BIL. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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